Grandparents “Names”… do we get a choice?

[JTyler25]

Okay relatively lighthearted. I’m just wondering if anyone else has been in this situation.

My husband and I are expecting our first baby. Both sets of parents are very excited- this will be the first grandchild on both sides.

My parents have said they’d love to be called Granny and Grandad.

We we’re with my husbands parents earlier and it came up, and his mum said they want to be known as Nana and Grumpy.

Grumpy? I…hate that 🤣🙈

So not Grandad, or Gramps, or Pops… Grumpy. GRUMPY.

So our child (in a few years of course- not expecting a speaking baby!) will literally be saying “Hi Grumpy, can we go play?” And “Grumpy can I have a snack?”

And are we meant to say “right come on, we’re going to Nana and Grumpys!”

Argh I just really hate it. Why can’t he just be Grandad?

But like… do we get a say in this? Could my husband have a word and say no? Or is it up to them what they want to be referred as?

YABU- stop being so precious and let them be called what they want by their grandchild

YANBU- no it’s weird

Chances are nobody will have a say! My Mum and Dad would have been nanny and grandad. My son has always called my dad Da (dar). No idea why but obviously my daughter followed suit and now we all call him Da.

My dad wanted to be grumpy, my mum a random nickname and my mil gran. Mil was already gran to 5 other grandchildren but first grandchild my side.

My daughter decided grandad, nanny and grandma, so it all went out the window. It may change.

If you were ever so toxic around my child you would never see them again, grandparent or not.

My dad was Grumps to my children...he didn't choose it though, it just sort of morphed from Gramps, then Grampy Grumps, to just Grumps. He was Grumps for the best part of 30 years 🥰

my dad is GG, which stands for grumpy grandad, it’s even his email address and I think it’s lovely .

MiL who is NOT posh, but wants to be, asked to be called Grandmother. I think she thought she was living in Downton Abbey.

We referred to her as Granny and she never said a word.

Nod. Smile. Refer to them as whatever.

I have a heap of siblings.

My mother gets granny, granny P, nana and nanny depending on which grandchild/family is addressing her.

She answers to them all and it's not confusing.

My MIL said she was too young to be called granny so she asked to be called Nanny. My kids are in their 20s and I have a little laugh to see my bearded big son talking about his nanny 🥰

When we have a baby we are going to call DH’s dad Grumpy…because he is! Granny and Grumpy 🤷🏻‍♀️

This made me laugh.

My FIL is a Grumpy (not by choice). I've always heard my nieces and nephews calling him that and never thought it was weird. My toddler will be joining in soon.

My daughter couldn't pronounce grandad when little and came out gandad which for some reason ended up gandalf and that just stuck so now it's nanny and gandalf

I refused to let my children call my MIL Mama as it's too similar to what they call me - mamma (I'm Swedish). The compromise is "Mama first name". So I think we should sometimes have a say?! But in your case, I think just leave it be and wait and see what your child decides to call him.

I much prefer the swedish way where you're mormor/farmor/morfar/farfar (mor meaning mum, far meaning dad so mum's mum, dad's mum etc) and that's it.

OMG my dad is grumpy and even the teachers at my children’s school ask if ‘grumpy is doing the pick up today’. It started as a joke when the kids were very small, with my DM calling him grumpy all of the time for being a grumpy so and so, and it stuck as the kids started using it too. My ILs, kid’s friends and their parents, the school patrol lady, swimming teachers all know him as grumpy. I even have him as grumpy in my phone now!

I'm confused. You would cut out grandparents for teaching your child to say please?

Anyway, I think Grumpy is quite a sweet name!

She would cut grandparents out if they criticised her parenting to her child.

My dad is called Grumpy. Not actually, but by my daughter. He suits it too 😂

Ah I see. That's quite par for the course where I grew up, grandparents pretty much trump parents!

Incorrect.

Doesn't mummy teach you to say please?

^ This is not teaching a child to say please. This is a toxic passive aggressive dig, and I wouldn’t allow any unhealthy emotional toxicity around me or my children.

The grandparents decide what they want to be called. (Unless they want to be something that implies they are the c patent, e.g. "mama").

My children have my parents - Granny and Grandad, and my dh's parents - Granny and Grumps. Not my decision and it doesn't affect me - it's what their older cousin already called them before our children were born.

I come from an area where everyone is a Nana and Grandad, but my mum wanted Granny, so we moved away from family tradition. Again, her choice. My aunty is GaaGaa to her grandchildren, and a friend's grandmother was called Pat, so they called her Granpat.

I agree, that’s a hill i would die on. I will never ever on this earth be a Nan or Nanny. My MIL was a Nana (never nan) I am actually not sure how that came about so at an absolute push i might live with that but my preference would be Grandma as that’s the norm for all my grandmothers and my mum who were all grandmas

My Dad chose Grumpy too! I actually love it (not least because it suits him quite well!). The kids frequently shorten it to “Grumps” which is I think pretty endearing. And as a plus, you have an endless supply of Father’s Day gifts in seven dwarfs merchandise 😂

Call him Grampy. If they correct you just say you keep forgetting.

My grandad was Grumpy! By name and by nature. Suited him down to a tea and we loved the novelty of calling him grumpy when we were kids!

I called one of my grannies Granny Chips. She tried and tried to get me to call her Nanny, like all the cousins did, and my dad called her Nanny, but as soon as I was old enough to talk she was Granny Chips and that's what she stayed, because the only time I was allowed chips was when we visited her. The grandparents can insist all they want, but kids will choose what they want to use.

I had a Grumpy - and he absolutely wasn’t. He was known as Grumps to my kids. He was wonderful, and I miss him every day. His name just evolved - we didn’t plan it.
See what happens when your little one arrives. His name may end up as something completely different