To ask if you had a gender preference?

[recordingthedetails]

Under the cloak of anonymity. (And I know it’s sex not gender but I’m not writing sex preferences.)

I’ll be honest and admit I really didn't want all boys. I am not sure why - I've never been a hugely girly girl but I suppose I am in some respects and I also wanted a relationship with a daughter as I lost my own mum young.

I ended up with a boy first, which I'll admit I was a bit worried about. It took me a while to get used to the idea to be honest, partly because everyone I knew who had a baby around the same time had a girl, and I did feel a bit jealous and as if I was on the outside of an exclusive girl club. I went on to have another child who was a girl. Still feel a bit as if I’m an outlier with the original girl gang though.

So YABU - no preference and YANBU had a preference.

I had fertility issues and ivf twins. I wanted at least 1 girl but preferably one of each. Dh didn't care but wanted two the same.

We got 2 girls.

We very briefly contemplated having another try but I overwhelmingly wanted a boy and that wasn't a reason to have another baby.

I didn’t have a preference as such but I felt strongly that I’d have a boy, even before I got pregnant, and felt like I knew he was a boy before I got the ‘you’ve got a son!’ moment. He’s perfect. This time (currently 33weeks) I don’t have a strong feeling either way but I certainly don’t have a preference either. Both times took a long time to conceive and frankly I just feel so lucky to have any babies at all!

I so, so wanted a girl with my first. It was in the days when they wouldn't tell you at the scan, but I had an idea it would be a boy. He was, and he was adorable, but I was still disappointed.
I had a girl the second time around. I think if I'd had a daughter as my first baby I would have stopped there.

I didn't really have a preference, though I planned to have two and quite liked the idea of one of each (which is what I got).

I had a gender preference for a girl before we found out. I've always got along better with women, and I have a poor relationship with my mother so I missed a lot of "mother daughter milestones" and wanted to experience them from the other side at least.

Our finding out the gender coincided with the Sarah Everard murder case dominating the press, so that made it pretty easy to be glad I was having a boy. And since he was born, I've never felt a second of gender disappointment. I'm sad I won't be "mother of the bride" or maternal grandma, but I might never have been those things either way.

We had fertility issues and treatment - I had a preference and felt awful for having it as I knew I should just be grateful to be pregnant after never thinking it would happen.

But I also knew that was very likely to be my only pregnancy, and hopefully child, and I had always imagined myself with a daughter. Not in a wanting a little princess to dress up in pink kind of way, if anything I very much imagined a ‘tomboy’ - just somehow that’s what I pictured when I pictured having a child.

It’s one of the reasons we didn’t find out the sex during pregnancy, I didn’t want to risk feeling disappointed but I knew that once the baby was here I wouldn’t care.

I actually went the other way and convinced myself we were having a boy, and I would have been happy I know I would, but I was delighted that we did have a daughter. Who is nothing like I pictured of course, but amazing. As would a son have been - I guess now I do feel a bit sad that I won’t know what that’s like, and more sad overall that we won’t have another child when I’d have wanted that if I could pick, but ultimately still feel like we got very very lucky.

No. Just wanted healthy babies.

Didn't have a preference first time round and had a boy

Second time round I really wanted another boy for ds to have a little brother! And we did 🥰 wouldn't have been disappointed with a girl at all, a boy just would have been my first choice.

Although I wouldn't have been upset either way (had lost first pregnancy), I secretly harboured a desire for a girl. I ended up having two DDs, so was very pleased.