To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

[Whatkatyforgottodo]

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

Yourfootisinmysirachamayo · Today 17:18

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 17:16
BeansOnRoast · Today 17:03
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Very odd behaviour to be staring at other people's bodies so much

Pretty bloody hard to miss them when you’re 4 years old and your face is at arse height!
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Four year olds aren't naturally bothered about seeing arses. It's only an issue if you make it one.

No-one has ever made an issue of it in our family but I can pretty much guarantee that our 4 year old grandchild would trill very loudly, “I can see their butt”

Long time ago now but both of our kids had their “bumface” and “poo-poo” head phases. 🤣

The thought of washing around grimy arseholes and genitalia does put me off.

BOAK.

You should've let him carry on, it might've helped her realise it wasn't the appropriate place to have her arse cheeks out on display 🤣

I didn't realise anyone actually wore these outside of Love Island 🤣

Personally, I'm not looking at other people's arses, much less judging them for wearing a swimming costume.

Neither are most 'grannies' - even if they tend to count themselves as people, largely - we're more concerned about aggressive swimmers charging through us as though we're not there, feral children landing on our heads, shitting or puking in the pool or, most likely of all, having other people judging us for not having perfect bodies.

Apart from anything else it's embarrassing. Little boys won't exactly hide their amusement at seeing them.

Why? It's not as though you're going to catch anything, is it?

Wouldn't bother me haha. I don't mind being the butt of a four year olds jokes 😂

Appropriateness aside, it’s rarely a flattering look but I assume most thong wearers aren’t bothered what I think.

Is topless sunbathing now frowned upon? I didn't realise that. I got my tits out all around the world before having kids. I'm surprised really to hear this.

Are any swimsuits really that flattering though?

You seem to not realise that the only part of a bum that is in any way 'dirty' is the arsehole and things cover arseholes. Buttocks are not dirty.

I look at thongs and all I can think is "thrush" 😆

We were in tenerife last year at the water park, walking between rides and we walked behind 2 girls and 2 guys aged probably low to mid 20s.

The girls swimwear showed so much arse and the men just kept slapping their arses as we walked behind them.

My son piped up that their bums resembled Homer Simpson when his stomach was slapped and didn't stop wobbling.

I mean, the jiggle was rather hilarious and the men seemed to want to keep slapping these buttocks so the jiggle never stopped.

DH and I were both clutching our pearls, but my DD's (15 & 12) and son (13) thought it was the funniest and most ridiculous thing they had ever seen. 🤣

I’ve seen nice ones that have suited the wearer before now.

I’ve just been looking for a swim dress though, so possible I know feck all about fashion.

I don't like them but I don't think they are any worse in a pool than on a beach.

The fundamental issue I have with this type of swimwear is that women haven't been begging for decades for swimsuits that 'free their arses". Like thong pants, ever decreasing gussets and very high cut knickers, they've been produced primarily with the male gaze in mind. Make no mistake, women's comfort has never been the driver for flashing your arse cheeks at the pool.

And as for the "Chill out Grandma, it's just a body parts!" Brigade - yeah, so are flaps and bollocks but I don't want to see them in my local pool either.

I think one pieces are somewhat less unflattering on me shall we say 😅

I agree with you. Not suitable for a family pool. Saw lots on holiday. Don' treally like them. They don't suit everyone either! (eg the slim but middle aged and hence saggy of arse - thongs are not their friends)

However if I mentioned this to my late teen dd she would accuse me of shut shaming..

My teen girls like the ones that are swimsuits with shorts, there is probably a name for them.

Honestly I wish men would wear swim tops as well. It’s all just too much flesh.

It's yuk and the amount of hair removal needed to achieve the look is quite revolting.

I’m going to have to google as I just can’t imagine what that must look like poolside 🤣

I just think they look uncomfortable. I hate having to pull pants/pyjamas out of my arse crack, why would you want that feeling all day? I am old and of the time when small pert bums were the ideal - thongs make every arse look enormous IMO

You seem to have spent an awful lot of time studying this woman in her various poses. Perhaps like we tell men, you should just not look.
Go play with your kids.

I wish the rules mandated swimming caps, don't care re the shape of the swimsuits :).