To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

[Whatkatyforgottodo]

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

Quite, if there's nothing remotely sexual about walking around with your arse hanging out, should we let our children wear them?

Genuine question - if you are wearing a dress/skirt/trousers then do you not have material touching your butt cheeks?

Yeah, the disingenuous thing about “OH it’s just so much more Comfortable!” is a bit silly. We all know perfectly well that these are sold to young women precisely because they are sexualising and boundary-pushing, and for men to look at young women’s bums. Or we’d be finding them in the swimwear ranges for the older lady at M&S and on QVC.

When they’re spotted on everyone’s mum and gran at pool Zumba and aquarobics, then we might believe that it’s just a perfectly normal style for comfort, just a body part like all the others, etc. etc.

Slight diversion but I just don't see men judging each other's choices anywhere near as much as women judge each other's choices.

Over 350 judgy comments and counting.

I mean I know what you mean but if a man wore a thong at the beach other men absolutely would judge him and take the piss.

You do realise comfort is a personal preference? Not a universal thing we all must agree on?

For a second then buy him a beer and move on.

Someone needs to start a thread on Reddit pretending to be a man wanting to wear a thong swimming. I bet you'd find the majority
of comments would no support the plan.

🤣🤣🤣 Thought the photo would post. It looks hilarious 😂

Could that be perhaps that this is is a mainly female forum discussing mainly female issues

Why not put a mask over the bum?

Because they are choices. Largely directed rated by fashion. Funny that the G string bikinis of the 80's haven't been seen anywhere for years, despite all the ' it's so much more comfortable having a string up your crack" brigade.
Its a bad look not because there is anything wrong with tits or arses but because it's so performative. As someone said why are we not putting kids in these types of swimwear?

Even though it's more comfortable and a perfectly normal way to express your physical self in a completely non-sexual way according to so many on here, you can't buy thong underwear or swimwear for children. Poor kids suffering with full bum coverage 😞

If they're so ok... why don't they sell children's thongs, young girls, boys and men's thongs. Maybe they'll start doing shorts with buttcheeeks cut out??
Think we may have stumbled on a new fashion here!

Maybe that’s because it’s women who get sexually objectified; and most women don’t like going to a public space for swimming, and then being confronted by porn culture outfits that are all about women displaying their arses for men and how that’s increasingly normalised everywhere?

Because the women who wear them aren’t wearing them for other women, are they? And the comments are largely about how porn outfits aren’t a good thing for women and children generally.

And, hell yes, I’m judgy about porn culture. It’s all about getting women to provide what men want, and normalising the exploitation and sexualisation of women’s bodies as pretend “empowerment”.

Love this 🤣

Oh no! Now I've got a picture in my head of a man's hairy arse in a thong!

Not really no.
Women judge other women far, far, far more than men judge other men.

Literally if older women suddenly started wearing them there would be calls everywhere to ban them to spare the eyes and blushes of the youth.

I feel like buying some for my saggy, dimply and spotty size 16 middle aged arse, and swanning off down David Lloyd to see what the people think - I bet there would be plenty of eye-rolling and gasping about how indecent it was 👍

I wear thong underwear and have done for 30 years because I genuinely find them more comfortable under clothes and don’t have to worry about VPL.

However I wouldn’t dream of wearing thong swimwear in public. Nobody needs to see that much of my arse in a public environment. For me the comfort argument goes out of the window if it’s the only item of clothing you are using to cover (or not!) your bare bum cheeks.

Some truth in that.
But it isn't just choices that could have been influenced by porn.

So many women judge other women for choices around being a SAHM, childcare going back to work.

Across the board women just judge each other more than men.

In my experience men and women are equally judgmental, albeit about different things, the main difference being there are more pejorative terms for women who do it - funny that

You really need to deal with other people's choices and to look away from things you don't like.

So presumably this is the case for flashers in the park too? He's just choosing to wear (or not wear) what he feels comfy in and he believes he looks good in - and if any woman objects when she can clearly see intimate/usually private parts of his body, she needs to learn to look away and mind her own business?

I work in a heavily male-dominated environment, and men do nothing but judge each other. They just don’t discuss it - they formalise it as hierarchy, and all the men know who are the alpha ones and who aren’t, and what their status in the pecking order is. That’s how men work. And they all judge women — all the time, consciously and unconsciously.

If you think men don’t judge each other, I have a bridge to sell you. Just take a look at what Trumpites say about other men (and women) they don’t like. Or football fans, or terrorists, or religious sects, or boys at school in the playground bullying smaller boys, or any male-dominated profession.

Yup Tis true