To think bums should be covered in a public pool?

[Whatkatyforgottodo]

I may be being unreasonable and I’m just old and out of touch… took my kids swimming today at our local public pool and there was a lady wearing one of those swimming costumes that is basically a thong at the back? I saw lots of them in the beach during the summer which I kind of understand as it helps you get a very high cut tan/eliminates tan lines but I felt a bit weird seeing one in an indoor pool? Not sure where boundaries lie…? Happy to be told IABU but wondered what others think?

You really need to deal with other people's choices and to look away from things you don't like

I disagree with this premise generally. We don’t just have to deal with other people’s choices if they are harmful. Specifically to the subject of the thread, it has now become fashionable to display body parts on the beach that only recently would not have been seen by anyone except an intimate partner or medical practitioner. I can look away, but I’m not prepared to ignore the impact that normalising this has on young girls.

Sure they are!

What on earth has wearing a thong got to do with hygiene!?

Maybe if you had to endure this you would feel the same! It’s just you can’t see as it is your arse - I could see pubic bum hair, the actual inside of her arse, spots and a scab and it was so GRAPHIC.

We had to get up and move. As did some other people, It is too much. I felt violated.

To everyone who is disgusted at thongs on the beach / by the pool…

What are your thoughts on men with bigger than a B cup breasts walking around with their breasts & nipples exposed? Like, zero bra or top covering them.
Particularly when their breasts are hairy.

😂😂😂

Don’t think I’d have bothered shushing him!

What do you mean “the actual inside of her arse”? And are spots, and hair, and scabs ok on other skin areas? So the objection is that it is bottom skin?

As I said, I do have thong/brazilian underwear and swimwear and I would chose when to wear that with some consideration if other people, thinking about where I will be and what I’ll be doing. But as I asked you before, why do you have so much judgement around other people’s bodies? Where does that come from?

I don’t want to see any arses on display in a hotel pool with my kid and small nephews and nieces - or a tacky cleavage-exposing string bikini either. Fine on a beach somewhere hot or in an adults’ resort or hotel. Not fine in a family area or pool. Stayed in a hotel recently with extended family and there was a teenage couple all over each other snogging and petting in the pool at family swim time. He was in baggy Bermudas, fondling away, and she had almost every body part on display and kept hoicking bits of it all up as every bit was falling off her body! Not a family-friendly sight.

@PinkTonic I disagree that seeing someone's skin is harmful, even if there are spots, scabs and hair on it.

I also disagree that it has become fashionable for people to wear skimpy bikinis - bikinis have been popular for quite a long time and have changed shape many times over the years.

We were in St Lucia last year. 2 young woman at our hotel had thong bikinis on every day. They had perfectly, peachy arses that they clearly worked on to make them really big, as is the fashion. I just felt it was a bit weird seeing their entire arses all the time. It’s not a good look, even on the young and nubile. 🤷‍♀️

I don’t see the problem, ‘normal’ swimsuits can reveal a lot of bumcheek too! The ammount of- I assume- women using pretty misogynistic language to insult other women for wearing clothes they don’t like is much grosser than seeing a bit of bum imo

You saw the inside of her arse? Did you have a speculum?

I’m not old nor out of touch and I agree.
Mind you, I heavily judge people who go to the shops in their PJs/big fluffy dressing gowns too

Right, I’m all for body positivity, but those thong swimsuits and bikinis are only designed to look “sexy” in a porny way, basically. We all know they aren’t comfortable or hygienic or anything girls would wear for practical reasons, if not for the pressure to look sexy/porny. So they basically are all about normalising a porn-inspired look for young women. Fashion swimwear always has been, and is now really incontrovertibly so. And I don’t like that being normalised either in general for young women, or especially not for young kids and my DD in particular.

I would judge a man for wearing a thong too…

Because of the way it looks. It’s so unsightly. I consider someone’s actual arse crack to be no different to a vagina or penis on full display. It’s private and deeply personal. You might be into full nudity etc and not care about unwanted views of crusty arse cracks. It’s really disgusting for most people.

There are some things I just don’t want to see other humans do. Defecating, having sex, urinating. lying there with their whole arse on display warts and all. It’s called public decency and thongs cross the line into that territory for me.

What exactly is harmful in normalising wearing what you want to young girls?

I think young girls should see a wide range of different clothing choices and choose for themselves.

Do you think they come to any harm seeing religious dress that covers a woman's face, head or body or do you see that as a positive message to give them? I personally don't like seeing this but acknowledge it's not my choice to make.

Naked, skimpy, risque, fashion forward, conservative, modest, very modest, full cover - it is all a woman's choice to make for herself.

It's seems the thread has moved on to why it's not acceptable to dislike thong swimsuits now... But fwiw, I saw my first one ever at Splash Landings (Alton Towers waterpark) a couple of years ago.

Youngish woman and her boyfriend strolled into the kids area and she had a thong swimsuit on. Didn't think it was necessary 🤷🏻‍♀️

I haven’t mentioned spots, scabs and hair. I haven’t said seeing skin is harmful. I wear bikinis on holiday. I am not criticising less than ‘perfect’ bodies

It is definitely the case that bikinis which display the buttocks, and often the groin and two thirds of the mons pubis are a relatively recent innovation. I believe this is a harmful example to young girls. I also don’t find it believable that comfort is a factor in the choice to wear them and you should know that if you do wear them, if you bend over or don’t keep your legs together when changing position, the general public may see more than is reasonable to share with total strangers.

It hasn't moved on to why it's not acceptable to dislike anything.

It has stuck with the point that it is not acceptable to state that someone's personal clothing choices are disgusting, grim, pornified, seeking attention.

These are negative personal judgments. Keep them in your own head.

What exactly is harmful in normalising wearing what you want to young girls?

@user1471538275
They don’t wear what they want though…they’re pressurised into wearing what’s fashionable. They may not even be aware of the pressure, but it’s not free choice at all.

I just don't understand why anyone wants to do serious swimming in shorts going halfway down to their knees.

@PinkTonic You state : "I disagree with this premise generally. We don’t just have to deal with other people’s choices if they are harmful."

That's what you said - I replied that seeing skin is not harmful.

I’m not old but I agree they’re not appropriate. High cut swimming costumes are designed for sun lounging, not actual swimming, and it just seems like a recipe for a pool full of people getting an unwanted eyeful at 4.30pm on a Tuesday.

So for all those thinking thong bikinis are normal, it’s just a bum, more comfortable etc - would you be happy if your 10yr old DD decided she wanted to wear one?