WWYD: DD drunk seperated from friends in city centre

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But back with them now. They have been drinking since 11am. I spoke with one of her friends and they said she went to the toilet but went the wrong way and left the bar. I had called her at that time to check in and she told me she was going back to them. She shared her location with me and I saw she got back to the bar her friends were in. I called a but later when I saw she was walking again and a slightly more sober friend came on to tell me she was fine and they had rang her when she went the wrong way then met her and brought her back.

She is 21 but I'm very nervous now that she is that much of a state she went the wrong way in a city she hasn't been drinking in before and is hotelling in. I live 1hr20 mins away and am on the verge of getting a hotel and staying on the city for the night incase it happens again when her friends are too drunk to react.

WWYD?

She would be getting a serious talking too.. that if she was that hammered she is losing her friends and not knowing her whereabouts then maybe she shouldn't drink.
If frighten her into realising that there are plenty of weirdos just watching for a girl who is vulnerable.
They need to go to the toilet in pairs.
Never leave each other this only happens because they have drank far too much.
Tell her to start managing her drinking better enjoy herself be street smart and have a limit end of.

Do NOT give an adult a fucking talking to about their drinking and try and "scare them" into being careful
If, by 21, they haven't been taught/made aware of how to keep safe then you've failed

You need to back off if she's 21

You will drive yourself mad

She went the wrong way coming back from the toilet.
The only reason mum knows about it is because she was ringing up to check in on her on her night out.
"Serious talking to" and "telling her to manage her drinking better" - way to make sure she just rolls her eyes and puts her phone on mute/ignores her from then on when out!

When will you stop tracking her?

Seriously, when she's 25? 30?

Getting shitfaced and losing your friends is normal

Go to the toilet in pairs? How paranoid are you exactly?

If you have a daughter I assume you have told her never to have a boyfriend because statistically she is at more risk with an intimate partner

End of? You can't tell an adult that.

If you are going to give your adult children a serious talking to' for going the wrong way when they come out of a toilet then I don't think you are going to have much of a relationship with them.

Friends “minding” would be an unusual reaction. They aren’t the ones being checked up on. They may have been surprised (or this may not be the first time if OP has their numbers). But most people I know would not show surprise or annoyance or the like to a friend’s mother. They would reassure the mother, roll their eyes and then sympathise with their friend.

I think it's ironic trying to tell someone to be street smart yet at the same time telling her to go the toilet with a friend and giving her a serious talking to as a grown adult. The OPs daughter got lost coming out the toilet, she wasn't wandering around Beirut at night time.

Do people really do this with adult children? Seriously talking to over a completely minor incident? If my mum had tried any of that me at 21, I'd have laughed in her face. I can quite imagining it the opposite impact of what was intended.

She's an adult, it's entirely up to her how much she drinks and when, OP has no business giving her a serious talking to as she is beyond the age of being disciplined by a parent.

There is no need to frighten her into changing her behaviour because, again, she is an adult. She is a woman and not a "girl".

She also doesn't need to buddy-up to go to the toilet.

Looking forward to seeing some of these posters in a few years time on threads with titles like "why has my adult DC gone NC with me?"

I'd be spying on her to make sure she's OK.

What do you mean, spying?

My parents never asked how I got home when I lived with them as a teenager.
They hardly were asking when I was living in another country.

Watching from a distance in a very non stand out outfit.

Is this a joke?

😂 good one, you nearly had me for a minute there.

Hey OP ..
Did you stay in a hotel nearby ?for the record , i’d have done exactly that …
She’s After getting herself into a condition ( which by the way can happen to anyone ) you’re worried & feel she may need you & you’re there if she does , so well done you for being a good mom x
Also, to all the PPS who post asshole comments, giving out to you when you’re feeling like crap & worrying about your daughter !!!!!
When someone post’s their worries on this and asks for advice ..
BE NICE !!!!!

A condition?

Yeah , where she is in a bad condition cause she was drunk
She’s young still , only 21 , her mom is just worried obviously and is afraid something will happen her cause as it was she is taking wrong turns & losing her friends

She briefly lost her friends as she went the wrong way. Then she found them again. That’s it. It doesn’t warrant her mum getting a hotel nearby. She’s 21. Not that young. She’s been an adult 3 years already

Yeah , I know what you are saying , but I suppose OP was worried cause it was still early & if this is what happened already , what way would she be by the end of the night & friends at this stage equally as drunk ..
It is a worry … end of day you’re just afraid something awful could happen to them ….
We can’t help our feelings & wanting to protect our children no matter what age they are …

I don’t think her or your daughter would thank you for that at 21! Her friends would probably never invite her out again knowing that mummy will turn up to take her home or stay close by “just in case”. A few years ago there would have been no phone call or tracking. Adults (which is what she is) went out and got on with it. It’s irrational to be so overprotective. Not everything ends in disaster and you can’t be there 24/7.

No I would not do that. She's 21 and with friends. They've confirmed it. I probably wouldn't keep "checking in" on my 21 year old either.If you were doing that to me at 21 I'd have stopped answering my phone and turned off the tracker!

Leave her alone and turn the tracker off! It's obviously making you anxious.

Honestly some of you need to have a word with yourselves. I’d die of embarrassment if my mum was so heavily involved in a night out confusion and was calling friends. She’s 21 FFS.

and she probably didn’t go the wrong way she was probably going to meet a boy, as is her right.