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Killer claims to be ill

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Galatine · 23/01/2025 12:09

According to the BBC Axel Rudakubana is shouting in court that he is ill.
AIBU to say I couldn’t give a shit!

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PrincessScarlett · 23/01/2025 13:54

Guttedandblue · 23/01/2025 13:45

It’s easy to say that now that he has committed the crime but before that he was just one in a large number of disturbed teenagers in a system without the capacity to treat them all.
It makes me angry that people are looking to blame the people who do very stressful jobs for everyone’s benefit.

I totally get what you are saying. It's a very difficult situation.

A family member worked as a social worker until very recently but quit due to the massive workloads and very upsetting cases every single day.

A friend of mine struggles terribly with her eldest who can be very violent and has spent years begging for help from social services to no avail as they prioritise the extreme cases meaning many violent and troubled kids go unchecked.

I honestly don't know what the answer is. There isn't an endless pot of money but if my child was killed and there had been all these referrals and interventions that appear to not have had any impact whatsoever I would want to know why.

DancingFerret · 23/01/2025 13:55

He's not mentally ill; just evil and violent in much the same way as ISIS killers (I think he researched ISIS).

Hopefully, the judge will sent him to one of the prisons for violent offenders and the guards there will "forget" to lock his cell door. An early death is too good for him, though - I want him to live a long life incapacitated and in constant pain, in much the same way as the families of his innocent victims have to cope with the mental agony of his diabolical actions.

Bbq1 · 23/01/2025 13:55

wizzywig · 23/01/2025 13:01

@BlazenWeights I think his dad stopped him from doing a killing the week earlier. I can't remember if they had asked for help. 3 referrals and assessments under Prevent. It's a matter of time before it happens again
Those poor parents and those innocent children . My heart goes out to them.

I feel for his parents too. Imagine living knowing that your child had done such a henious thing. It's unfair for ppl to blame the parents. They were probably at their wits end. There were the multiple Prevent referrals, numerous visits from school and other agencies.They had obviously sought help and co operated. What were they supposed to do with an extremely violent, mentally unhinged 17 year old? Obviously, I feel for the innocent little children who were murdered, the injured and their families more. I only live a few minutes away from Southport, it's so, so shocking when something so evil happens on your doorstep.

givemushypeasachance · 23/01/2025 13:56

On the Prevent referrals point - the reason given, so far, for why Prevent didn't take any action against him is because there was no evidence he had an ideology. For one of the referrals wasn't it based around him looking at media articles on school shootings, and seeming to be fascinated by violence?

Prevent doesn't exist to try to stop violent crimes. You don't make Prevent referrals because someone talks about shooting or stabbing people 'generically', or because they look to be potentially involved in gang violence or county lines drug running or engage in domestic violence, 98% of crimes or antisocial behaviour aren't of interest to Prevent. The sole focus of Prevent is terrorism and radicalisation. You've got to have an identifiable cause and ideology, otherwise it is 'just' violence. If you can't identify what his cause was, and he makes no claim about having one, how can people claim it was an attack on girls/children/Taylor Swift fans so clearly it was XYZ political motivation.

The Dunablane shootings of children - one of the worst cases of mass murder in UK history, but it wasn't terrorism. Unless you want to re-define what terrorism is, why not keep it as 'just' a truly horrible violent crime.

themadhat · 23/01/2025 13:56

We were told it wasn't terrorist related when it clearly was!!

IdPreferProsecco · 23/01/2025 13:56

@PrincessScarlett "Agree with this. There were a lot of people involved in this young man's life that knew he was a ticking time bomb. 3 referrals to Prevent! Seriously, I could understand if he had one referral and they deemed him not to be a risk but 3 bloody times. Plus the amount of times police were called out.

It's so sickening that those 3 poor girls didn't have to die if there was proper funding and staff in place to deal with such dangerous individuals."

Can't you see the hypocrisy in your own statement? You acknowledge that those professions are understaffed and underfunded, but you still think individual workers should be held accountable? It's a systemic issue - all vilifying individuals does is leader to poorer services because good people are too scared to enter these careers.

ChristmasPudd1990 · 23/01/2025 13:57

Bbq1 · 23/01/2025 13:55

I feel for his parents too. Imagine living knowing that your child had done such a henious thing. It's unfair for ppl to blame the parents. They were probably at their wits end. There were the multiple Prevent referrals, numerous visits from school and other agencies.They had obviously sought help and co operated. What were they supposed to do with an extremely violent, mentally unhinged 17 year old? Obviously, I feel for the innocent little children who were murdered, the injured and their families more. I only live a few minutes away from Southport, it's so, so shocking when something so evil happens on your doorstep.

I'll save my sympathy with the parents for now. Who knows if the way he was brought up made him do what he did?

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 23/01/2025 13:57

Mrsdyna · 23/01/2025 13:25

I hope justice is served by his fellow prisoners.

People always say that at times like this, and whilst I wouldn’t mind at all if that were the case, is it actually true and does it actually happen? I mean, they’re all criminals, some worse than others obviously, but I imagine he won’t be locked up with Jeff who does a little bit of dodgy dealing down the Roman. He’ll be kept away?

Naunet · 23/01/2025 13:57

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 23/01/2025 13:49

I think you misunderstood what I meant. I was replying to the poster that said mentally ill women never attack others it’s just men. I was saying that the vast majority of mentally ill people don’t attack others, and when they do it’s about equal between men and women. As in mental illness as a factor that causes violence is about equal between men and women. It increases the likelihood of violence by around 2% in both sexes.

But 2% increase on men who do 90% of violence is not the same as 2% increase on women who do 10% of violence…understand?

We have to untangle whether the cause of any violence is due to being mentally ill vs other factors including your sex.

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No I understand, that's what I'm asking for evidence, because in my experience, mentally ill men are far more likely to be violent than mental ill women are. You said: When they do attack others, it’s about equal between men and women which doesn't seem to be true. As in every other area, male violence way, way out numbers female violence.

EasternStandard · 23/01/2025 13:58

themadhat · 23/01/2025 13:56

We were told it wasn't terrorist related when it clearly was!!

That too. So many posters saying it couldn't be

Naunet · 23/01/2025 13:58

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 23/01/2025 13:49

I think you misunderstood what I meant. I was replying to the poster that said mentally ill women never attack others it’s just men. I was saying that the vast majority of mentally ill people don’t attack others, and when they do it’s about equal between men and women. As in mental illness as a factor that causes violence is about equal between men and women. It increases the likelihood of violence by around 2% in both sexes.

But 2% increase on men who do 90% of violence is not the same as 2% increase on women who do 10% of violence…understand?

We have to untangle whether the cause of any violence is due to being mentally ill vs other factors including your sex.

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Double post

HashtagShitShop · 23/01/2025 13:58

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 23/01/2025 13:24

His parents called the police to their home five times, so hardly sounds like they didn’t try. What the fuck happened with the police on those occasions, who knows. Which is why there needs to be an inquiry because as the trial isn’t going ahead, we won’t find out.
Sounds like there was plenty of official agencies involved and yet he was still free to commit this heinous crime.

His parents didn't call the police five times. Social services requested police attendance each time they attended the house to visit with Axel as they didn't feel safe being near him.

If adults are requesting police support to be near your child should you really be leaving them to have free roam? But when they are not under an official section or similar how can you stop them?

Like others I suspect evil not mad. His behaviour his words, his actions previously.... Just an evil spiteful little boy out to cause as much harm and grieving to as many people as possible. For that act alone he should have a full life tariff with no chance of parole even if he was just over a week off his 18th birthday.

Cowardice is not illness. He should be gagged to prevent his complaints and forced to listen to every word from those poor girls family and the judges and prosecution barristers.

Guttedandblue · 23/01/2025 13:58

PrincessScarlett · 23/01/2025 13:54

I totally get what you are saying. It's a very difficult situation.

A family member worked as a social worker until very recently but quit due to the massive workloads and very upsetting cases every single day.

A friend of mine struggles terribly with her eldest who can be very violent and has spent years begging for help from social services to no avail as they prioritise the extreme cases meaning many violent and troubled kids go unchecked.

I honestly don't know what the answer is. There isn't an endless pot of money but if my child was killed and there had been all these referrals and interventions that appear to not have had any impact whatsoever I would want to know why.

Yes, I think it’s justified to blame the system here but not the individuals who have to work within that flawed system.
Personally, I think we need to change our mindset as a country. If we want good public services then we need to be prepared to pay much higher taxes. After all, there’s no point having more money in your pocket if you can’t get medical treatment when you need it and when society is getting more and more lawless due to police cuts.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 23/01/2025 13:58

themadhat · 23/01/2025 13:56

We were told it wasn't terrorist related when it clearly was!!

It’s not terrorist related as we understand terrorism, unless they decide that misogyny is an ideology and VAWG are therefore terror attacks.

Mrsdyna · 23/01/2025 13:59

TheCrenchinglyMcQuaffenBrothers · 23/01/2025 13:57

People always say that at times like this, and whilst I wouldn’t mind at all if that were the case, is it actually true and does it actually happen? I mean, they’re all criminals, some worse than others obviously, but I imagine he won’t be locked up with Jeff who does a little bit of dodgy dealing down the Roman. He’ll be kept away?

Yes it's true and it does happen!
So 🤞 🤞

TokyoSushi · 23/01/2025 14:00

I don't know whether he's unwell or not, but there's clearly something very wrong in his mind that he seemingly chose to do this.

Those poor, poor girls, I hope he gets the absolute maximum possible sentence.

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 23/01/2025 14:00

Naunet · 23/01/2025 13:58

Double post

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Double post

BabyCatMama · 23/01/2025 14:01

@DanxingFerret I think he IS ISIS I have seen a few things over the years that make me think the government has been covering up terrorist attacks for a while or at least withholding information about them. The idea was to de- sensationalise it

justteanbiscuits · 23/01/2025 14:02

EsmaCannonball · 23/01/2025 13:36

I also think there needs to be professional consequences for the social workers, parole board members, judges, police officers, Prevent workers, etc., whose poor judgement and decision-making keeps on leaving these criminals free to murder or destroy the lives of others.

Making the reporting of dangerous individuals, or failing to report sexual abuse, was one of the recommendations in the 2022 grooming report that the tories ignored.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 23/01/2025 14:02

Why all this talk about him being mentally ill and needing help? Some people are just fucking psychopathic pieces of shit and all the 'help' in the world won't change them. Most mentally ill people wouldn't dream of hurting another person.

But I have no idea what can be done to stop these things happening other than making the penalties for carrying knives or committing other less serious crimes far far greater i.e. put them in prison before they can hurt anyone - but they can't be kept inside for the rest of their life (not enough prison places anyway) so at some point they'll be out probably with no rehabilitation and be just as dangerous as ever.

wonderblocks · 23/01/2025 14:02

themadhat · 23/01/2025 13:56

We were told it wasn't terrorist related when it clearly was!!

This !! wtf is that all about ?! Downloading terror manuals, making ricin ? How the hell is that not terror related?!?!

SugarandSpiceandAllThingsNaice · 23/01/2025 14:02

Naunet · 23/01/2025 13:57

No I understand, that's what I'm asking for evidence, because in my experience, mentally ill men are far more likely to be violent than mental ill women are. You said: When they do attack others, it’s about equal between men and women which doesn't seem to be true. As in every other area, male violence way, way out numbers female violence.

Again, you have misunderstood what I meant, and that was mental illness as a factor that causes violence is about equal between men and women. Please stop demanding evidence for something completely different. I apologise for not wording that one sentence better, I though the larger context of the paragraph made it clear I was talking about mental illness as an isolated cause of violence.

ILikeDinosaurs · 23/01/2025 14:03

His picture scares the absolute bejeezes out of me. He's clearly mentally ill. Is he schizophrenic or something?

Bbq1 · 23/01/2025 14:03

ChristmasPudd1990 · 23/01/2025 13:57

I'll save my sympathy with the parents for now. Who knows if the way he was brought up made him do what he did?

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You do that then.
We don't know how he was brought up but clearly not to murder children. It is possible to have nuanced sympathy for all parties (not the killer) including more for the families of the young children.

justteanbiscuits · 23/01/2025 14:04

BabyCatMama · 23/01/2025 14:01

@DanxingFerret I think he IS ISIS I have seen a few things over the years that make me think the government has been covering up terrorist attacks for a while or at least withholding information about them. The idea was to de- sensationalise it

What have you seen that makes you think they are covering up terrorist attacks?

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