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Killer claims to be ill

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Galatine · 23/01/2025 12:09

According to the BBC Axel Rudakubana is shouting in court that he is ill.
AIBU to say I couldn’t give a shit!

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Frequency · 23/01/2025 19:44

It is almost impossible to get any kind of mental health care for people under 18 due to services having been cut to the bone.

You have more chance of winning the lottery without buying a ticket than you do of having an ill teenager admitted into in-patient care.

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 19:45

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 23/01/2025 19:40

The family were an ordinary family, the brother a student at a Russell group university. We have to accept that we have a problem in our society.

Exactly this.
It is very easy to say he was a monster, pure evil etc. That way he is the anomaly and we don't have to do anything or change anything.
Rather than accepting that he was a perfectly normal boy with significant issues that were ignored.
Multiple people on this thread have expressed glee at the thought of his death.
He committed an abhorrent crime, no doubt, but this poster is right - we have a huge, multifaceted problem with our society.

HashtagShitShop · 23/01/2025 19:45

JHound · 23/01/2025 19:30

That was not my question - I said is it illegal?

If not there was nothing the police could do.

They're not legally allowed to purchase them themselves. Hell, until this week when he turned 18, Luke Littler the darts prodigy couldn't legally by his own darts because of the same rule.

JessiesJ99 · 23/01/2025 19:47

User8646382 · 23/01/2025 19:42

What’s your agenda in all this? You’ve dominated this thread with your hundreds of comments deflecting blame from the perpetrator, his parents and the various government bodies that allowed this to happen.

I mean, why? How have you even got the energy to bother? Do you really feel that strongly about it?

This!!!!! All day long. I was wondering exactly the same thing earlier.

Eastie77Returns · 23/01/2025 19:49

I understand from the Guardian that his parents called the police on 4 seperate occasions as they were aware he was carrying knives to school? Lancs police visited his home and told his mum the best course of action was to keep knives out of his reach…

But really, this isn’t the fault of the police, social workers or anyone else apart from this very evil young man. I doubt he will ever feel any remorse but no doubt we will hear in a few years from some bleeding heart advocate of prison reform that he has found religion, turned over a new leaf and is showing exemplary behaviour. They will start campaigning for his release because it’s “unfair” to lock someone so young away for the rest of their lives, he was traumatised, we can’t judge him by his worst day and some such shit.

Totallymessed · 23/01/2025 19:51

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 19:26

A term of 21 years does not mean he is free after that, but that that is the point at which he can be assessed to see if he is no longer a danger to society.

I actually think taking this approach would be a monstrous thing to do to the girls' families. Psychologically tormenting them with the constant knowledge of him being potentially released after a short time.

oakleaffy · 23/01/2025 19:55

Eastie77Returns · 23/01/2025 19:49

I understand from the Guardian that his parents called the police on 4 seperate occasions as they were aware he was carrying knives to school? Lancs police visited his home and told his mum the best course of action was to keep knives out of his reach…

But really, this isn’t the fault of the police, social workers or anyone else apart from this very evil young man. I doubt he will ever feel any remorse but no doubt we will hear in a few years from some bleeding heart advocate of prison reform that he has found religion, turned over a new leaf and is showing exemplary behaviour. They will start campaigning for his release because it’s “unfair” to lock someone so young away for the rest of their lives, he was traumatised, we can’t judge him by his worst day and some such shit.

Yes, I expect this evil man will ''find'' religion, just as that revolting Chris Watts did.
Wasn't there some old chap who tried to fight for Myra Hindley's release, saying she was a Christian and reformed?

Lord Longford I think it was, but Thankfully she stayed in jail, until her last breath as this evil monster must.

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 19:55

Totallymessed · 23/01/2025 19:51

I actually think taking this approach would be a monstrous thing to do to the girls' families. Psychologically tormenting them with the constant knowledge of him being potentially released after a short time.

There is nothing that can even begin to heal the pain of what happened to them. There can be no justice in this case.

However, our justice system is not based on getting revenge on the perpetrator, it is based on the risk that person represents to society. Once someone is no longer a risk to society, why keep them locked away?

I have no expertise in this area whatsoever, but from the very limited information available it is hard to see how the risk to society from AR could ever be mitigated, so I would imagine he will be locked away until he dies.

Totallymessed · 23/01/2025 19:55

Frequency · 23/01/2025 19:44

It is almost impossible to get any kind of mental health care for people under 18 due to services having been cut to the bone.

You have more chance of winning the lottery without buying a ticket than you do of having an ill teenager admitted into in-patient care.

A previous poster who is a psychiatrist said it wouldn't have achieved anything anyway, as he didn't have an illness to treat.

Tittat50 · 23/01/2025 19:58

@missionchub @User8646382 all I ever see @JHound do is ask incredibly reasoned questions and reply with incredibly measured points and things to ponder. All she is doing, is pointing out some very pertinent points.

Not all of us are going to scream ' kill them all'. There will be other children in this family. They should not have their lives ruined because of their clearly deranged sibling.

I don't believe for one minute the parents did not once say can someone help here please. Whatever failings may come to light, I think it's very simple to assume they are just a family of ' baddies'.

Allihavetodoisdream · 23/01/2025 19:59

Tittat50 · 23/01/2025 18:55

It's ok, I can cope. I am a realist. There are scary people amongst us that's for sure.

I have just looked up the exact Collins definition of insane. That is a very very broad definition. You telling me this guy was normal and not disordered in any way. Come on. No disordered thinking is within the definition. Seriously.

Wasn't Jeffrey Dahmer deemed to be sane. If you know the specifics there, he had a significant difficulty regards his ability to feel empathy. It was significant

Is it possible that an insane determination at this point would impact the outcome negatively. Do we want him locked up for life. Yes certainly and will support whatever it takes to enable that in this very important high profile case. Well yes of course.

I need to go research whether one needs to have a defined mental illness under the category of DSM in order to be defined as insane. I'm genuinely interested in this hence my participation on the thread!

He has an autism diagnosis, which overlaps with some mental health conditions. Who can say, unless they are the professionals that are psychologically assessing him? The fact is justice has been done and the public are safe from him. Small comfort to the families, but at least he is no longer a threat.

We will learn more from the inquiry. I’m interested to know if online misogyny, which seems to recruit some autistic young men, was a factor.

BeardofHagrid · 23/01/2025 19:59

The Assisted Dying Bill has just been brought in, and I think Rudakabana, Sara Sharif’s father and the crossbow killer from Bushey should all be offered a go on it. All have admitted their guilt and there is no point keeping them alive. They are executors of girls and women.

Frequency · 23/01/2025 20:00

I would hope a genuine psychiatrist would know that it is not possible to diagnose someone over the internet.

There is a difference between having the capacity to know right from wrong, which is what is being said about this young man, and not being mentally unwell. He was clearly very unwell.

If we other this teenager as a monster we risk failing to learn how we can prevent the next teen with the same issues from repeating his actions.

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Totallymessed · 23/01/2025 20:01

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 19:55

There is nothing that can even begin to heal the pain of what happened to them. There can be no justice in this case.

However, our justice system is not based on getting revenge on the perpetrator, it is based on the risk that person represents to society. Once someone is no longer a risk to society, why keep them locked away?

I have no expertise in this area whatsoever, but from the very limited information available it is hard to see how the risk to society from AR could ever be mitigated, so I would imagine he will be locked away until he dies.

No, it isn't simply whether someone isn't a danger, punishment for the crime is involved (I know you won't like that word). The victims and their families also deserve consideration.

I think you see it entirely from the perspective of what is best for the offender, which I think is an extreme viewpoint generally, and in a case like this, completely inappropriate.

Guttedandblue · 23/01/2025 20:02

BeardofHagrid · 23/01/2025 19:59

The Assisted Dying Bill has just been brought in, and I think Rudakabana, Sara Sharif’s father and the crossbow killer from Bushey should all be offered a go on it. All have admitted their guilt and there is no point keeping them alive. They are executors of girls and women.

Don’t be so ridiculous

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 20:03

Totallymessed · 23/01/2025 20:01

No, it isn't simply whether someone isn't a danger, punishment for the crime is involved (I know you won't like that word). The victims and their families also deserve consideration.

I think you see it entirely from the perspective of what is best for the offender, which I think is an extreme viewpoint generally, and in a case like this, completely inappropriate.

Punishment is absolutely appropriate. Being deprived of liberty by being imprisoned IS the punishment.
Of course victims and their families deserve consideration, at no point have I said otherwise.

oakleaffy · 23/01/2025 20:03

Totallymessed · 23/01/2025 19:51

I actually think taking this approach would be a monstrous thing to do to the girls' families. Psychologically tormenting them with the constant knowledge of him being potentially released after a short time.

It's astonishing that there are apologists for people like this, who commit the most atrocious, despicable crimes- ''ohh they need a chance of rehabilitation, he's a child .. He's a vicious evil man who very likely will always post a threat to children, especially girls.

Various people said they did not feel safe in this man's presence, and these would be people used to dealing with the more volatile in society.

If they felt unsettled, it shows how unpleasant his 'vibe' must be.

Also the Taxi Driver.
While this man skulked and cowered in the back of the Taxi and then ran off, the taxi driver didn't go after him.

Taxi Drivers are usually quite tough if a person tries to evade paying.

Looks like this unpleasant criminal was used to just walking all over adults in his life.

AllesAusLiebe · 23/01/2025 20:04

Tittat50 · 23/01/2025 19:58

@missionchub @User8646382 all I ever see @JHound do is ask incredibly reasoned questions and reply with incredibly measured points and things to ponder. All she is doing, is pointing out some very pertinent points.

Not all of us are going to scream ' kill them all'. There will be other children in this family. They should not have their lives ruined because of their clearly deranged sibling.

I don't believe for one minute the parents did not once say can someone help here please. Whatever failings may come to light, I think it's very simple to assume they are just a family of ' baddies'.

We also cannot assume that they are a 'normal family', simply because one of the kids attends a Russell Group university. Only on here would you hear this!

Wouldn't it be marvellous if everyone lived in the idyllic middle class MN utopia whereby this were true (...and 17 year olds were given weekly pocket money - that one made me chuckle the most).

ThelmaDinkley · 23/01/2025 20:04

Instead of testing pharmaceuticals on innocent animals test them on the likes of this specimen. Make him contribute something to society. He won’t mind seeing how he liked messing with poisons and toxins.

Vinvertebrate · 23/01/2025 20:04

StiffyByngsDogBartholomew · 23/01/2025 19:44

To be fair he could have just used his dad's ID and I doubt any Amazon delivery driver, pressed as they are with so many deliveries, would have challenged him.

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I bought a Japanese-made sushi knife from Amazon. Hideous thing with a finger hole in the curved blade for extra precision. I don’t remember the delivery process being any different from the other random crap I buy on there - I certainly was not asked for a passport.

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 20:05

ThelmaDinkley · 23/01/2025 20:04

Instead of testing pharmaceuticals on innocent animals test them on the likes of this specimen. Make him contribute something to society. He won’t mind seeing how he liked messing with poisons and toxins.

Disgusting.

EasternStandard · 23/01/2025 20:05

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 19:15

The hate and bloodlust on this thread is disgusting.

This is a young man who committed a most horrendous crime, it is right that he be locked away for a long time, as he has been.

However, it is also important to recognise that him and his family were let down over and over again by schools, police, mental health services etc. This tragedy did not need to happen.

Rubbing your hands in glee at the thought that he would be tortured, abused, even killed is so outside of the scope of what it is to be a civilised society, it is beyond words. Making prison sentences longer, conditions harsher, the death penalty - none of these things make society safer.

Norway is safer on every measure than America. In Norway he would have been given a term of 21 years.

Violence and dehumanising criminals makes society more dangerous, not less.

No the judge was right

His sentencing was a good one. Out of all the horror and misery today I felt pleased to hear an eloquent and concise judgement

I also agree with the pp on their strong response to your post

MrsSchrute · 23/01/2025 20:07

EasternStandard · 23/01/2025 20:05

No the judge was right

His sentencing was a good one. Out of all the horror and misery today I felt pleased to hear an eloquent and concise judgement

I also agree with the pp on their strong response to your post

At no point have I suggested that the judge was wrong. He is an expert in his field and heard far far more evidence about this specific case than I did.

missionchub · 23/01/2025 20:09

Tittat50 · 23/01/2025 19:58

@missionchub @User8646382 all I ever see @JHound do is ask incredibly reasoned questions and reply with incredibly measured points and things to ponder. All she is doing, is pointing out some very pertinent points.

Not all of us are going to scream ' kill them all'. There will be other children in this family. They should not have their lives ruined because of their clearly deranged sibling.

I don't believe for one minute the parents did not once say can someone help here please. Whatever failings may come to light, I think it's very simple to assume they are just a family of ' baddies'.

Nothing I have said or done suggests that? I really don't understand this response. I was responding, in the middle of a DEBATE as to how we make sense of all this, to a poster who had referenced a case of parental culpability in juvenile mass murder. A recent and landmark case that had most of the legal system in America watching. Which was a correct statement. Parents had been prosecuted.

In the interest of intelligent, informed debate, which surely this topic needs in a civilised society, I fail to see the problem. Perhaps the parents should be investigated for negligence. Perhaps a lot of negligence should be investigated. We won't get there without debate, discussion, and action.

The problem I have is some immovable viewpoint to defend the indefensible, and the lack of ability to critically rationalise if further culpability should be considered, because the law is continually evolving on a case by case basis. Led by, guess what, the electorate.

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