My whole family forgot my birthday

[Oopsadaisy92]

Kind of light hearted but my brother, my parents and most importantly my DH have all forgotten to wish me happy birthday today. At time of writing it's 14.30.

Just to confirm my birthday is on the 22nd of January... I haven't got my dates mixed up and it's like the 21st today or something??

Also - any ideas on being petty? I feeling like letting them all know at this point needs something big so it doesn't look desperate for attention 🤣

Have you seen modern family! I was thinking of wating till 12am and sending a message saying 5,4,3,2,1 you forgot my birthday 😆😆

Yeah that is such a stupid thing for people to do. Let someone be miserable all day and then surprise them. The best thing to do is arrange for the person to be doing something small and then surprise them with the bigger thing.!
I feel bad for you that happened! Hope birthdays have improved since then!

Still no excuse for not even a happy birthday text or card. Excuses aren't good enough.

Happy birthday @Oopsadaisy92 🎉🎈🎁🎂

Hope you have something lovely planned for yourself this evening. Any chance your dh will just show up to sweep you off your feet? Dh did that to me years ago (but he'd at least sent me a happy birthday text that morning too!).

So you had a conversation with your DH yesterday and discussed it being your birthday today and he still “forgot?” That’s weird. As is your mum forgetting your 18th TBF. Not weird, more weird.

This is ridiculous. Wishing someone (especially your partner) happy birthday isn’t something you should have to request.

Even if no presents are exchanged or there are no big plans made it is crazy to think that waking up and saying happy birthday to your partner is something that needs to be requested!

The two things I always wonder about MN birthday posts are

1. what is the norm - do all these people forget every year? Or is this a weird aberration? Because if it's the former, surely you'd have spoken up firmly about it before. If it's the latter... these things happen and it's forgivable. I forgot DP's birthday one year, and one year only (it was more that I got the current date wrong in my head so I didn't realise it was his birthday).

2. have you not mentioned your upcoming birthday to them at all?

Happy Birthday OP. Hope you've got something nice into eat and drink tonight. If not, go and get yourself something or put in an order - you can have exactly what you want!

But yes even as a couple who are Not Into Birthdays and don't do big presents, DP and I say happy birthday to each other (if we've got the date right anyway). From the people you live with that should definitely be expected (unless you're one of those people who don't want it acknowledged at all).

You’re parents may message you soon as it’s still morning over there.

So it's not normal. It's my 29th and only my mother has forgotten my birthday once before (18th)

Yep I spoke with my DH yesterday about it. And the day before too I think...

It’s really shit when people forget your birthday but don’t you talk about your birthday in the run up with your DH? And what you’d like to do or receive?

Very true! I guess I was more focusing on my DHs attempts 🫠

Hope your day gets better

Oh howay man, are you saying when your kids are grown up they'll have to remind you of their birthday? Ridiculous post

Happy Birthday op 🎉🎂

Rubbish, they should have the common decency to have this date on their calendars.
I'll bet OP doesnt forget her Hs or the kids birthdays.
In my family me DS and Dsis all have everyone's birthdays written down and we remind each other when one is coming up.
It's inconsiderate neglect and I would expect better.

Not sure where you’re going with this but OP clearly stated at least twice that she mentioned her birthday to her husband yesterday.

Yeah that’s probably better, more direct 😂

Sorry but how would i have known?

I'm not indignant either - sorry if you read my message that way.

@ForGreyWasp OP says she’s been talking to her DP about her birthday yesterday and probably before too.

Happy Birthday! 🎂

I always talk about everyone's birthdays in the rum up to them, including my own. I don't leave it to chance. I'm clear a out how I would like to celebrate.

Having said all that, at this stage, I'd probably plan to go out for a meal on my own or with a friend.

My husband, on the 14th February, asked if we could do Valentines stuff after work. I said yes. Stupid idiot had forgotten so needed to buy more time. My birthday is days before, normally just gets both meals a couple of days before - 2 dine in for two at M&S - so not like he doesn't know after 25+ years.

This year I'll sort myself out for bday as I've divorced him

Your mum forgot your 18th? That's quite a birthday to forget.

I mean, if it's not a pattern of taking you for granted I wouldn't be mad. As I said I once forgot DP's birthday on account of not knowing what the date was. I don't think I could've told you what the date was before this thread, except "somewhere still in endless fucking January". Tell them mock-sternly and I hope they're mortified. And happy birthday!