Apologies for not having read the full thread. I’m broadly with you OP. Like virtually every issue this is nuanced and it worries me how many few people seem able to accept the grey areas.
The vast majority of trans people just want to live their lives, which are difficult enough, and I see terrible hate being spewed at them – led by J. K. Rowling, who’s in my opinion completely unhinged on the issue now (having started out balanced).
On Twitter which I have to use a lot for work, I see a mean girl clique surrounding her, mainly made up of not very good authors who get their kicks from having their ringleader retweet their posts and follow them. They’re all now cheering Trump for speaking out against trans people, as if this was the only issue that matters, which I find horrifying. And I got tired of a load of people telling me at the last election they were going to vote Tory because Keir Starmer didn’t know what a woman was, when in actual fact the reason they wanted to vote Tory was because they were worried about VAT on school fees, but the woman thing had become a more acceptable thing to say.
I don’t believe this women are in danger in public bathrooms nonsense, though I personally don’t like mixed gender toilets because I don’t want to pee in a space where a smelly man’s just been.
However, I do see there are issues in women’s sport and I do think it’s wrong to talk about issues such as chest feeding. Trans people just have to suck those kind of things up. In practice, if you are a trans man who gives birth, I’m sure you can have a word with your midwife about what terminology you would like to use, but it’s not fair to make it a blanket thing for all women.
But in summary the vile bullying trans people now are experiencing – take the comments about lovely Alex on Traitors - goes against everything a country like Britain used to uphold.