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What age/year at school, would you put my Dc ar?

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Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 15:37

Looking at this?

What age/year at school, would you put my Dc ar?
OP posts:
HoraceCope · 21/01/2025 18:24

year 1
or reception
it really depends

Nofurme · 21/01/2025 18:25

Your child is doing really well OP for not being at school and working through this phonetically. However, from a UK mum also outside the UK whose child also started school at 6, more formally 7 I’d say relax and don’t compare to the kids learning to read and write formally at 4 in other countries. Once they are young teens they have all absolutely caught up and you will struggle to see the difference. Trust the process, enjoy the other experiences and learnings they have and it’ll work out well.

GripeOfTheDay · 21/01/2025 18:25

So

Shes six with a reading age of 9.5 but you read to her at home.

Shes not started school yet syonot really done any handwriting practice..

What was the point of all of this, as it doesn't sound as though you are particularly concerned about any potential SEN issues.

Get a handwriting practice book or download some templates if you want something to do.

Highfivemum · 21/01/2025 18:34

I would say nursery school so 3/4

QuaintPanda · 21/01/2025 18:36

LittleScampi · 21/01/2025 07:10

We‘re also abroad, DS was just shy of 7 when he started school and started to learn reading and writing (his school language is not English).

Please, stop comparing your child to UK children! It’s a completely different learning process. And definitely leave it up to the teachers- anything you teach your child now might have to be unlearned. For example, letters and numbers might be formed differently. DS is now in Year 2 of school and they are only just learning to capitalise and use full stops.

I teach at secondary level here, all the children are fluent in at least 3 languages and can all write beautifully! So don’t worry, your child is probably miles ahead of her future classmates.

This. DS is in his 2nd year at age 8. Bilingual, not in UK. I got him up to reception/Yr1 level English reading in the holidays, and his reading in his other language suffered as they are such different systems. I hadn’t taught him to write, which was fortunate- there are strict rules on how to form letters, and they’ve now nearly finished learning copperplate, which is his preferred writing. They‘re introducing fountain pens at Easter.

It‘s apples and oranges.

WimbyAce · 21/01/2025 18:39

PC7102 · 21/01/2025 17:52

year 1 or 2? My son is in reception and doesn’t write words yet but I’m not sure if he’s at the typical level for his age though (he’s 4)

Same, my daughter is 4 in reception and only just started writing her name.

Vynalbob · 21/01/2025 18:40

This is a difficult question (than I initially thought). I think comprehension exceeds writing. I think if I had to take a stab in the dark I'd say year 2 (probably left handed or mixed as a PP has mentioned) and perhaps, if there are no other obvious factors (eg types of palsy, FASD, lots of etcs) maybe dyspraxia.
The lower & upper case throws me a bit, guessing they try really hard and maybe practicing using those letter stencils so it's mixed it up a bit.
👍👍👍

Vynalbob · 21/01/2025 18:45

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

Well I was close on ages but rubbish on factors.....you could do a little bit on focussing on lower case but I wouldn't worry too much 👍

NadiyahZ · 21/01/2025 18:54

Older reception/young year 1.

BoldAmberDuck · 21/01/2025 19:06

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 15:37

Looking at this?

About 6 maybe?

Julimia · 21/01/2025 19:07

Wouldnt even attempt to age a child from just this (one) piece of evidence. Too many factors that contribute. Eg. Is the child left or right handed.
Why do you need this judgement please?

Julimia · 21/01/2025 19:16

Sorry just read your follow up. Her reading age will eventually make up for her lack of dexterity. Writing has two major elements what it says and what it looks like. Work on what she would like to say and scribe it for her. Provide her with lots of dexterity exercise cutting threading baking etc. and hep her wirh getting it on the page left to right gor example. Forget about lines just now and limit the page for now eg give her long thin strips of paper towrite on. Give her a variety of writing tools. Stop worrying it will come

Shetlands · 21/01/2025 19:24

For a 6 year old who hasn't been taught to write at school, she's doing extremely well! In addition, she's bilingual and has a reading age of 9.5 so she's flourishing.

I echo others who say it's probably best not to teach her to write unless you know exactly how they'll do that at school - it's to do with how they teach them to form the letters, whether they teach print or straight into cursive. Keep up plenty of access to paper and drawing tools. I'd let her start typing if she wants to, using a font similar to the ones in the books she reads. That way she can enjoy recording what she wants to say or even make her own little books.

DragonFly98 · 21/01/2025 19:25

No it’s not poor at all, children are forced to write far too early in the UK. Seven is the ideal age. Before then children should be doing activities that improve their dexterity such as bead threading and colouring not writing,

HWS · 21/01/2025 19:31

As a handwriting tutor I would say Y1, and as you rightly said I would wait for the school to teach her handwriting as not all schools teach handwriting the same way. This will avoid any confusion. Judging from her drawing she seems to have good fine motor skills so if there are no other issues, she should pick up handwriting quickly. Hope this helps.

olympicsrock · 21/01/2025 19:40

I’d say handwriting is 18 months behind. Could she do some handwriting practice books ?

Gonners · 21/01/2025 19:57

Feetupkettleon · 20/01/2025 21:30

I wouldn't worry about her being "behind" her peers in the UK. I'm from a Scandinavian country and couldn't write a single word when I started school (age 7). Managed to do well in school and have a MSc from LSE.

You probably also speak (and read, and write) at least 4 languages! I have a Finnish friend who says everyone just picked up Swedish (widely spoken in his area), at primary school they were taught Russian (for political reasons) and English, then went on to German and French. And that was just at school. He can get by in Italian and Spanish and - my favourite - spent a fortnight in Wales and had a bash at that too!

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 21/01/2025 19:58

I was going to say that it really depends on where you live. In the Netherlands they start school at 4 but don’t actually learn to read or write until 6 so wouldn’t expect that from someone under the age of 6.
mid she hasn’t had any school yet then it can’t be compared against children who have.

KrazyKaffs · 21/01/2025 20:13

I'd probably put it around year 1. Please don't fret though. My DD18 used to have the biggest handwriting ever that would fill the page up quickly probably well into yr4. She was an August baby, didn't appear to struggle with school but huge writing. All of a sudden during yr7/8, her writing stated changing drastically and by yr9 her writing was the most beautiful work of art to look at - I have neat writing but DDs is just beautiful. It's almost like she started trying and caring, whereas before it was a case of it's on the page so it'll do! They all develop at their own pace and come into their own eventually and as your DD is enjoying reading then she will too!

Lefthanddownnumberone · 21/01/2025 20:22

Reception

tightarses · 21/01/2025 20:30

age about 6 .

Yourcatisnotsorry · 21/01/2025 20:32

Year 1

Oioisavaloy27 · 21/01/2025 20:39

Your child is doing very well.

MySpringAir · 21/01/2025 20:46

Well she hasn't started formal schooling yet so this is surely normal for her and her peers in your country?

MyRoseBee · 21/01/2025 20:49

4/5 years old. Y1