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What age/year at school, would you put my Dc ar?

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Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 15:37

Looking at this?

What age/year at school, would you put my Dc ar?
OP posts:
DinosaurMunch · 20/01/2025 21:00

stillljh · 20/01/2025 18:32

Reception. The drawing on the left also looks like a reception child did it.
Saw and went might have been taught in class at some point. They might even be on display on the wall.
The child might have asked for beach and copied it from the board.
It depends on when the writing was done. Did your child do this at home or at school?

I taught reception, although that was 15 years ago so maybe standards have changed. A lot of children could write like that by the end of reception.

It's January though so not the end of reception. These children have only been in school 1 term.

moleeye · 20/01/2025 21:00

Reception

Switcher · 20/01/2025 21:05

This is so irritating.

DinosaurMunch · 20/01/2025 21:09

Marianus · 20/01/2025 17:20

As a TA, I find that most children enter reception knowing how to write their own name so I think your DD's class is unusual. Most tend to learn at nursery, if not at home.

Maybe. There are a lot of boys in the class and most of the girls are summer born so that possibly makes a difference. It's not a super middle class pushy demographic either. My daughter was barely 4 when she started school and had no interest in writing anything. My son is 3.5, starting school in September and isn't even interested in holding a pencil yet. The idea of him writing a sentence about his weekend is inconceivable. I'm sure the nursery do try to teach them to write their names but they're just too young

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

OP posts:
Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:15

*Is her own

*She sometimes writes for fun at home, not school

OP posts:
mynameiscalypso · 20/01/2025 21:16

I don't think it's fair to say that it's poor in comparison to her age group if she's being taught in a different way. Yes, the handwriting is worse than my son's but he started learning how to write when he was at nursery so he'll have had way more practice and been taught how to form letters. I wouldn't worry too much and just let her keep doing things for fun. There's time enough when she starts school.

DinosaurMunch · 20/01/2025 21:17

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

You can't compare her with children who have done 4 terms in school when she hasn't been taught writing at all yet. She's doing great if she's learned that independently.

Seriously I would spend your time at home doing things she won't get in school - baking, craft, music, outdoors, swimming etc. she will spend hours learning to write, doing more at home is a complete waste of precious time.

Sugargliderwombat · 20/01/2025 21:17

Nope op she is great. She's got to this level with no formal schooling. She's absolutely fine and going to do really well 🙂. We start far too early in the UK (I am an eyfs teacher).

Depressedbarbie · 20/01/2025 21:19

If she's interested, I would explain about capital letters and I would also show her how to form an e correctly, based on that. Only because, the more you do something the more ingrained it becomes, and the harder it can be to break the habit to do it correctly. Yes she's behind where a typical child in the uk would be at that age, but I think it's a pretty pointless comparison if she hasn't been taught it! Presumably she will be taught all of this once she goes to school, and it must work for the children of that country.

Depressedbarbie · 20/01/2025 21:20

And agree with ppl that we start everything far too early here.

Nyancat · 20/01/2025 21:25

I would say fairly standard for yr1 age. About 1/3 of my class would be above this and 1/3 well below. So she's definitely within range. I agree with others don't worry about the writing. Work on things that will improve gross and fine motor skills at home. Playing (jumping, hopping, skipping etc) craft, cutting, baking, getting coats on and laces tied etc. The writing will come quickly when she starts school.

mynameiscalypso · 20/01/2025 21:27

Oh, I agree on the fine motor skills actually! DS' teacher said he needed to build strength in his hands with things like play doh. That should help with his writing apparently.

Feetupkettleon · 20/01/2025 21:30

I wouldn't worry about her being "behind" her peers in the UK. I'm from a Scandinavian country and couldn't write a single word when I started school (age 7). Managed to do well in school and have a MSc from LSE.

CobraChicken · 20/01/2025 21:31

Stop comparing, OP. It's meaningless if she's not even in school yet!

We also live somewhere where they start formal schooling later than in England and that is a FAR better standard of writing than my DS1 could produce at age 6 and probably at 7 or 8, too, LOL! and he has a master's degree and has just been accepted into the most prestigious law school in the country with an LSAT score in the 99th percentile.

It's far too soon to have any legitimate reason to worry about her abilities/progress.

shuggles · 20/01/2025 21:33

5 years old, 6 at most.

Blondeshavemorefun · 20/01/2025 21:33

For a 6yr I would have expected smaller writing tho smaller lined books help

equally I get she hasn’t started school yet due to different country so hasn’t been taught as such

Cel77 · 20/01/2025 21:34

Reception

Googleisyourfriend · 20/01/2025 21:43

3 or 4

PurpleFlower1983 · 20/01/2025 21:44

Reception

TrainCoffee · 20/01/2025 21:45

It’s impossible to compare between countries because teaching happens very differently. If she’s never been formally taught to write this is very good for a 6 year old.

PurpleFlower1983 · 20/01/2025 21:48

I’m a teacher and that writing would be considered below standard for her age in an UK school but if you’re in a country where it’s not been formally taught then it’s an unfair comparison.

RafaistheKingofClay · 20/01/2025 21:49

If she’s taught herself, that definitely explains the disconnect between the handwriting and the content. You can’t compare that to children of her age that have been taught letter formation.

You can either leave it for school to teach or correct it. In what way will it be different when she learns at school?

bridgetreilly · 20/01/2025 21:50

She’ll catch up just fine when she starts school.

Taigabread · 20/01/2025 21:55

Nonstoprain · 20/01/2025 21:13

Thanks all, been at work and just reading through all comments.

Dd is 6, she wrote this at home, could use own pen, paper etc, I just wanted to see her writing.

Her friend is called Gabriel

The picture is hers and all writing and spelling lm her own

To a Pp who commented about the bitten nails…it’s my hand 😂

So, I wanted to see how she compares to others, we live abroad, so doesn’t start formal learning until September.

I’ve read to her since she was a baby and taught her sounds etc when younger. She’s always known her letters, but writing is the one thing I’ve not actively taught her, as she will learn quite differently in September, when they teach it and I didn’t want to confuse. I’m thinking I should intervene a little and work on where to put capitals and where to use lower case and work on presentation? Should I or leave it to the teachers in September? She only writes her name and the copied date at school, she writes sometimes for fun at school.
Her reading age is 9.5, it’s just her writing, it’s poor in comparison to others in her age group, isn’t it?

I'm surprised with a reading age of 9.5 that her writing would be so much less developed to be honest. Has she learnt to read properly using phonics and decoding, or was she taught using lots of whole word recognition and repetition. The latter can make children appear stronger readers than they are