Step son used my bath towel

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Want to gauge if IABU here.

My and my husband's towels are in the bathroom. Teenage SS keeps his in his room. We each have a hand towel and a bath towel. They all get changed every 3-4 days. When it came to changing them, I realised SS didn't have his towels in his room. He said he'd put them to be laundered a few days before. When I asked him which towels he'd been using in the meantime (he'd showered at least twice during this period), initially he claimed none, then admitted he'd used mine.

I blew a fuse. Couldn't believe he thought this was acceptable. Husband has laughed it off and is accusing me of being dramatic/blowing things out of proportion.

AIBU?

My parents were as poor as paupers as were my grandparents.

However they had high standards for personal hygiene.
No one shared a towel.

@CustardySergeant I'm still alive! But does anyone know the incubation period for leprosy? Or should I call 111?

I do get why you'd be annoyed OP. Years ago when I was about 19 I went to my parents' home country in West Africa. I had packed all I needed including a couple of towels and flannels etc as normal. My dad had gone a few days earlier with several suitcases of things including - my mum insisted, lots of towels for us. She wanted me to take unnecessary things out (like big fluffy towels 😂) and put in lots of other clothing we were going to give to family. So I did, bar one small towel and just the clothes I needed. When we got there we realised my dad had not packed any extra towels so me and my three younger siblings had to share my towel! Everyday! My mum did not offer the use of hers😠! It was a very humid country so it was necessary to shower everyday and by the time it was my turn it was sodden! 😭 To top it off none of my family had washing machines (or spare towels it seems 🤔💭🤦🏿‍♀️) so I had to handwash the bloody towel everyday. The towel that I couldn't even use clean and dry first! This was over 30 years ago and I still haven't gotten over it! 🤣

I doudt that. Most people had weekly often sharer baths in the old days I don't think hygiene standards were a thing.

Honestly designated towels in a family is mental. Just wash them regularly!

A lot of hotels ask you to reuse towels now, so that is clear what that norm is, but some posters on here obviously ignore that request and even ask for more for daily use

Ewww because I've lived with men who really dig deep in their butt crack with the towel after they shower

Why didn't he use his dad's in an emergency take it to be washed and have an actual conversation with the parents

If you were poor as paupers you possibly used public baths (and not very often)

Not always. Many hotels just offer lots of various-sized towels in bathrooms.

(Carrying on the class line I'm selling in pp, I suspect towels-on-the-bed mode applies to petit-bourgeois hotels. We're perhaps a little more, erh, up-market nowadays. But, still, interesting differences ...)

Yes do it quickly before your hands fall off!!

@Growlybear83 make sure you fully disinfect the phone first though!

🙋‍♀️ I don’t dry my feet either!

Oh the drama, poor kid, wonder what you're like with him when he actually does something really out of order !

And after!

I do think it's very common now - I grew up sharing, we shared with my kids when they were small but as they grew they had one towel and me and DH had another

We then went to one each
And a guest hand towel

I would never have expected to share a bathtowel with guests or hosts

@Nonaynevernomore Oh no, do you think that will happen? ☹️. I left the towels on the bathroom floor whilst I was in the shower and the cat walked over them. I should check my will is up to date shouldn't I?😟

Paupers, hmm. OK. But class?

I've had many, many upper-class English people tell me how poor their parents and grandparents were. Enough times to know how little their perception actually applied to their class. (Hence my mention of 'council house' ... a specific class marker in England.)

How far back are we going? And how wealthy were they? I'm talking the 50s /60s here. In fact I can't remember when I actually got my own towel. Probably when I started work in the 70s.

We were rare in that we had central heating (coal fired) and full indoor facilities and considered 'middle class' but we still shared towels

Buy more towels! I live alone and have at least eight bath towels - probably more!

ehat a silly thing to get worked up about.

I literally couldn’t get worked up about this. You’re drying a clean body?

I only wash towels every 3 to 4 weeks (when I have enough to fill my machine. I don't wash anything else with the towels. I have a laundry basket just for towels so no problems with storing them before washing.

I only do washing when I have a machine load so don't use my machine nearly as much as some people do.

Too late, I’m sorry. But lock yourself indoors, assume you’re infected with anthrax, act in the same manner, it’ll save infecting others.

Just because the hotel/airbnb or whatever provides more than 1 towel doesn't mean you have to use them all.

I grew up with 2 siblings and we certainly did not all have separate towels. We only had a bath once a week and often had to share the water! I am sure some posters on here would die at just the thought of that

And you’ve allowed a cat, 🐈‍⬛ to walk into your home, with naked paws, on a towel you’ve left on the floor to be walked over!

Ive no idea how you’ve lasted so long with that lax attitude!

Agree, what will you do if something that’s actually awful happens? Thump him? I detest adults who scream at children over nothing. Atrocious parenting.

@mydogisthebest they probably think everyone would die if they did that!