Step son used my bath towel

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Want to gauge if IABU here.

My and my husband's towels are in the bathroom. Teenage SS keeps his in his room. We each have a hand towel and a bath towel. They all get changed every 3-4 days. When it came to changing them, I realised SS didn't have his towels in his room. He said he'd put them to be laundered a few days before. When I asked him which towels he'd been using in the meantime (he'd showered at least twice during this period), initially he claimed none, then admitted he'd used mine.

I blew a fuse. Couldn't believe he thought this was acceptable. Husband has laughed it off and is accusing me of being dramatic/blowing things out of proportion.

AIBU?

I wouldn’t be keen on it but I wouldn’t blow a fuse either. I think you have ventured into melodramatic territory.

man yo ass bugging

Call the police

He showers?

“Please don’t use my towels, you can always get a clean one from the cupboard if you need one” = appropriate response

Blowing a fuse = emotional dysregulation issues

It's disgusting and disrespectful.

Those on here dissing you, god only knows how low their standards are. Normal people don't share bath towels.

Your husband sneering at your concerns is unacceptable. Tip of the iceberg in lack of respect, no doubt.

1. Relax, you’ll live
2. If you’re really bothered, buy him towels in a dramatically different colour to the ones you already have and tell him they’re his. Show him where they are stored.

I'm surprised he hung it up as you'd left it and didn't leave it in a heap on the floor, thereby highlighting his towel sharing ways sooner.

Nonsense. Some minging teenager wiping his crotch on my towel for days? I'd be livid, too. 10x if the husband were laughing at me.

What a lot of low people with zero aesthetic or hygiene standards here.

Get over yourself. Seriously this is not a big deal.

lol whatever. My hygiene standards are perfectly fine, I’m not going to get worked up about a freshly showered person drying themselves with my towel.

Referring to a person you share your home, airspace, couch space, cutlery with as “some minging teenager” suggests some serious antipathy issues.

You blew a fuse because somebody used your towel?!

FFS get a grip. It’s a towel, not a bank account. I only hope your DH stuck up for his son against such nasty melodramatic behaviour.

Im not usually a step parent basher and actually think they generally get a hard time on here. But this lad is a teenage boy, and your biggest concern is that he used the wrong towel? A bit of perspective and kindness wouldn’t go amiss here OP.

I would not be happy but I would just remind SS where the clean towels are kept, and that he needs to put his towels in the wash or he'll run out.

Keep all bath towels in bedrooms and share a frequently changed hand towel that stays in the bathroom.
Colour coding towels, or monograming is smart.

How does he have poor hygiene is he’s washing himself?

What do you think is gonna happen from sharing a towel?

God, the standards here are incredibly low.

Hopefully he doesn't have Athlete's Foot/Jock Itch😂!

Seriously, have fresh, clean towels available. I'd rather do more laundry than towel share with a teenager...or anyone else, for that matter.

I wouldn't like it if one of my own birth children was using my towel and leaving it for me to use again!!!

What do you think is gonna happen from sharing a towel

That's how fungal skin infections are spread. And teenage boys very commonly have athlete's foot😬Damp towels are a breeding ground for fungus.

Im such a massive slattern clearly. Towels go on the towel rail and unless theyve been crumpled onto the floor (looking at you preteen DD) or I know they have been used a few times, they are hung back up to dry and used again by anyone and everyone. I could NEVER imagine being so anal about towels. Or thinking that someone cleaning themselves means I’m going to get a lurgy. These people are my family not stig of the dump FFS. Then again I’m an air dry kind of woman, the towel is more for protecting my modesty.

I expect sharing a bathmat/shower tray would be far more of a concern in regard to athlete’s foot.

I’m amazed that someone so committed to saving the planet has the mindset that towels should be used once and washed regularly and anything else is low standards. I thought people weren’t making enough effort to prioritise the planet?

Does he have a place to hang a wet towel in his room? It's not great that the sharing happened but it's done now. Id make sure his set up is conducive to keeping the same towel for days. Blowing a fuse seems extreme. It's unfortunate but I think it's unreasonable to cause massive upset , he's just not thought about it .

Bizzare if you flip your lid over a towel what you Gona do when proper teen problems come along. Brought up in a big family now have my own never felt the need to kick off about towels. Laundered every 2 days they can take whatever they want as long as there in the wash basket every other day.

I’m betting he realised half way through his shower that he left his towel in his room and thought he’d just use what was there rather than do a chance naked run through the hallway.

Also teenagers don’t think of things like how often towels need to be washed. A bit weird people are insinuating he’s a perv or antagonistic for using a towel.

You blow, blow, blow, blow, blow a fuse over a towel? Come on now, don’t be a Bjerk.

Wait until you find out what he uses socks for and count yourself lucky he didn’t leave a skid mark on your towel.