Step son used my bath towel

[Green0911]

Want to gauge if IABU here.

My and my husband's towels are in the bathroom. Teenage SS keeps his in his room. We each have a hand towel and a bath towel. They all get changed every 3-4 days. When it came to changing them, I realised SS didn't have his towels in his room. He said he'd put them to be laundered a few days before. When I asked him which towels he'd been using in the meantime (he'd showered at least twice during this period), initially he claimed none, then admitted he'd used mine.

I blew a fuse. Couldn't believe he thought this was acceptable. Husband has laughed it off and is accusing me of being dramatic/blowing things out of proportion.

AIBU?

She's already said there are more towels available.

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That's gross.

He obviously thinks yours will be cleaner than his dads 😂

I obviously know a lot of abnormal people, then.

I'm genuinely shocked at this @Janelle84

It's not hygienic to share towels. You all might THINK you're clean after a shower but you can't be 100% sure. People get fungal infections (feet mainly) and other nasties that can be spread before they are very obvious. Kids in particular are always getting thread worms. The eggs aren't always washed off their bums.

Is this a 'parenting' thing? Did your own parents not give you your own towel when you lived at home?

I visit my elderly parents and stay overnight . I have 'my' towel left out on the bed. How horrible it would be to use theirs.

If you stay in hotels or self-catering and towels are on the bed for you has the penny never dropped that they are for each person, not communal?

BreatheAndFocus · Today 09:24 "The fact he used the OP’s towel rather than his dad’s seems very deliberate too. He knew he should be using his own towel but didn’t, and then chose to rub himself down with his stepmother’s towel, purposely ‘dirtying’ it. Most boys would use their dad’s towel in that situation. Yuk!"

Have you not considered that he didn't necessarily know whose towel he was using?

He definitely knows which towels are mine and my husband's. We don't hang them in the same place in the bathroom.

To all the people on here thinking I'm a bloke now, NO! The rumours of my penis have been greatly exaggerated!

@FindingGlimmers @Soontobe60 @saraclara I was 'being' the SS for my post, saying about using my dad's towel. In the second paragraph writing as myself.

Sorry for any confusion. Definitely female.

THIS!

@MrsTerryPratchett Yes I did acknowledge my idiocy after @Lostcat posted 😂 apologies.

So what's his explanation OP?

I've not read all 23 pages....

Has he stopped this lark now you've told him off?

This. Never heard the likes of it. Clean towels each day and whoever would like uses them then they are washed. Family of 6. No one has their own towels and unless there is a virus in the house I wouldn't care about who uses what as long as I know the towels are clean each day.

Also to answer the question re why he leaves his towels in his bedroom- I don't know. There is space for them in the bathroom but he's always left them on the edge of his bed. Not anymore of course.

I'm smiling at this @Green0911

He's a teenage boy. Why do you think he might need a towel in his bedroom at the end of his bed?

And why do you think he a) doesn't want you to find THAT towel in the bathroom and b) use it after a shower?

Come on- 3 guesses!

Exactly. He’s a teenager and they just don’t think or care about stuff like this.
Tell him to get a clean one or use his dad’s in future 🤷‍♀️

I saw that after! No worries.

Just have more towels available in the bathroom cabinet like a normal adult would ? You're being ridiculous. I dont want anyone else using my towel too but if his is in the wash he used the only available towel.

He probably just picked the nearest one. It's quite possible he doesn't even know which is which (unless one has pink flowers on it and the other blue something-stereotypically-manly).

@Mumstheword1983 if you wash towels everyday you don’t need to designate towels to anyone as once used I assume it goes in used pile. But some people neither wash towels every day and don’t designate them either, and guess what they don’t die! Unlike the planet with all the towel washing going on

Fuck me!!! It la a Sunday I’m glad to be me!

He knew it wasn’t his towel. We use different colours - his are white, mine are blue and guest towels are striped.

Oh get over yourself for goodness sake. It's hardly the end of the world
Let him keep his towel in the bathroom the same as you and your husband - stop treating him like a guest.

@SallymetLarry I can understand that fungal infections can be spread from feet, but I've not seen a single post where anyone has said thst every family member has their own bath mat. When I have a shower, I don't ever dry my feet on a towel - it's not necessary as I step out of the shower and onto a bath mat and by the time I've dried my body enough to put my bath robe on and then squeegeed the shower, they are completely dry.

@Green0911 If this is your first experience of teenage boys there are some things you need to wise up on.

Teenage boys spend a lot of time 'under the duvet'. Does it need spelling out for you?😂

Their rooms are often full of used tissues (mainly found under the bed.) I suspect your SS is using towels . And he is hiding them from you, or not saying he needs a clean one as often as he may do.

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