He says 'most women would just laugh', I think he's delusional. Settle a debate please

[TheFairSheep]

Hi all. I paid for my boyfriend to get a tattoo yesterday as a gift as he has wanted one for a while. I saw these messages earlier of a conversation he had with a friend whilst getting the tattoo. I was (I believe) rightfully disgusted and annoyed. He says it was just banter and 'lads being lads'. He apologised but added that most women in relationships would just laugh if they saw those messages and maybe be a little annoyed but I'm overreacting.

We live together and I am pregnant. Am I being unreasonable here? (His friend asked who was doing his tattoo, he sent the screenshot. I have blanked out her details for privacy).

Posts like this are why mumsnet has a reputation for being disgustingly snobby. Ridiculous comment.

Ew.

This is just so vile on SO many levels. Not only is he clearly misogynistic, he and his friends speak like immature 12 year olds.

He has no respect for you or your relationship and he surrounds himself with idiots who would encourage infidelity.

Also this is hugely disrespectful to the artist who is a professional. She shouldn't have to deal with gross men texting like this about her when she is working.

And another one. Really? Are you not embarrassed at how you sound?

There’s no way an otherwise decent man suddenly comes out with this kind of disgusting chat, so really, you must have known what an immature idiot he was for some time and yet still decided to get pregnant by him. The mind boggles.

This. It's a private conversation that he had every expectation would remain private.

God they sound thick as pig shit.

But no I wouldn't be laughing if DP was joking about cheating on me. He would never speak like that about me, at all.

He’s absolutely disgusting. I would be kicking him out.

You're having a baby with this 'man'? Bloody hell OP, good luck!

Grim

Absolutely disgusting. And you’re pregnant? 😞

Hard to decipher that to be honest.

But speaking like that at FORTY?..dear oh dear. [Edit..not 40, was mixed up with another post about a 40th, but at any age, it's pathetic.]

This is the casual 'banter' and misogyny that festers in society which means some men will always feel it's totally ok to treat women poorly or even abuse them.

OK, your partner did not start these 'bants' but he could have just said
'Come on mate, I don't say those kinds of things' or something like that, clearly signalling that this isn't acceptable.

The problem is though, men tend not to call out other men which is a huge part of the issue with how women and girls are treated in society.

How old is he? Seems like a painfully immature conversation for someone who is about to be a father. I wouldn't laugh, it would really put me off him.

Consider your child being taught morals and grammar by this man.

What an absolute scumbag

Sick and disgusting. I'm sorry OP, but of course YANBU.

My God, why do we STILL have blokes like this in our society?
Shouldn't they all have died out by now ...

OP, YANBU and sorry you had to see this, but maybe it's best that you know

I know this is slightly off topic, but on top of everything else, he thinks only women give head?

You and your baby have really won the life lottery with this prince, OP.

I daren’t ask what the tattoo was.

Why would they even think oral sex was on the table?
I can't work out if they're deluded, entitled or both in equal measure
Fucking idiots.

He's disrespectful and so is his friend, is this the first time you've noticed this kind of comment?

I've never said this before, but please don't put this cretin on the birth certificate.

The fact that cunnilingus didn't occur to your boyfriend is reason enough to dump him.

The way some people choose to live and communicate is seedy and sad. The texts themselves, the content and language of them and what they say about the lives, communication skills, attitudes and relationship between the two people writing them, are all unintelligent, crass and pathetic.

Perhaps the context of the question is “is she with you whilst you’re having the tattoo”
people are putting 2 and 2 together and making 5. If it’s a good friend of course they will know they are still together.

I'm confused. Is the female friend the one doing the tattoo and is she the one offering the BJ?

I mean it's hard to tell because it looks like a toddler wrote it but it's pretty grim.

I'd be pissed off too!