He says 'most women would just laugh', I think he's delusional. Settle a debate please

[TheFairSheep]

Hi all. I paid for my boyfriend to get a tattoo yesterday as a gift as he has wanted one for a while. I saw these messages earlier of a conversation he had with a friend whilst getting the tattoo. I was (I believe) rightfully disgusted and annoyed. He says it was just banter and 'lads being lads'. He apologised but added that most women in relationships would just laugh if they saw those messages and maybe be a little annoyed but I'm overreacting.

We live together and I am pregnant. Am I being unreasonable here? (His friend asked who was doing his tattoo, he sent the screenshot. I have blanked out her details for privacy).

And you think this cunt is a good prospect for you and your baby?

Such a charming man! Where did you get him from?

I really hope this is a troll thread. I hate to think of you having a child with a 'man' like this.

I am perfectly fine with the fact that I am a woman and I do this kind of behaviour, as do my friends.
You’re the one with the issue with it.

We really need to licence for parenthood.

I don’t know which is worse- your baby being a boy and being taught this is how men behave, or your baby being a girl and being taught that this is what women have to accept.

Best of luck, OP, you’ll need it with this loser.

OP is doing it. A few pp have raised the issue and I agree.

No I wouldn’t find it funny. I’d be disgusted. I’d be warning the tattooist of these rapey creeps too. How dare they speak about a woman like that

I also imagine that she would rather tattoo her own eyeballs than go near these losers. Why do some men think that because a woman is nice or looks good or offers a service that she’s up for shagging them? I bet the pair of them look like a pair of “wonky” 8 day old swedes but with much less hair.

Ditch this loser, do NOT stay with him to raise a baby, boys shouldn’t be dads, men should

Also I wouldn’t generally think it was ok to look through a partners phone but I think when people have spidey senses something is off, and they’re proven right, it’s absolutely acceptable

I also think him asking your OH if you’re still together is an indication that your OH either suggests to him that a break up is imminent or he shows complete indifference towards you like a “we’re not serious” kind of thing. None of my mates would ask this, especially with a baby on the way.

I think that is the least of the issues here.

I am more concerned about a child being raised by a misogynistic pig. That's what really matters here.

And that says an awful lot about both you and the people who you associate with

Either way he's a misogynist . And you're having a baby with him. So you need to decide whether you stay or go. The bigger picture here is more important. He is vile and sounds dim. .

Yes, I’m a loose woman.
Bet I have more fun than you :)

I thought that too. If he was talking about the tattoo artist that's disgusting and does suggest he'd cheat.
I am curious how you just happened to see the messages though. Did you have doubts about him and that's why you checked his phone?

I’m sure you do

Why does he assume it would be you on your knees if the situation were "reversed"?! That in itself is quite sexist.

Quite childish and immature, but I wouldn't be kicking him out and locking the door, you know him better than us, is he just the type to go along with comments like that, or do you think itd go further?

Oh come on, you do not do this behaviour

By your own admission your idea of a raunchy text is, I wouldn't kick him out of bed

You do understand that's in a different league than, I wish this woman would suck my dick, maybe I'll try for it later

"She's not here though" about your pregnant girlfriend who paid for the tattoo?

No, I wouldn't laugh.

But you paying for a tattoo for him, just because he wanted one, while you're pregnant, screams that you are trying harder than he is. Which means he's holding the cards. And now you're pregnant, unmarried I assume, he holds even more. He will get worse, mark my words.

Most women would bin his semi literate arse.

Fucking yuck.

Can’t believe @SummerFeverVenice is getting so much heat for this comment. I thought it was hilarious. I even read it in a special voice.

I have sent more raunchy things than that.
“I wish this woman would suck my dick…blah blah” isn’t even what is in the messages. You’re combining things said by two different people to make it look worse than it was.

It's weird that he assumes that that's the way it would go, and it wouldn't be the other man "servicing" you.

This is what I see when I read your comment