He says 'most women would just laugh', I think he's delusional. Settle a debate please

[TheFairSheep]

Hi all. I paid for my boyfriend to get a tattoo yesterday as a gift as he has wanted one for a while. I saw these messages earlier of a conversation he had with a friend whilst getting the tattoo. I was (I believe) rightfully disgusted and annoyed. He says it was just banter and 'lads being lads'. He apologised but added that most women in relationships would just laugh if they saw those messages and maybe be a little annoyed but I'm overreacting.

We live together and I am pregnant. Am I being unreasonable here? (His friend asked who was doing his tattoo, he sent the screenshot. I have blanked out her details for privacy).

Most women who are of the same mentality as himself might laugh but if they were pregnant with his child they wouldnt be laughing either..
Is this the first time you have known him to act like this .. you can't let him get away with that .

The level in question appears to be the gutter. Poor mother, poor baby..

Or maybe the simple explanation is that he thinks his mate is in the room with the OP and so can't speak fully when he asks the question and its misinterpreted.

This woman would laugh uncontrollably as she emasculated him with a baseball bat! He's delusional disgusting and illiterate Sorry you've got pregnant to such a miserable excuse for a man

The friend is awful. Both of them need to go back to school and learn English.

Edited: I read it as he was getting a blowjob from YOU, not the tattooist?! I mean its not much better but at least the way I read it he'd still be faithful.

Well said

I don’t know what is more offensive about those texts, the content or the spelling. Seriously though, that is incredibly disrespectful of him, and to then to add insult to injury he tries to dismiss it as “banter” which is a blatant attempt to shut down your feelings by gaslighting you.

Get out of this relationship while you can.

I'm having difficulty comparing your very thoughtful and articulate posts with the text exchange. It's seems like you are from 2 different planets. And obviously the text exchange is horrible and disrespectful. Honestly, you could do so much better.

Ugh, sorry this is just vile and totally disrespectful. Judging by these messages only I would say run for the hills, he is immature, likely a cheater, lacking in the brain cell department and misogynistic.
And even though we can only judge on a single screenshot, sadly, I think it’s safe to assume this guy is a dickhead and will not be loyal or supportive in a relationship.

I wouldn't have even taken the time to put a message on here - his bags would be packed and in the front yard for his return!

Good luck for the future you'll need it parenting the pair of them!

THIS

If I am honest, men who talk like that and disrespect you when discussing you with their friends, are not partner material. His mate asking him if he is still with you, could be his mate simply asking if you are there whilst he is texting but the answer implies your partner thinks he wants to know if you are still together. His answer is not flattering. Your partner should have your back.

I would seriously think about the relationship because, if he talks about you like this when its just you and him, he will not cope with the stress a baby will put on your relationship.

Jesus I’d leave him what a disgusting weirdo

You either don't know him well enough to have a child with or you know and thought a baby would change him.

He wouldn’t delete a naked photo of his ex girlfriend before having an argument about it?!! You know this is not right don’t you. So grim. Why does he even have this still?

He sounds like an immature little scumbag who I wouldn’t want to share a car with never mind a baby with.

Made me feel sick actually love. Not funny at all. Not the kind of man I’d be having a baby with I’m afraid. The pair of them sound like idiots

Wouldn’t most men just say “yeah, course I would!” just to be seen to be in the right?

When actually we know of SO MANY men who throw a hissy fit at the merest slight that their masculinity is at risk or being poked fun at!!!

Everything about this is a red flag. Everything. Did you plan this baby? Because I wouldn't raise children with someone like this.

Strange that some women on here are more concerned about the OP 'snooping' on her boyfriend's phone than his vile, misogynistic 'banter'.
Also very little concern for the tattoo artist who probably wouldn't want to touch him with a bargepole, never mind touch his skin for an extended period whilst she tattoos him knowing that he's thinking about his chances of a blowjob. Gross.

You are worth way more than this. You’re certainly not the first person to think less of themselves and end up settling for a loser but honestly when you get older you will regret it and see it for what it was. Think carefully and make sure you have lots of support.

I agree with the poster who said this relationship is likely to end before too long, one way or another. OP can take control of the situation and avoid a lot of trouble later.

That is utter shite.
He wishes, he says! Like any other random woman is falling to his knees as he passes by. Infantile. Disgusting way to treat another human being who is working for you. Totally disrespecful. He has zero respect for women.
BUT the more poignant point here is he replies, "No she is not here" to the question "Are you still with your bird? Yuck!
Is that what it says? Because I am not sure, to be honest. Even me writes better than these two.
They are not worthy of a female partner, any of the two of them. In my honest opinion. Shame you are pregnant. I wish you the best luck OP.
Actually, ask him how would he feel if he has a daughter, a sweet little girl that he brings up, and two blokes speak like that about her while she is doing her utmost to earn a living?
And, what about if her partner goes around speculating about cheating while she is pregnant?
Would he give a damn then?

What a disgusting creep he is

I would tell him to piss off and leave his sorry ass