He says 'most women would just laugh', I think he's delusional. Settle a debate please

[TheFairSheep]

Hi all. I paid for my boyfriend to get a tattoo yesterday as a gift as he has wanted one for a while. I saw these messages earlier of a conversation he had with a friend whilst getting the tattoo. I was (I believe) rightfully disgusted and annoyed. He says it was just banter and 'lads being lads'. He apologised but added that most women in relationships would just laugh if they saw those messages and maybe be a little annoyed but I'm overreacting.

We live together and I am pregnant. Am I being unreasonable here? (His friend asked who was doing his tattoo, he sent the screenshot. I have blanked out her details for privacy).

I missed this. I strongly think you’d be better off without him. You can do so much better.

Refusing to delete the naked photo is really grim. He's clearly not decent relationship material and definitely not ready to be a responsible parent. Don't ignore those uneasy feelings you've had recently.

I, like you, barely understood the messages! In fact I still don't

You've got a prince there.

honestly my husband and his friends wouldn’t talk like this but no I wouldn’t find this funny. In fairness to him it was his friend who led the conversation and brought it up, so if he had just said ‘ahahaha I wish’ I’d probably roll my eyes and leave it, the rest of what he said is unnecessary and weird though, but men do sometimes show off with their friends so he may not be being genuine with his friend

He's a vile disgusting piece of shit. How far along are you in the pregnancy? Regardless, I'd leave. He is absolute filthy trash! You don't want to set the example to your child that being around that filth is acceptable.

Think about this.

A decent man wouldn't argue. They'd just delete it.

I hope he hasn't got any photos of you.

This relationship is doomed. If it doesn't end now, it will eventually. Think about whether you really want a baby tying you to him for life.

He's a proper sleeze bag. And you know this.

He's a lowlife. He won't improve.

Once your time is taken up with baby he will be out and about meeting other women.

I don't need a Chrystal ball to know that is a FACT.

I just saw this. I'm not sure why you are with this man at all, let alone having a child with him.

Exactly what I wanted to say but didn't have the courage to. I would never be with anyone that had tattoos or even wanted them. It is almost always a certain type of rough person. His attitude is not a surprise.

I don't personally like tattoos. But your statement is absolute nonsense.

The fact that he now has a tattoo is nothing to do with the fact that he's an ignorant, misogynistic piece of shit.

If you're only 8 weeks, well.... I know what I would do. I would not want to be tied to this filthy disgusting pig for 18+ years. Leave him and book into a clinic.

You shouldn’t look at someone’s phone. If anyone did that to me it’d be the end. Betrayal of trust.

But, it’s clear you don’t trust him and he has little respect for you or women in general. Difficult to have a healthy relationship on that basis.

I get banter but I’ll never understand that message. Like why do men think random women would just be so filled with lust for them they would just want to suck their random cock….

Like I can tell the amount of times I’ve looked at a man and gone ahhh I’d love a suck on his sausage 🤣 zero times.

Honestly the type of “lads” who think random women are gagging for them is the type who would let them if it was offered. Throw him back.

I agree.

Yet I was only echoing LBFseBrom's sentiments but you didn't say anything to them.

It's maybe one step up from chimpanzee.

I don't care about the taatto they are far more main stream now but it's the waste of money buying one unless of course this couple are very wealthy.
I don't want to sound parsimonius but I don't think dh and I bothered much with gifts when we were expecting and short of money everything was steam full ahead for baby and even then we certainly didn't have posh new prams or kit.. It was all absolutely beautiful stuff but second hand as new.

He sounds like a big baby.

@JoanCollinsDiva I couldn't get it, it was only posters translations 🤣

If you stay with this man and have his baby, his behaviour is just going to get worse and one day, you'll be crying and talking about how he treats you to a family member or friend and they'll say:

"We're there any red flags early in your relationship?"

And this, this incident (amongst others no doubt) will come to mind.

This is your fella right now: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

Don't ignore them.

And please reconsider having a child with this man. This is the honeymoon phase of your relationship. This is the best it's ever going to be.

Don't you and any future children deserve more?

I think that's an insult to chimpanzees.

I had to search through the thread in order to understand what was going on in the messages because I thought he was talking about you and so I thought it was a bit grim but nothing awful, but if he is talking about wanting to cheat on you that's totally disgusting and I would be livid. I wouldn't laugh because what's funny about it? Honestly if he thinks this is ok he would not be the man for me.

You seem to be finding a lot of red flags with this man’s behaviour and attitudes.
Is he really father material? Once you have a baby with him you’re linked to him for at least 18 years. Think very carefully about your future.

Well that’s okay then, because you were just mindlessly repeating snobby nonsense 🙄