Ways to address smelly husband or AIBU

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Are most men smelly and don't take care of their hygiene needs??

I need ways to address this because what I have tried doesn't work! Or is this me?

I feel like my husband smells 🤣
My main issue is that he doesn't floss unless I moan at him to do it and I feel like his breath smells very badly, I can smell it when he's sitting next to me. He doesn't want to go to the dentist either.

I go downstairs quite early in the morning and when I come back up to get ready I can't cope with the smell of the bedroom - farts, sweat and bad breath. I asked him to shower at night but he won't. So I open the window wide but then he complains it's cold. He doesn't take much care with his appearance at all, which I fond lazy considering the amount women do.

The conversation usually goes with me trying to address it nicely, him denying it and causing a row. I'm at a loss of what to do! I may be getting the ick...

And the bar sinks ever lower...

No most men aren't disgusting and smelly and lacking in personal hygiene, unless you've negated to tell us you're married to a 15 year old boy.

No most men are not like this at all. I've never had a boyfriend or partner who is like this.

I think it is disrespectful to you op....and you should actually tell him...

You’ve tried everything and he ignores you. Does that mean he has no respect for you? This may show in other areas of your marriage too. Only you know.

For me, I’d have the ick by now and we’d be at a point of no return.

Another most men aren't smelly here.

This isn’t normal. Flossing doesn’t really make much difference to smelly breath though. I think you have the ick.

Does he brush his teeth twice a day? Maybe leave some mouthwash in the bathroom?

Try sleeping with the window open so he doesn’t get as hot and sweaty at night?

So my DP has had periods of bad breath. Assuming he brushes teeth regularly it's often not dental hygiene but other factors. Ask him to speak to dentist about it.
Farting is annoying but natural. But he can shower ! No one needs to smell sweaty all the time

I couldn’t be with someone like this.
for comparison my husband is 50, spends longer in the bathroom than I do and practices yoga for an hour every morning before I get up to keep in shape.
He annoys me for how long he spends on himself 😂 but that’s better than the alternative

The man should be managing his own hygiene needs! Not having his wife leaving subtle hints such as leaving a bottle of mouthwash in the bathroom!!

My partner doesn't smell but as PP said, flossing doesn't make much of a difference to that, and I must say that if my partner specified when they wanted me to shower, I'd find that controlling.
Bedrooms often have a weird, unpleasant smell in the morning I find. Not really BO. The last person who gets up opens a window and it's sorted

Flossing is important for gum health, especially as we age and our gums tend to recede - this leaves pockets for bacteria to fill and can smell bad!

Was he always like this? I assume not as at some point you found him hygienic enough to marry. Just tell him that letting things like hygiene go is disgusting and he needs to shape up again.

However things like farts, sweat and bad breath in the morning are all quite natural. That's why we shower and brush our teeth when we wake up.

Address him as Your Smelliness.

Just tell him that the way he behaves is not very attractive and your losing respect for him, no need to have an argument, but if the knock on effect is that connecting with each other becomes harder, then he knows what is causing it, and let him either deal with the issue, or the consequences, and its down to him.

Everyone farts. Including you, so it's likely your fart contributions too.

Most men do not smell.

If he's always been like this then tough. If it's a recent thing then he might be depressed.

I'd set up a fake email account and message him.

"Hey mate been just gotta tell you, you're smelling real bad these days. Think you can do something about it for everyone's sake?"

Then, deny, deny deny it was you.

The showering at night thing is not just because of the smell, sometimes he goes a few days without a shower. The more annoying reason is because he lays in bed til the last possible second and then announces he's getting in the shower meaning I'm the one downstairs rushing around making lunch, sorting breakfasts etc whilst he has 20 minutes on the toilet and then a nice shower!! Plus the kids often are just getting dressed and need to do their teeth but he's in the bathroom. He says he can't possibly get up any earlier to do that before everyone needs the bathroom and things need doing so I suggested he does this at night....he doesn't, he lays watching YouTube til 1am then goes to sleep...

Disgusting, I live in a house of males brothers,dad, grandparents,sons and hubby and not once have I smelt anything and I sure would be saying if I did. No need to stink unless your just plain not bothered and dirty

Disgraceful. Lazy and he smells. Absolute Prince.

He sounds selfish as well as dirty. I wouldn’t be addressing it nicely. I’d tell him straight that he stinks, because quite finally if he can’t be arsed with how he makes me feel, then I sure as hell don’t care about his feelings. I’d also be making plans to leave.

The kids will be embarrassed and not want friends over once they become old enough to notice their dad is dirty and the house smells, unlike their friends houses.

Not all men smell. Yours one is just lazy and can't be bothered. Tell him that you find it repulsive and it kills your sexual desire for him.

Not all men smell, some are just lazy.

Tell him he stinks and you can't stand it any longer and you don't find it attractive.

I couldn't live like that

That's lazy behavior not all men smell at all and he's up on you tube late aswell
My dh showers daily absolutely disgusting not to take care of personal hygiene

Does he work, OP?

Yes, alot. He's obsessed with work. Answers the work phone 16 hours a day. Can't help with kids because 'he has to work'. I work too, from home (36 hours over 3 days) but still sort the house and kids. He empties the dishwasher so that's his contribution that he doesn't let me forget. I feel like I'm an idiot and seeing this is a whole new light...
Recently I've found it to be alot worse with the hygiene and being unavailable. I have an infection and so was talking to him about getting an appointment last night and he kept interrupting about another subject. I told him he was being rude and he had a go at me and said he doesn't care about it basically.
I'm addressing these issues ASAP.