Asking lodger to leave. Does he have rights?

[MrsRaspberry]

I am a lone parent and have 2 adult children as well as 3 younger ones. One of my adult children asked if her friend could come to stay with us as his home situation wasn't good(he lived in supported accommodation and said it affected his mental health)I know this friend and agreed. He's here on the understanding that it wasn't permanent and he needed to sort out something with the homeless team. 8months later and he's still here doing nothing to help his living situation. I feel he's taking the piss. My 8 year old is saying she hates him as he winds her up purposely then shouts when she retaliates. He has doubled my bills with his eating habits he takes everything in excess leaving little without a thought that others need to eat. He puts the heating on and has upped my gas bill hugely. He does pay board as such £100 per month which doesn't even cover the extra food I have to buy to replace everything he uses let alone the fact that my other bills have gone up as he sits up all night using my internet leaving lights on and leaving heating on.he doesn't do his laundry he seems to expect me to do it and leaves all his dirty clothing in my bathroom he doesn't wash up after himself and he doesn't even purchase his own toiletries. He barely washes and just sleeps all day to the point I can't even have visitors as he makes them feel uncomfortable as he's sofa surfing at mine.(My house isn't big enough to give him a bedroom) I have given him 2 weeks to sort out somewhere permanent to live as we can no longer tolerate feeling like we can't even enjoy our home without him literally waiting for visitors to leave and making it obvious that he doesn't want them there. He even tried to tell me my eldest cannot come to my house unless I'm here at home which to be honest if she wants to come over she's allowed to as she sometimes likes to be here when I come home from work. He's told a mutual friend that I've been unreasonable to ask him to move out and now he's making me uncomfortable in my own home as he keeps giving sly nasty looks all the time. There's no tenancy agreement or anything but does he have any rights to not leave?as I have a feeling he's going to try to make it difficult to get him to leave

Great update OP. Agree with PP re changing locks.

Bloody well done OP

This 100%

All down to the good women on here who egged you on to kick him out.
What you suffered for eight months was achieved with their help in eleven hours.

I don't include myself by the way as this is my first post on it.

That's really not what happened. OP had already given him two weeks' notice to leave before even starting this thread. She "was just genuinely asking does he have rights if he decides to try to be difficult about it."

Great news. I wouldn't leave the house empty until I had the locks changed. You really can't trust people like that at all, you don't want to get home and find he's taken revenge on your home while you've been out.

Start your own thread

You did him a favour by supporting him and all he's done has disrespect and take you for granted. Please give him a letter in writing with a date of when he has to vacate . If you want to give reason why add this to your letter stating how his behaviour has impacted your peace and quite and family household, life . Make it clear all his belongings will be ready for him to collect . Do t put them outside as this is his belongings and he has rights even though he isn't under contact . Make sure you store them enabling him to collect his ger when he has a suitable place . You can speak with housing if you have concerns. Make sure you give him details of local authority housing and shelter support for accomodation in your local area where he can seek support. Although you took him in and he has been acting unreasonable , I'd like to feel we all have a reasonability to serve less fortunate to move on in the best way to have a positive outcome all round. Good luck.

Get a back bone and kick his arse out ! Your kids should be first second and last priority! Change the locks and put his stuff out.

Give him a week's notice, if he is there a week later, get your adult kids round to help them move out. The fact he moved in, takes without contributing to the house and is picking on one of your younger children, then he has to go

£100 a month? Surely you mean £100 a week??

Why on earth are you tolerating this? What do you think this situation is doing to your young child? Grow a backbone for godsake, put your child first.

@loropianalover
To an extent yes, but no different to women who let their bf stay over/pretty much move in with them.
And some don't wait that long.

Exactly, unreal.

He's already gone I kicked him out and he has all of his belongings. He's in an HMO that the local council took him to live in. He wasn't happy about it but that's his problem

Can't believe what I'm reading, to be honest. NEVER allow strangers in to your home, it is meant to be your sanctuary!

Get him out by the weekend. Stop being such a mug!!!!

Missed the update. Thank fuck!! Someone I know did the same as you - he also took MONTHS to leave. Lesson learned for you I hope.

The most I would put in a letter is that you allowed him to stay as a guest for a couple of weeks. He has paid for his food but nothing else. The situation is no longer acceptable and he must move out within 7 days.
You cannot class him as a lodger as you don't have a spare bedroom for him, plus is it your own property or rented? In which case you need permission to take in a lodger if renting, which wouldn't be allowed as your over crowded.

Read the thread.

Of course he's not happy about being in a HMO, there's no one there who will do his washing/cooking or let him pay next to nothing to stay there.
Lots of posters can't understand why you let him move in Op but your DD vouched for him, not her fault, no doubt he seemed OK and she'll have believed he'd be grateful. It would interesting to know his DMs side of the story as to why she chucked him out, he wasn't the innocent he made himself out to be

Delighted to hear that. Make sure to change the locks in case he decides he doesn't like where he is and comes back.

Does OP have a social worker?? Don’t be so fucking condescending and bloody ridiculous. Just because you’re a bad Samaritan (Tory voter?) who would happily walk on by when they see young people suffering. Thankfully, the OP isn’t like you.

The OP is clearly a kind hearted person who has a social conscience and took in a vulnerable young adult. She knew him as a long term friend of her daughters and didn’t expect him to stay for long and take the piss after moving in. That’s on him, not the OP.

Some youngsters get dealt a shit hand at a young age and a friend of mine took in a friend of her teen son as he had no-one. His mother had died suddenly and his crappy father had previously remarried with a new family and said he didn’t have room for him to live with them. Lad was lovely and very grateful and stayed with them until he got accepted by the Army.

I didn't even read your full first post .
He never should have moved in! It's not fair on your children .
Especially as he upsets them
You need to get rid and don't do somthing so stupid again

I can't get over him calling her a tramp as an insult when he's literally homeless. Hilarious. It sounds like he has a lot of issues, but they're not your issues. I bet it will be lovely to enjoy your own space again!