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Parking - relatives neighbour left note on my car r

179 replies

sunnynottoday · 15/01/2025 01:20

It's a late night parking thread! AIBU?

My sister has recently moved to a new area. She lives in a cul de sac with room for 1 car on her drive. I have visited maybe 2-3 times since she's moved in and parked on the street outside apposite the cul de sac. I visited this evening and when I returned to my car found a note from her neighbour asking me not to park outside their house. No please/thank you, no explanation, just don't park outside our house basically, very blunt. This is a public road FYI. They do not have a driveway, but they do have a double garage a bit further up the road (at the back of their garden I guess). I have attached pictures.

I don't want to cause problems for anyone, especially my sister but there is room for maybe 3-4 cars along that road so surely they're not asking every single person who doesn't live there to move their car?! What do you all think? Crazy people?

Parking - relatives neighbour left note on my car r
Parking - relatives neighbour left note on my car r
OP posts:
Vaxtable · 15/01/2025 01:32

If the car is road legal, and you are parking in line with the rules then you are entitled to park on any road.

WorldKeepsSpinningRound · 15/01/2025 01:41

Some people are very territorial about the space outside their homes.

I would continue to park there and ensure my dashcam was running just incase they decide to retaliate.

pincklop · 15/01/2025 01:42

Have to ask the sister what she wants.
I'm polite. Park responsibly. But an entitled note with no manners, I would likely park there every day to piss them off. If it was a nice note i would always be considerate but if it wasn't polite then wouldn't ever be respectful to them.

Paintedtoenailz · 15/01/2025 01:46

They cannot prevent you parking outside their house but I’m sure you want to prevent bad feeling.
Why not discuss this with your sister, you park on her drive and she parks where she thinks best.

XmasShoppingsister · 15/01/2025 01:54

Did you park in front of their garages? Otherwise I can't see what you did wrong? Agree with others, see what your sister thinks. Can you park in front of your sisters house/driveway as I'm assuming she won't need to go out while you are visiting. The rude note was totally unnecessary though.

Tvp123 · 15/01/2025 02:00

What a dickhead. If you are parking where the pics are it isn't like you are blocking their view. They can absolutely fuck off.

setmestraightplease · 15/01/2025 02:00

I'm VERY territorial about parking spaces - just ask my neighbours! 😂
I live on a street which is clearly marked with 'residents -only -within- certain -hours ' parking restrictions

and ............ #sometimesijustlovetrafficwardens (probably on my own here tho)

If somebody parks outside of the resident-only hours, I definitely snarl!! but wouldn't think of leaving a note!

Just ignore :)

  • edited for spelling and clarity and because I really do love traffic wardens 😊
Original poster
sunnynottoday · 15/01/2025 02:00

@XmasShoppingsister no I was parked where/just in front of where the white van was on the picture, no where near the garages!

OP posts:
mangoes1 · 15/01/2025 02:02

Noooo. No photos. All diagrams from now on have to be done by the poster who uses blue texta the one with arm, back written on it and long hair and a boob that turned out to be an elbow. Disappointment.
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Freehugs · 15/01/2025 02:04

If your are parked legally and definitely not blocking access to their garage then potentially ignore… however I agree with pincklop, discuss with your sister, as territorial parking wars can get nasty and she will be the one that has to see them all the time.

Straightomyhead · 15/01/2025 02:07

If you hadn't added photos, I would have said this was my road! Why do people get so obsessed with "their" space. If it's on the road then it's not your space.

setmestraightplease · 15/01/2025 02:17

@mangoes1 Noooo. No photos. All diagrams from now on have to be done by the poster who uses blue texta the one with arm, back written on it and long hair and a boob that turned out to be an elbow. Disappointment.

It was an excellent diagram drawn by OP!

  • but zooming in on the actual picture made all the difference 😂😂
Purpleturtle46 · 15/01/2025 03:00

Definitely just ignore it.

Turophilic · 15/01/2025 03:09

Ignore it, the neighbour is nuts. No one can tell you not to park on a public road just because their house is nearby.

Fraaances · 15/01/2025 03:32

Ignore....

GreekGod · 15/01/2025 03:43

I don’t think you should ignore. Your sister has just moved there. Don’t cause issues with neighbours. It’s not fair on your sister. Knowing how territorial people are in the UK with parking outside their homes, I would park outside your sisters home. And block her in. That’s what I do when I visit my parents, I wouldn’t park outside someone’s house .

Meadowfinch · 15/01/2025 03:52

If you are parked legally, ignore them. Some people are weird and think they own their entire street.

JustMyView13 · 15/01/2025 03:56

I probably wouldn’t park there again. That’s not to say that you’ve done anything wrong, but I’d be concerned their next step might be to damage the car. There are some seriously unhinged people when it comes to parking near their homes.

Starlight7080 · 15/01/2025 04:02

Ignore. Especially if not signs saying no parking and such.
They don't own the road

Reugny · 15/01/2025 04:05

I personally would NOT tell your sister.

Park there if needed if you have an obvious dashcam in your car that is activated by movement or your car is a banger.

Otherwise park elsewhere.

Those kind of people always back down when they are dealing with men who tell them to wind their neck in.

TellYourSugargliderISaidHi · 15/01/2025 04:07

You could put a little note on a notepad that says ‘why tho?’ on the pavement next to where you usually park, with a stone on top of it. Maybe a pen taped to the stone and see if they want to enter into correspondence about it? 😂

Pat888 · 15/01/2025 04:14

Is there nowhere else on that street that you can park other than outside their house?

HelplessSoul · 15/01/2025 04:23

You should have written on their shitty note:

"I'll park legally wherever I fucking like you cunts"

And posted it back through their letterbox.

ZekeZeke · 15/01/2025 04:50

Ask your sister what she wants you to do/where she wants you to park.
I'm sure she wants to be on good terms wirh her neighbours even though they are acting like twunts

Zita60 · 15/01/2025 05:13

GreekGod · 15/01/2025 03:43

I don’t think you should ignore. Your sister has just moved there. Don’t cause issues with neighbours. It’s not fair on your sister. Knowing how territorial people are in the UK with parking outside their homes, I would park outside your sisters home. And block her in. That’s what I do when I visit my parents, I wouldn’t park outside someone’s house .

I agree you need to be careful, for your sister’s sake, since she has to live with this neighbour. It looks as if you have a legal right to park there, especially if you park toward the front of your photo, where you’d be at the side of their house and not visible from the house.

Technically, I think it’s illegal to park by the entrance to someone’s drive, blocking them in. But if it’s outside your sister’s house when you’re visiting her and have her permission to do it, I can’t see there’d be a problem.

I would find it galling to abide by the neighbour’s unreasonable demand. But it might be better to do it and avoid causing problems for your sister.