Parking - relatives neighbour left note on my car r

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It's a late night parking thread! AIBU?

My sister has recently moved to a new area. She lives in a cul de sac with room for 1 car on her drive. I have visited maybe 2-3 times since she's moved in and parked on the street outside apposite the cul de sac. I visited this evening and when I returned to my car found a note from her neighbour asking me not to park outside their house. No please/thank you, no explanation, just don't park outside our house basically, very blunt. This is a public road FYI. They do not have a driveway, but they do have a double garage a bit further up the road (at the back of their garden I guess). I have attached pictures.

I don't want to cause problems for anyone, especially my sister but there is room for maybe 3-4 cars along that road so surely they're not asking every single person who doesn't live there to move their car?! What do you all think? Crazy people?

That's nonsensical. OP isn't parking outside someone's house, she's parking on the road, which she is legally entitled to do.

Plenty of these people aren't even inconvenienced in any way with having to manoeuvre a tiny bit more to access their drive.

They're just so entitled and self-important that they will spend their time complaining about a vehicle near their home that doesn't actually impact them in any way.

It's just their hobby: making trouble (and damaging any goodwill) for the sheer sake of it. We all know about the teenagers who go around looking to start fights for no reason; this is just the equivalent for likeminded homeowners who are beyond the stage of hanging out with their posse outside McDonalds.

Agreed. Why is it OP and her DSis's job to please and placate him? Why is nobody calling out his appallingly unneighbourly and aggressive behaviour?

She hasn't moved into his home; just on to a street next to which he also happens to occupy one house.

Agreed that there are plenty who think they own that part of the road but also, depending on whether there is a slight bend or a narrow road coupled with a narrow drive or indeed a narrow road and long car can also be a problem. I have small car, wide-ish drive but narrow road so someone parking opposite can create issues which is especially annoying and could easily be resolved by them moving two feet forward. But I don't write notes, I just grumble and glare and do twenty point turns 😂 However I was just pointing out to OP that a little consideration of moving 2 feet could end any disagreements very easily.

I work as a Community Nurse, I have to visit very sick people at home sometimes on an emergency basis (eg picking up an elderly person who has fallen). The council have issued us with passes that allow us to park on double yellows and in council owned car parks as parking in the central town is a nightmare. We have a patient at the moment in an area with nightmare parking issues. All of us Nurses park according to the pass regulations but oh my goodness every time we return to our car a neighbour has left a snotty note on the cars. Recently it was along the lines of just because you have a pass does not mean you are welcome here. I can only imagine these are people with few worries and little going on in their lives, to think we are visiting dying people and this is all they have to worry about blows my mind.

Ignore.

There’s a man living on our daughter’s estate who is obsessed with parking. He stands outside for hours, marching up to tell people they can’t park on the roads. He’s recently taken to putting “no parking, residents only” signs in lamp-posts.

It’s all public highway (son in law checked) with very few yellow lines 🤷‍♀️
Some people are just odd.

The really bitchy part of me hopes he’s stuck on a floor one day and has to wait because his rescuers “ aren’t welcome here”

this reminds me of the day my DD and her DH moved into their new house, and there is no actual parking outside the house, there's a path that leads too a park, and to help with large furniture we reversed the van over the path right up to the side of the house. Yes it was on the grass and yes technically the hugh massive field did have a play area at the end, but for the sake of 1 day to get the big stuff in, it was no issue and the neighbour opposite (not even on her street) posted a letter through her door telling her not to park on the grass again or she will report to the agents who maintain the grounds... so now when we visit we part outside their house.. make me giggle everytime they come out and scowl cos they know damn well, they have no rights to the road outside their house

They've no right to ask this, but for the sake of peace you could park outside a different house, if there is space, and hope not to get another note from that household!

I ignore people if they are breaking parking regulations and they are moving large objects e.g. furniture. Though it is up to them to keep an eye out for the parking attendants I've seen a very large lorry with a ticket on it's windscreen as many of the parking attendants are over 6ft.

So was the passive aggressive note left on the car any worse or better?

Or should the OP have written a sonnet instead?

Either way, the note writing neighbours are unreasonable cunts - and they know it.

That spot would be my new regular parking place.
Your sisters neighbour I'd batshit. It's not her space it's a public road.

Absolutely disgraceful behaviour.

And what's even worse is that, if it were them or their loved one needing you, they would instantly expect the entire world to resolve around them - and they would be furious at any neighbour who treated them in exactly the same way as they're treating their own very vulnerable neighbours now.

Just imagine how he would react if somebody started ordering him or his family/visitors and telling them they couldn't park on their own drive or use their own garden.

Just like he is presuming to do with the council's property.

It is disgraceful behaviour. I had another recently, not a note but a cyclist. I was getting out of my car to see a terminally ill patient so in a rush to get to them as I knew they were in distress. This cyclist saw it as his duty to accost me and came up angrily to tell me I could not park where I was. I directed him to my pass, I still received a mouthful. Can't help but think if i was a man he would have rode on by. Folks get very tetchy about parking, I wish I could have told him to fuck off but alas I was in uniform!

as a cyclist, for me i dont mind where drivers park, as long as they use their mirrors when opening their doors, as a few times drivers open the doors when ive been riding past

This is a whole new thread but… as a driver, and as a pedestrian, I meet cyclists who go through red lights, over zebra crossings without stopping, even the wrong way down roads and on footpaths. Lawless and carefree.

That I can agree with, but on the same side of things, drivers dont use indicators properly at eg roundabouts, drivers use mobile phones, drivers cut across lanes, drivers speed up cut in front of a cyclist just to turn left rather than waiting , some drivers run red lights, etc seems bad apples on both sides, but how any driver thinks its acceptable to use a mobile when driving takes the biscuit

Oh, yes indeed. Same with motorbikes.

A great many of them do ride responsibly and carefully, and abide by the law; but the sheer number of selfish ones who merrily ignore the law and rules of the road, and do whatever dangerous and stupid things they want - and then, when they inevitably come a cropper as a result, they sob about dangerous, reckless car drivers not watching out for them.

Of course, there are plenty of selfish and dangerous drivers who injure and kill people riding responsibly and legally on two wheels; but some of the DARVO from (motor)cyclists is incredible.

Are there other areas of life where you think women should voluntarily restrict their own rights, convenience and enjoyment, just to avoid upsetting an outrageously unreasonable, arrogant man-baby who likes to be in charge?

It won't 'keep the peace' anyway: they'll never be grateful and it will just make the arrogant person feel validated and likely spur them on to make other petty 'laws' that they think you must obey.

As long as you're not sitting there idling the engine or listening to the radio which can be heard anywhere in the vicinity, I think you're fine.

Come again???? I don't think anything of the sort. I am not suggesting that OP 'should' park elsewhere, just that she might choose to, in order to avoid having ridiculous notes left on her car. I don't feel the need to take on every boorish man I encounter, especially if my friend or family member lives close by and may suffer the consequences.

Sorry if that came across more strongly than intended.

But I get so angry with people who like to dictate and put silly restrictions on others, just so they can get off on their own lttle power trip.

They thrive on people - especially women - just falling in line and letting them have their way, and the upper hand, however inconvenient and annoying it may be. Nobody died and made them king!

That's OK. I know what you mean, I don't appreciate that kind of entitlement either, or seeing it treated as the man's right to arbitrarily lay down the law. I also groan about people making a fuss about drivers parking outside their houses, as though they own the pavement and the road itself.