Parking - relatives neighbour left note on my car r

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It's a late night parking thread! AIBU?

My sister has recently moved to a new area. She lives in a cul de sac with room for 1 car on her drive. I have visited maybe 2-3 times since she's moved in and parked on the street outside apposite the cul de sac. I visited this evening and when I returned to my car found a note from her neighbour asking me not to park outside their house. No please/thank you, no explanation, just don't park outside our house basically, very blunt. This is a public road FYI. They do not have a driveway, but they do have a double garage a bit further up the road (at the back of their garden I guess). I have attached pictures.

I don't want to cause problems for anyone, especially my sister but there is room for maybe 3-4 cars along that road so surely they're not asking every single person who doesn't live there to move their car?! What do you all think? Crazy people?

Of course I'd continue to park there. If they had left a nice note saying please don't park here because it causes whatever problem it causes then I would re-consider.

There are double yellow lines opposite my house because it is a fairly narrow one way street and when people park on them it causes larger vehicles to mount the pavement to get past, so I have left notes explaining this rather than a shitty "do not park here"note.

@mangoes1 not everyone will know what you're talking about, but that has to be one of the funniest posts on Mumsnet in a while.
Her explanatory drawing was bizarre and the offensive "boob" did in fact turn out to be an innocent elbow.

A neighbour I used to live by did this to one of our other neighbours, she had the audacity to park outside of his gate and he should be able to park there in case he needed to wash his car apparently She posted the note on our estates FB group and it all kicked off as parking is limited and this man already had a rare space at the top of his garden. He huffily replied that back in the day neighbours were never inconsiderate. He made himself look like a right nob head.

YANBU please keep parking there if not just to annoy them, they clearly have very little to worry about in life.

Can’t you just park across the front of her drive? That’s what I get people visiting to do so do most people on the street

Neighbours can be annoyed but it is a public road. I like the suggestion of making sure you have a dash cam running when parking there as I do think some people can turn nasty (keying cars).

Someone else mentioned yellow lines, this is something the neighbour could argue for to stop this but I believe they need the support of other residents (so if other people use that space to park, then this is unlikely to happen - we had this on our street, we were happy to get the yellow lines as people park so close to the corner, but it was refused as the majority wanted to keep the parking as it suited them better so the council didn't do it).

I hope they’ve put the note on as they don’t realise that you are visiting your sister. Definitely mention it to your sister so if she sees neighbours she can tell them who you are, failing that put a note through their door when you next visit, saying there’s no legal reason why you cannot park there as you are visiting your sister at no. …

Yup.

Call them out on their petty bullying. The only thing bullies understand is getting it right back at them. Might also file a police report for a record.

Absolutely this lol

Note saying: "I am parked legally. If my car is damaged I will know who to report".

The place I get my nails done doesn’t have parking as it’s on a main road. It did but then the council took away the spaces to make the bus stop and pavement bigger 🙄.

There are loads of side streets though, mostly completely unrestricted, apart from a few yards of double yellows. Loads of people in the houses have got signs saying ‘Residents Only Parking’. I just ignore, they don’t own the road and as no one has a driveway that can be blocked (terraced houses), then I’ll park there.

They are being unreasonable.

I love traffic wardens too!!! I have actually said I could do that job as I love rules and pissing people off!! 🤣🤣

This! And if they start all the “I lived here for 20 years” trope, tell them that’s irrelevant and counts for absolutely nothing! That they’ve had their own way for too long and it stops now!

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There's a house like that near me, only we don't have driveways do the street is very much first come first served. They get really funny about it. It is very tempting to park there deliberately, however they genuinely seem like the types that would key my car so I avoid parking anywhere near them at all costs. Does your sister know them? Maybe make sure they aren't nuts before winding them up

Don't do this OP, you'll drag your sister into the batshit if the note leaver knows where she is/whose car it is. Whether you're visiting your sister or popping to the shop or just parking to walk around the lovely estate is none of their business and you can park legally on the road regardless.

Get a dashcam that is powered to stay on when you’re parked. Put a note on your car saying it’s filming and parked legally

As you don’t visit daily, I can see what the problem is. I’d look for somewhere else to park next time, but if there isn’t anywhere else, then so be it. It’s a legal parking space

So give in to bullies and let then have their way, then?

So many areas of life where men make ridiculous and arrogant demands and women are just told to change their own perfectly normal and acceptable routines, just to accommodate men's irrational and selfish preferences.

I agree that OP's DSis has to live there; but once they've given the green light and demonstrated to the neighbour that whatever he wants, he gets without question, what's the next demand? Him ordering her never to mow her lawn on a Saturday afternoon, as he's watching the football and likes to have his window open?

He's a nasty, selfish bully.

I've got a neighbour like that.. there is a parking bay in front of all of our houses. It fits about 4/5 cars depending on how big they are. The space at one end is used by one of the neighbours all the time - which is fine, it's nearest their house.

BUT if anyone parks in it that shouldn't, then they will get a note saying that it's 'legally' their space etc and they are speaking with solicitors.. My electrician got one of the notes for parking there. There are no markings in the bay, it's not their space and they have no legal right over that end spot. If I could I could ask them to show me their "legal" paperwork proving ownership to make a big thing out of it but I won't.

My electrician chose to move his van so as not to cause any friction as I had literally only moved in that week - there are other spaces other than the bay area also (literally tons of parking) so it was no big deal.

I generally use the space at the other end as it's nearer my house.- but on occasion someone else will park there. It's just the way it is, I have to park a tiny bit further away. It's no big deal.

I suppose my point is, some people choose to make life harder for themselves by getting worked up about silly little things like parking. Life is too short for that. Yes we could have made a fuss about the note my electrician got - but honestly is it really worth the bother?!

Personally I'd just move your car along the road a bit and give them their 'space'.. it's really not that big of a deal at the end of the day. And it may prevent any awkwardness or unpleasantness for your sister.

Unless you're obstructing access to drives, garages then you can park where you want.

However, just wondering if you could park on the road at the end of your sister's drive. Only person that'd inconvenience is her.

It was his first visit after I'd moved so I'm not sure he knew exactly which house mine was when he was parking up. And it was all empty so probably felt better to leave it at one end to make it easier for others to park etc.

When you buy a house, it does not entitle you to a piece of the public highway, no matter how close to your house it happens to be. Some people seem to think that house ownership gives them a “right” to park outside their house - it doesn’t. I can understand that you don’t want to upset your sister’s neighbours, but they are being CFs.