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Tony Blair says we need a national conversation about MH as its costing too much

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B0xes · 14/01/2025 11:55

Tony Blair said recently on Jimmy's Jobs of the Future Podcast (clip available on youtube) that we need to have a national conversation about mental health. Why are we spending so much on it. Why are people self diagnosing. He believes people are being encouraged to view everyday challenges we all face as mental health issues.

Is he being unreasonable? In one sense, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, in the other, I believe he led the charge for so many of the social changes that have made us less resilient and many of these issues are due to individualism which led to atomisation and loneliness and being encouraged to see the market as the entity that fulfills our needs rather than strong families and robust social networks.

YABU - Blair can do one.

YANBU - He might have a point

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MrsSunshine2b · 14/01/2025 14:07

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 13:59

But lots of kids don’t like doing things and will say the same ‘I don’t like doing that’- I’m confused, that’s ADHD then? My parents wouldn’t have given me the option, maybe that’s the difference

I agree completely, I definitely wouldn't accept it from my daughter.

Goldfsh · 14/01/2025 14:07

I don't know what the answer is: the problem is that wages are so low that claiming out-of-work benefits becomes for many people a sensible option.

Without a universal basic income, I don't know how people are now going to be incentivised to work.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 14/01/2025 14:08

We had a young woman take a month off work with mental health issues due to having mice in her apartment....
I didn't get paid extra for that month and my mental health suffered from the additional work load.

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:08

Crumpies · 14/01/2025 14:06

Exactly. When your child refuses to do a sport/hobby/trip/attend school because they don’t want to or are anxious, you coach and push them to overcome this. It will be hard but it will be worthwhile.

A friends daughter is a case in point. My friend never said no to her DD, post covid previously fine DD developed anxiety which led to school refusal. Friend didn’t deal with this, instead petted DD because of her ‘anxiety’ The DD is now out of mainstream schooling, diagnosed with autism and retreating into a kind of half life where she only does the things she likes. It’s really really sad

parents who do this are harming their children so much I honestly don’t see what their plan is, heaven forbid they die and they’ve left a child or children completely incapable and essentially ‘disabled’ them. How does that child (now adult) function? It’s so unbelievably short sighted and it’s fucking neglectful parenting.

Jenkib · 14/01/2025 14:08

B0xes · 14/01/2025 11:55

Tony Blair said recently on Jimmy's Jobs of the Future Podcast (clip available on youtube) that we need to have a national conversation about mental health. Why are we spending so much on it. Why are people self diagnosing. He believes people are being encouraged to view everyday challenges we all face as mental health issues.

Is he being unreasonable? In one sense, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, in the other, I believe he led the charge for so many of the social changes that have made us less resilient and many of these issues are due to individualism which led to atomisation and loneliness and being encouraged to see the market as the entity that fulfills our needs rather than strong families and robust social networks.

YABU - Blair can do one.

YANBU - He might have a point

If someone wants to improve / manage their condition then they NEED a diagnosis ( to be able to access medication ) as well as counselling . I am talking from experience here - I want to function / be productive !
It is better to try and improve a situation than just struggle on /potentially get worse.
Perhaps he is talking about those who want it as a 'get out of jail card' - BUT he can't tar everyone with the same brush!

Crumpies · 14/01/2025 14:09

Willyoujustbequiet · 14/01/2025 14:03

Blair is coming from a position of enormous privilege.

He's never had to go to a food bank or sat shivering because he can't afford to put the heating on.

All he demonstrates is a lack of understanding of the issues, many of which he helped cause.

Yes but these are situational reasons that quite understandably might cause depression or feelings of anxiety. I think the issue is with the sheer number of people who are experiencing these feelings in ‘normal’ or privileged circumstances. Why is this so high nowadays

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:09

MrsSunshine2b · 14/01/2025 14:07

I agree completely, I definitely wouldn't accept it from my daughter.

I’d be bloody furious if I was the mum too! (Poster said she was the step mother).
listen, we’re not here to be our children’s friend. Sometimes they’re going to ‘hate’ us, but so is life. The world of work isn’t going to accommodate a rude youth who ‘turns her headphones up’ when she doesn’t like something. The mind boggles, honestly.

Munnygirl · 14/01/2025 14:10

anniegun · 14/01/2025 13:08

Amazing how Alzheimer rates have risen by a similar rate to serious mental health issues and no-one says that those people should just accept that being forgetful is normal and they should just get on with life

Alzheimer’s is a physical disease that attacks the and destroys the brain. It really shouldn’t be lumped together with mental health at all.

Willyoujustbequiet · 14/01/2025 14:10

BIossomtoes · 14/01/2025 14:06

It wasn’t under Blair’s auspices that the number of food banks increased from 35 (2010) to 2,300 now.

I didn't say it was. I hate the tories.

I said he's never used a food bank - a comment on his privilege.

boltt · 14/01/2025 14:11

gamerchick · 14/01/2025 12:11

I got my wrists slapped recently for saying the word resilience. Apparently we shouldn't need to be resilient and the world should be set up so we don't have to be.

Good grief.

I'm so thankful that my children's school view resilience as the number one skill to learn.

'If at first you don't succeed, try, try again!'

Quercus30 · 14/01/2025 14:11

DogInATent · 14/01/2025 14:03

Something needs to change across how society handles mental health, SEN, chronic conditions, and social care. The cost of accepting an enabling holding pattern is going to reach a point it's unaffordable.

Blair/Brown, a divisive era - but they did introduce Sure Start and that level of early intervention is the beginning of what's needed, but that has a fifteen year lead time before the results start to reach their potential.

Unsure how wanting to reduce child poverty is divisive but hey ho. Sure Start should never have been axed. If it started again now, we would not have to wait 15 years to see the benefits. They would be instant. Being a new mum and getting support, advice and forming friendships with other new mums would be instant. Learning how to care for your baby, feed your baby, read to your baby, play with your baby, potty train, look after your baby's teeth, and look out for signs of illness and how to prevent accidents has immediate benefits.

MyLadyGreensleeves · 14/01/2025 14:11

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 14:07

Makes no difference to what we’re talking about. Out of 3.3 million claimants only 1 in 6 of them do any kind of paid work. That’s just the facts

That is absolutely correct.

Whether it is defined as an out of work benefit or not, the result is exactly the same. Instead of getting money from an employer, the claimant gets it from the state.

A rose by any other name and all that.

thestudio · 14/01/2025 14:12

I think he has a point - but you're right about the causes of our lack of resilience and I wish he would state this very clearly - the rise of a consumption society and the move towards individualism that goes along with that is absolutely at the heart of both our loss of resilience on the one hand, and the rise of polarisation (and therefore populism) on the other.

I would like him to take responsibility for the aspects that he was responsible for - but to be honest I'd be happy for that fact to be clearly articulated by someone who has his kind of profile.

Julen7 · 14/01/2025 14:12

Crumpies · 14/01/2025 14:06

Exactly. When your child refuses to do a sport/hobby/trip/attend school because they don’t want to or are anxious, you coach and push them to overcome this. It will be hard but it will be worthwhile.

A friends daughter is a case in point. My friend never said no to her DD, post covid previously fine DD developed anxiety which led to school refusal. Friend didn’t deal with this, instead petted DD because of her ‘anxiety’ The DD is now out of mainstream schooling, diagnosed with autism and retreating into a kind of half life where she only does the things she likes. It’s really really sad

Yes all my school aged children know kids like this, living half a life enabled by the parents

EdithBond · 14/01/2025 14:12

Mickelodeonssnazzypot · 14/01/2025 14:06

Call me old fashioned, but I won't be lectured by a war mongering creature who has the blood of our service men and women, and hundreds of thousands of Iraqui civilians on his hands.

I hope someone’s asking him for his views on the mental health problems of the people you mention. If any of us make decisions, or behave in such a way, as to affect the mental health of others, we should take responsibility for that and (at very least) show some empathy.

OliphantJones · 14/01/2025 14:12

There is a severe lack of personal responsibility amongst society today for both mental and physical health. Very few people are willing to actually put the work in and do the things that are known and proven to help improve their condition(s) and avoid the things that are known to make things worse. They just want a magic pill or hcp to instantly ‘fix’ them.

Almostwelsh · 14/01/2025 14:13

You often see people on here urging posters who have understandable and normal grief following a bereavement or relationship breakdown to see their GP and get antidepressants. Antidepressants are not intended for normal grief and GPs are very limited about what they can offer that will help.

Willyoujustbequiet · 14/01/2025 14:14

Crumpies · 14/01/2025 14:09

Yes but these are situational reasons that quite understandably might cause depression or feelings of anxiety. I think the issue is with the sheer number of people who are experiencing these feelings in ‘normal’ or privileged circumstances. Why is this so high nowadays

Yes they are reactive to their situations but it's a partial explanation as to the increase in MH problems - foodbank usage is through the roof and due to the cost of living crisis many people have found themselves in that position that they never would have previously.

It's bound to impact on MH figures.

apostrophewoman · 14/01/2025 14:14

Hoardasurass · 14/01/2025 13:35

I posted this (below) on another thread about this on the mh board. I would like to add that I've noticed that those of us who have struggled with mental and/or physical health conditions often for years/decades generally do our best to work around/with our problems but the self diagnosed lot it's always the reason why they can't do something.

We've raised a generation that are never challenged even at school different opinions are hidden behind trigger warnings or couched as "problematic". We tell them that nothings there fault it's always someone or something else that's to blame (just look at the teacher threads).Basically we have raised a self absorbed entitled generation of narcissists who expect the world to bend to their will and this words are literal violence™️. When they inevitably face the real world it's a massive shock and they fall back on self IDing mental health "issues" because we haven't equipped them for life in the real world where you have to suck crappie things up

Absolutely spot on.

BIossomtoes · 14/01/2025 14:14

Willyoujustbequiet · 14/01/2025 14:10

I didn't say it was. I hate the tories.

I said he's never used a food bank - a comment on his privilege.

Nor have I. Or anyone I know. It’s not a measure of privilege.

timeforachange999 · 14/01/2025 14:14

MyLadyGreensleeves · 14/01/2025 14:11

That is absolutely correct.

Whether it is defined as an out of work benefit or not, the result is exactly the same. Instead of getting money from an employer, the claimant gets it from the state.

A rose by any other name and all that.

Of course it is entirely possible that many people with disabilities don't bother to claim PIP until they find themselves out of work because of their disabilities, thus skewing the stats.

B0xes · 14/01/2025 14:14

Goldenbear · 14/01/2025 14:06

So you have cut and paste the references for the article that you linked from a completely unknown writer. The writer has made a claim and supported that claim, that is literally what an Academic argument is, you do know that such positions can be scrutinised don't you!

I'm genuinely struggling to understand your point. I've put it all out there for scrutiny? You complained about it being an unknown blogger but it seems quite well backed up consisting exclusively of interview exerts from Blair himself (referenced) and texts by very reputable authors. I honestly don't know what you're taking issue with

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Julen7 · 14/01/2025 14:15

Almostwelsh · 14/01/2025 14:13

You often see people on here urging posters who have understandable and normal grief following a bereavement or relationship breakdown to see their GP and get antidepressants. Antidepressants are not intended for normal grief and GPs are very limited about what they can offer that will help.

And apply for PIP!

MyLadyGreensleeves · 14/01/2025 14:15

@anniegun

Are you seriously saying that Alzeimers Disease is a mental health condition.

For fucks fucking sake-it is a physical disease that calcifies the brain.

I don't know if you are a shit stirrer, a dope or a shitty person but I can't see an alternative title for you.

PunnyRobin · 14/01/2025 14:15

capitalism as a system also needs a rethink because capitalism itself focuses on the individual rather than the betterment of society as a whole

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