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Tony Blair says we need a national conversation about MH as its costing too much

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B0xes · 14/01/2025 11:55

Tony Blair said recently on Jimmy's Jobs of the Future Podcast (clip available on youtube) that we need to have a national conversation about mental health. Why are we spending so much on it. Why are people self diagnosing. He believes people are being encouraged to view everyday challenges we all face as mental health issues.

Is he being unreasonable? In one sense, I'm inclined to agree to an extent, in the other, I believe he led the charge for so many of the social changes that have made us less resilient and many of these issues are due to individualism which led to atomisation and loneliness and being encouraged to see the market as the entity that fulfills our needs rather than strong families and robust social networks.

YABU - Blair can do one.

YANBU - He might have a point

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Skipthisbit · 14/01/2025 16:18

Yalta · 14/01/2025 15:01

If TB doesnt understand why we have so many people with mental health issues then maybe he should come down from his ivory tower and take a look at what is going on

Covid - people living in isolation for years
Companies making staff redundant as there was no work.
No work to pursue beyond supermarket delivery driver etc

The lockdowns meant people were cut off from friends and family for years.

People losing their homes because with no work and no prospect of a job that would pay enough to afford to live they had to sell their homes and watch as their carefully laid out plans became ash

Just because we are back to normal doesn’t mean we are all on the same trajectory as we were. Some people will never recover what that had

And TB is questioning why there is so many people who are depressed

With things like ADHD/ND These aren’t new issues. People have been struggling with these issues their whole life.

The problem was no one knew what exactly ADHD/ND were, especially as there are a differences between males and females

Only with the advent of TikTok, You Tube etc was it explained and people suddenly realised that what some random stranger who lived thousands of miles away was describing was their life, their lived experience.
Again I bring it back to Covid. Lockdowns and WFH took away the structure that people with ADHD/ND had and without the structure the wheels came off their lives and they were left floundering.

With ADHD/ND we are playing catch up on diagnosing all those people who have fallen through the cracks for the last 70 or eighty years.

Add in the COL crisis and Labours efforts to balance the books

I would be very surprised if we didn’t have a mental health crisis

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If we are just better at diagnosing ADHD and ADHD is a neurodiversity as in the brain is different - can I ask why you think that in school systems with a sept to sept school year, the chances of an ADHD diagnosis goes up 500% if you are born in August. But in countries where the system works Jan to Jan, it’s similar amounts more likely to be diagnosed if you are a December child. I don’t believe there are any medical conditions that show such an incredible link to month of birth - it’s a perfect correlation to school year every time. How can that be that your month of birth directly contributes to a medical condition?

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 14/01/2025 16:18

Probablygreen · 14/01/2025 16:10

OK, so who is it that said he had symptoms from childhood? Genuine question.

As I was not directly involved in your step sons diagnosis whatsoever, how the fuck would I know?

Either there was sufficient evidence despite your interpretation of events for a diagnosis to be made or you should complain to the HCPC and the clinic that did the diagnosis as the diagnosing psychiatrist has not followed the diagnostic criteria to make a diagnosis which could possibly mean negligence in seeking an appropriate diagnosis and offering appropriate treatment.

I can't say for sure, but it's likely that your interpretation could be off given you've consistently only recognised your own sons struggles to be genuine.

Sushu · 14/01/2025 16:19

WeylandYutani · 14/01/2025 16:08

Does it matter what percentage is due to MH?
When people highlight the MH figures, it makes it sound like they believe it is not legitimate. Or is something easily fixed.
If the waiting list for operations could be sorted, then maybe the benefits bill for people with physical health conditions could also be reduced. But no one suggests that, as they think people use MH as an excuse, so it is an easy target.

Yes it does matter - not because MH isn’t valid - but because the figures are lower than some people have suggested.
I don’t think less than 3 million adults being too mentally unwell to work is that shocking. I suppose I am trying to disabuse some people of the notion that “everyone” is self diagnosing to claim benefits.

LadyKenya · 14/01/2025 16:19

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 16:17

5 out of 6, are though?

And? Getting a PIP award has nothing to do with whether you work, that is the point that I am making here.

WeylandYutani · 14/01/2025 16:19

MistressoftheDarkSide · 14/01/2025 16:16

Something else I've noticed on this thread and others is the suggestion that parents are seeking support and diagnosis for their children for financial gain or other benefits. I wonder how long before SS are swamped by new referrals for FII (Msbp as was). Some parents are encouraged by other professionals like teachers to seek assessment. Is that going to be yet another alleged epidemic? It might get kids taken off one system and dumped into another where there needs aren't met in any direction.

Parents go through this in the SEND world already, I'll put money on it escalating if attitudes like this keep being pushed.

I know a lady who fought to get her son's struggles recognised. She has ADHD and saw it in him too. She didn't want the money, she wanted the HELP.
It came too late. He took his life before he was even 16.

WeylandYutani · 14/01/2025 16:20

Sushu · 14/01/2025 16:19

Yes it does matter - not because MH isn’t valid - but because the figures are lower than some people have suggested.
I don’t think less than 3 million adults being too mentally unwell to work is that shocking. I suppose I am trying to disabuse some people of the notion that “everyone” is self diagnosing to claim benefits.

You can't self diagnose and claim anyway. I had to send in evidence from professionals.

MerryMaker · 14/01/2025 16:21

LadyKenya · 14/01/2025 16:19

And? Getting a PIP award has nothing to do with whether you work, that is the point that I am making here.

It actually does. Almost impossible to get PIP if you have a mental health illness

Dolphinnoises · 14/01/2025 16:21

VickyEadieofThigh · 14/01/2025 15:26

He's been out of office for almost 20 years - who do you think is responsible for the state of the NHS since then?

Sorry, that was irony. I credit the previous Labour government with the four hours, and Andrew Lansley and various Tory governments with what we are now contending with

ACynicalDad · 14/01/2025 16:24

He's right; resilience is a vital leadership trait that needs developing in everyone as children and in the workplace.

SharpOpalNewt · 14/01/2025 16:24

Yalta · 14/01/2025 16:03

My diagnosis was with the NHS. I was 59 and I scored 9/9 for all 4 areas

Not everyone goes private

A lot of people have to go private as the NHS will not even refer you.

Missing two years of school and being unable to get out of bed was not severe enough for CAMHS. Even if we did get a referral we'd have been waiting until after she had finished school for an appointment.

JenniferBooth · 14/01/2025 16:24

Rivett · 14/01/2025 15:08

The problem with MH is it’s hard to know whether something is true or not and whether it’s mild or severe. People can play the system and like in every walk of life, some do. It sadly reflects badly on anyone who stuffer helps with genuine MH/disorders and makes people question the validity of their claim, which isn’t fair.

It’s not surprising we’re in this situation though if you look back at the last 100 years and how things have changed (and not for the better in some circumstances).

There is no accountability these days. Teachers/Police aren’t respected and the answer they are given is often “What you gonna do fucking do about it?”

Imagine the generation who had to go to war and fight knowing they could get killed but they had to just get in with it, 17,18 year old boys. They would be turning in their graves if they could see the state of the society we have become. A man puts a dress on, says he’s a woman and then that’s that, he’s a woman’s and if you dare to query it and point out with the negative implications then you’re branded all sorts.

I dread to think what kind of world it will be in 50 years, luckily I’ll probably not be here to find out but so many changes need to be made as it’s no wonder we’ve got a feckless generation who can’t cope with every day life!

Having said that, some people need to know their own privilege. Some people are born in to a situation whereby their life is a lot easier than the next person so it’s not as simple as tarring everyone with the same brush. Life is harder for some people than others.

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There is no accountability You are absolutely right. If there was someone or more than one would be in prison for Grenfell.
Housing associations have no accountability at all. I have a thread on here about a contractor who stabbed a tenant. Its only a few posts long If it had been the tenant who stabbed the contractor the thread would be full up by now Accountability needs to work both ways. But it fucking doesnt.

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 14/01/2025 16:25

bridgetreilly · 14/01/2025 12:12

Tony Blair needs to get over his messiah complex and shut up.

Absolutely this. Who gives a fuck what he has to say about absolutely anything under the sun.

Shut up Blair.

mathanxiety · 14/01/2025 16:26

JHound · 14/01/2025 12:12

You cannot just click your fingers into being resilient.

Correct.

But (diagnosed clinical anxiety and anxiety disorders aside) you can make a conscious decision to practice it and take small steps that will help develop it.

In fact many patients who have a diagnosis of anxiety are encouraged to face particular triggers and work through them.

Avenuesandboulevards · 14/01/2025 16:28

MyLadyGreensleeves · 14/01/2025 14:15

@anniegun

Are you seriously saying that Alzeimers Disease is a mental health condition.

For fucks fucking sake-it is a physical disease that calcifies the brain.

I don't know if you are a shit stirrer, a dope or a shitty person but I can't see an alternative title for you.

Perhaps what that poster was saying is that genuine mental health issues deserve the same respect and treatment as other issues.
I thought mental health stigma was being broken down but it seems it is alive and well judging by this thread. Heartbreaking for those suffering from conditions that can cause more pain and suffering than some of the worst physical health conditions (I have suffered from both so can confidently make this statement)

Perhaps in future they will find the physical reason for mental health problems, I really hope they do so we can end this attack on genuine sufferers

JenniferBooth · 14/01/2025 16:29

Sushu · 14/01/2025 15:23

I’m sorry for your loss. 💐
That was a ridiculous and untrue comment from that poster. There’s nothing wrong with seeking talking therapies / support for things like job loss, redundancy or divorce etc. I’d argue it makes you more resilient to recognise you need to talk and work through it. You’re not self diagnosing a mental ilnesss. You’re saying “this normal life experience is hard and I want to talk to someone who isn’t a friend or family members”. That’s a healthy, positive response. I hope you do seek any help where you need it, you deserve that.

Thankyou @Sushu Flowers

Probablygreen · 14/01/2025 16:30

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 14/01/2025 16:18

As I was not directly involved in your step sons diagnosis whatsoever, how the fuck would I know?

Either there was sufficient evidence despite your interpretation of events for a diagnosis to be made or you should complain to the HCPC and the clinic that did the diagnosis as the diagnosing psychiatrist has not followed the diagnostic criteria to make a diagnosis which could possibly mean negligence in seeking an appropriate diagnosis and offering appropriate treatment.

I can't say for sure, but it's likely that your interpretation could be off given you've consistently only recognised your own sons struggles to be genuine.

OK, I’ll tell you - he did. I know that because he told me. Maybe I should have complained, but to be honest, I didn’t because it’s really none of my business. He’s an adult and can do as he pleases. It’s not my place to tell the NHS they’re completely screwed. It does illustrate the issue with adult diagnoses though.
You seem to be of the opinion that I didn’t care about my stepson and only care about my son, but that’s incorrect. I love my stepson, and to this day we get on very well. If there were any need to get him support in childhood, of course I would have done. I didn’t, because he didn’t need it. You can believe it or not, because I have no way of proving it to you.

Cynic17 · 14/01/2025 16:30

I never thought I'd say this, but Tony Blair is absolutely right on this occasion.

Julen7 · 14/01/2025 16:32

Skipthisbit · 14/01/2025 16:10

Indeed! I am literally astonished at the cognitive dissonance of people who will still claim that PIP is almost “impossible” to get when 1 in 16 adults are claiming it. That DLA is equally “impossible” yet 1 in 10 children now received it.
1 in 20 now have an EHCP plan. And yet it is apparently all “extremely rare” and impossibly difficult.

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I have said all this before but some posters on MN just will not have it.

LadyKenya · 14/01/2025 16:35

Julen7 · 14/01/2025 16:32

I have said all this before but some posters on MN just will not have it.

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Maybe because they have personal experience of how difficult the process is. Do you?

Julen7 · 14/01/2025 16:39

LadyKenya · 14/01/2025 16:35

Maybe because they have personal experience of how difficult the process is. Do you?

Yes I do as it happens but that isn’t relevant at all to the point people are making, which is that if the number receiving PIP and DLA is so high it can’t possibly be impossible to get. This is what a PP referred to as cognitive dissonance, and they are correct.

SharpOpalNewt · 14/01/2025 16:39

Julen7 · 14/01/2025 16:32

I have said all this before but some posters on MN just will not have it.

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Do you not know anyone who has a genuine long term health condition or disability?

As per my earlier post, if I can think of several adults and children I know who this applies to. If most people can think of several, that's an awful lot of people. And I'm a middle class professional - I'm talking about other professional or hard working people not people who have never worked looking for a state handout.

I also know of several people who have had to give up work to become a full time carer. They may get some help from the state but they are also saving the taxpayer so much money compared with if the state had to give the care.

JenniferBooth · 14/01/2025 16:40

Twirlyboobs · 14/01/2025 15:37

Maybe the voucher idea is a good one. If it’s a mental health claim then you get targeted therapy via vouchers, and the rest can be traded for food / heating / clothing etc. not cigarettes, alcohol, vapes and the like.

Alcohol and vapes? Now we are getting to the truth of it. The assumption that everyone on benefits smokes and drinks.

DH and I live in social housing and dont do either.

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 14/01/2025 16:41

Probablygreen · 14/01/2025 16:30

OK, I’ll tell you - he did. I know that because he told me. Maybe I should have complained, but to be honest, I didn’t because it’s really none of my business. He’s an adult and can do as he pleases. It’s not my place to tell the NHS they’re completely screwed. It does illustrate the issue with adult diagnoses though.
You seem to be of the opinion that I didn’t care about my stepson and only care about my son, but that’s incorrect. I love my stepson, and to this day we get on very well. If there were any need to get him support in childhood, of course I would have done. I didn’t, because he didn’t need it. You can believe it or not, because I have no way of proving it to you.

So because your adult step son was incorrectly diagnosed and neither of you challenged the diagnosis, nobody else can truly have ADHD unless they received a diagnosis as a child? Uh huh, got it. True story.

User32459 · 14/01/2025 16:42

apostrophewoman · 14/01/2025 13:14

Absolutely this. Without resilience, there is only half a life if you don't live it or spend it crippled by MH. At times in my life, particularly during a relationship break up, selling the house, having nowhere to go, I have been, literally and figuratively, on my knees. I was suicidal and only my dogs stopped me doing it - them and the mantra and belief I live by which is 'things always get better'. You might have to wait a while and push on through, but they do and I hold onto that every time life is shit. I do believe, that for many people (and I work in a school and see it every day) mental health/anxiety is an excuse to not participate in life, and in many young people that's because they are pandered to and excused instead of being given the tools and support to stand up.

Before people jump on me, I have been suicidal - I'm not bashing anyone with true MH issues.

Yeah, the softer society becomes the worse the problem gets.

We see it all the time with soft parenting, soft policing, soft teaching, soft managing.

It's counter productive. People need boundaries.

WeylandYutani · 14/01/2025 16:42

Julen7 · 14/01/2025 16:39

Yes I do as it happens but that isn’t relevant at all to the point people are making, which is that if the number receiving PIP and DLA is so high it can’t possibly be impossible to get. This is what a PP referred to as cognitive dissonance, and they are correct.

A lot of people apply and get turned down. Not because they are not entitled, but because it is a lottery as to who is reading your paperwork, and how you word it.
Like I said, I knew someone who is blind who was turned down. Also people who walked with crutches.

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