DD relationship with 50 yr old

[Bonniethecat1]

I have found out my DD is in sexual relationship with a man who turned 50 in August and she is not far off turning 25.. I think he is using her and how can I convince her to stop seeing him, she actually has admitted feelings for him, aibu to think this is so wrong? I can't stand this.

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There is some vile ageism on this thread

He is bloody ROBBING her fertile years yes, and most people do want kids which is why most people have them at some point. The poor girl will never have that chance. It’s so damn selfish at every level.

It's an idiotic offensive stereotype tbh. I'm a very wealthy gay man but even I am aware of how desirable it makes you for a lot of women and that there are nowhere near enough wealthy people to go around.

Combine this with the fact that most wealthy people know this and are much more intelligent/assertive than the average person I don't see how it would be possible to gain more than a few pennies gold-digging without a real connection, since the gold-digger is extremely replaceable if she starts asking for more than a few pennies. It just won't work irl if there isn't a spark.

I'm (27) currently in a relationship with a 48 yo guy and it's purely because he's kind and I find him attractive, we have been together 5 years now and are very happy together and are considering adoption in maybe 5 years time.

In the gay community age gaps are much more acceptable and it's not because of abuse or similar, it's because there isn't the toxic idea that sex devalues/degrades the receiving partner and that they should be getting something in return.

HE IS NOT ROBBING HER OF ANYTHING!

She is an adult. She can make a decision about who she sees. She can make the decision to not have children. She can have children later if the relationship fizzles out. She can adopt if she wants children later on.

She isn't a "poor girl" she is a grown ass woman making her own choices

No, there is a lot of women judging a grubby 50yr old man having a 25yr old girlfriend.

That isn't ageist. If he had a 50yr old gf no one would care less.

Oh get over yourself Martin. It’s not cool or clever to go for girls young enough to be your kid. It’s not about you and your ego, but what you are taking away from someone else. You have had your life, let the youngsters enjoy theirs.

It’s minging but there’s nothing you can do. Tell her once that you’re concerned about his intentions but ultimately it’s her decision and you will respect that. Then don’t say anything else unless asked. It will just make her stop telling you things and maybe stop her spending time with you.

Did a kook raise your daughter to have no common sense at all?
No! You raised her to have a good head on her shoulders.
Give her the space and respect to use it.

Never really fancied George Clooney, but think he's definitely getting fiiiine with age!
Must be the greying hair ❤️😁

The ageism comes from the way posters are talking about a 50 year old man (50 is hardly old nowadays) like he's about to drop dead any second

She is too young to know what she is giving up! And robbing her of her young years is really unforgivable.

Lots of 50 year old men DO drop dead isn’t that the whole point. You are not immune from the statistics.

Well said.

I met a man aged almost 40 when I was in my teens who became my first serious relationship. My family, despite being unhappy, accepted and let it run its course. That made it much easier for me to leave when it ultimately unravelled. We were together for years and had loads of great experiences. I wanted children and he didn’t and it ended for the sensible reason that we were at different life stages. I met my DH and he met a woman nearer his own age. I wouldn’t say we’re friends as our lives drifted too far for that but we had an amicable break up. Your DD will more than likely not live out the rest of her life with this man but going in hard and heavy and disapproving may make her dig in. Leave it be.

Oh get over yourself Wild...

I'm 31. I wouldn't disregard a 50 year old tbh

And stop talking about it like the woman in question has no autonomy. That's just demeaning

Stop infantilising grown adults.

What is it? Some delayed onset paedophilia? Disgusting.

This is completely trivialising the horror that is actual paedophilia and is a ridiculous thing to say.

FFS -:the guy is 50 not 90!

She's 25!

She knows what she fucking wants you Vile person

She doesn't need you infantalising her and making out she's some poor young thing incapable of thinking through her actions

Fucking stop it

Many of us will be a similar age with similar aged dc! It isn't old no, it is too old to have a 25yr old gf or bf though.

Delayed Peadophilia?

She's TWENTY FIVE!

That is a devious plan!