I think that's fair enough if the bowing and scraping is to the role to be polite but not deferential if you don't believe the role deserves deference.
I think deference in the public is a bit ' serf-y' but harmless. However, the deference by people in authority is more harmful. As said above, the government makes and passes laws, but the Monarch can and does lobby for exemptions from proposed laws to benefit themselves, regularly. The government ( of all stripes) then fall over themselves to do it. The courts agree to keep their secrets, the press stay quiet about what they know, and minimise revelations and investigations unless it's about Andrew or Harry when they go to town. Parliament, the courts and the press have a job to do in a democracy, and that is to hold the powerful to account. Not protect the powerful, especially when there is no way to remove them. Parliament should be at the very least, have to declare exemptions given to the Monarch from proposed legislation, and the reasons why instead of it being hidden in plain sight, knowing that a deferential press and most MPs won't bother to highlight or scrutinise it. The Monarchy when questioned can always say 'We fully comply with the Law' when the Law says they don't have to comply with it.