Father’s behaviour towards child

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I am after some quick opinions on a situation this evening.

4 year old was in the bathroom before bed, and ‘D’P decided it would be funny to lock them in from outside. I asked him not to but was ignored. Unsurprisingly, 4YO got upset and cried when they realised they couldn’t open the door (they could have unlocked it from inside, but panicked).

4YO ran straight to me afterwards as they knew DP had locked the door. DP then told them they weren’t a baby anymore and should think about the situations they are in and not cry (to clarify - DC IS FOUR YEARS OLD!).

I’m just left with a really bad feeling and don’t know if I am overreacting.

YABU - totally fine and normal behaviour from DP
YANBU - not normal and cruel

He's a bully. End of.

WTF 😬 4 years old..

DP then told them they weren’t a baby anymore and should think about the situations they are in and not cry

What a prick. I don't actually have any advice because the only thing going through my head is what a prick.

Bully. Nasty bully.

What exactly did he think anyone would find amusing about a grown arsed man locking a child anywhere? I'd not accept that behaviour being directed towards me let along towards a small child.
It's utterly dreadful.

Protect your son

Agree.
Psychopathic behaviour.

That's incredibly mean. Your child might get nervous using the bathroom again with his idiot dad around.

Maybe you and DC could lock your partner somewhere and just tell him to grow up when he shouts to be let out?

Utter bellend

Lock him outside and tell him he needs to think about situations. What a prick.

That is nasty, bullying behaviour and not on at all.

Yep he is a bully. Now you know that, can you think of other occasions when he has been an arsehole?

Bizarre, cruel and genuinely worrying behaviour. Is he your DS's dad?

Wow, how to give the kid a future phobia. He sounds like a dick and I would be thinking about my options.

The biggest red flag going. Leave this shitty bully now.

Is he your son's father? It's a bizarre and cruel thing to do. He might be testing you to see how much abuse he can get away with. Huge red flag there.

What a twat. I would be very concerned if my husband did that.

Yes. He even asked you and still did it. He intended to upset this children.

Trust me this man is trouble for the child

Poor child. A father who bullies and abuses him and a mother who is failing to protect him.
Get your child out of that situation, DH (not that he would) would only have to do that once to our children.

My DS accidentally got stuck in a room once for about five minutes when he was about 6. (We were downstairs and didn't hear him at first) The door handle was stuck but we opened it easily from the outside. Took him about 2 years to get over it, he refused to ever shut a door.

Your DH is a nasty man.

It's just means behaviour isn't it, I mean it would have been one thing if he'd done it and then realised he messed up and was sorry about it but to then call a 4yo a baby because they were upset? That's a horrible thing to do

So upsetting. Locking a child in a room. Horror film stuff

is he your son's dad?

Why didn't you handle it appropriately?

Horrible, nasty and cruel. I would not be staying with anyone who dared to treat my child like that.

Ah bless you son. Poor little thing. To be honest I'd panic if I thought I was locked in a room let alone a 4 year old.

Let's hope this man ends up locked away in prison. Won't be so funny then, will it?