Would you give this to your partner if that is what he wants?

[Interestingone]

Would you send a naked photograph to your partner if he asked?
Just that really. I am not sure if this is the norm between couples. Mine has asked but I'm not sure if I should or not.

How do you feel?
Would you or have you?

When he's wfh? That's naughty!

No.

No.
It's a boundary I will never cross.

Haha same with the vids 😆

I take them because I like taking naked pics of myself sometimes I send them to my husband, sometimes I dont!

I think I look good so in the minuscule chance that they somehow got leaked. I wouldn't mind so much... I don't find it embarrassing or shameful. And if all else fails I could just claim its an AI deep fake 😅

Yes, I would.

But no issues with anyone else choosing not to.

No, and I’d re - evaluate the type of person I was with if he asked me to send naked pictures, it’s a bit sleazy. I don’t send naked pictures. If he wants to see me naked he can do so in person. It would make me want to dump somebody.

This is exactly my policy.

Wtf re the getting fired thing above. Maybe if your job was pr for a no nudity cult.

I've sent pics before where I've just not included my face, or if I have then I've kept the pictures tamer. Tbf if you send a bloke a pretty boring pic, say a cheeky flash of thigh in tights. They still tend to get excited 😆

Fun? Regular people's bodies are just gross - I feel sick sometimes just catching some contours briefly, underneath leggings and denims and t-shirts. Spready arses, tone-less guts, even on skinny people. And so many thunder-thighs on men and women! And they think they are irresistible, good enough to send a picture of themselves! So sad and pathetic. Olympic athletes, yes, by all means, their bodies are works of art, but regular joes with their home-made porn? Please....spare the feelings!

Yes of course.
It would be a non-issue for me.

But that doesn’t mean that you should do it.
If you are not comfortable, then you are not comfortable.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else’s boundaries are.
There will be things that you do in your marriage that others don’t do and that’s fine too.

Men are much more open minded than this. It's really good for self esteem ime.

Well wow.

Maybe not a firm no? I've sent photos from the neck down before, just in case husband's phone was stolen or hacked.

You obviously have some weird issues with other peoples bodies but most people love their partners body and enjoy touching it and kissing it, as well even looking at it (shock horror 😱)

No one is asking you to watch their porn.

If you don’t find your own partner attractive then perhaps you’re with the wrong one.

I’ve only ever done this with DH, but never with my face on them, DH has sent me a few as well 🤷‍♀️ and it was pre kids days…when I was younger and a lot more attractive 😂 It would be highly unlikely I’d ever be recognised if they ever got spread around off to ask DH if he still has them- and I’m 15 years older my body doesn’t look like it used to.

Id love to do a boudoir photo shoot - just never had the confidence 🤷‍♀️

I don’t think he’d ask me now..as we have teen kids and guess we know the dangers around revenge porn, these days nothing online is safe no matter how much we like to kids ourselves it is.

I sent my husband some shots of me in my underwear when we were dating. My face isn’t in them and my body looks great. He’d never show anyone but if he’d turned out to be a wrong’un it wouldn’t upset me that they were out there. I wouldn’t ever send something I’d be embarrassed about. In fact, he found them the other day in his hard drive and was very happy. I don’t look quite like that after 3 kids and 10 years so it’s nice to have them.

But OP if you have to ask if you should do something like this then you’re not comfortable and it should be a hard no. He’s not a twat for asking but even the slightest pressure from him and you should run for the hills.

I often send nudes, but I'm sure there are plenty of old nudes of me floating around anyway from a previous job 😆

This is such an awful, spiteful comment.
Just because you don’t find it attractive, doesn’t mean it isn’t.
It isn’t just Olympic athletes that are sexy.

No. He made that request very, very early on in our relationship and I flat out said no. Never mentioned again. Would never do it.

It’s not sleazy at all, you just don’t like it.

No,no,no.

Hard No.

As a rule it’s always a good idea to hold some strong boundaries like this. It’s a great way of filtering out the crap guys*

I once sent my dh (of 15 years at the time) a picture that I then deleted. It was medical rather than sexual, but I didn’t want it hanging around. I had to delete it from 6 or 7 locations on our two phones between the original photo, then the deleted photos (saved for 30 days) then the WhatsApp message, cache, from my phone then similar on his phone. Be aware of this if you’re asking someone to delete a picture of you on their phone, that it’s not a one and done gesture!

*editing to add that I don’t think asking makes him a crap guy; it’s whether he respects your boundary that matters.

If you and your partner behave like apes, sorry, like monkeys and like flashing body parts, that is a psychiatric deviation, called exhibitionism. Does not make it even remotely normal, normalise it all you like.

Depends. If I had any (and I mean ANY!) doubts about whether I could trust him (now or at any point in the future) then I would not.
If I hadn’t known him long enough to have a real sense of who he is as a person, then I would not.
The fact that you are here asking…. Just don’t!