To think I’m not doing anything wrong

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Back to work on Monday after a lovely 2 weeks off! I’m currently reading a book (well I was before I came on here) with a glass of wine and left over Pringles from Christmas.

DH was out doing his hobby and he’s just come back home and asked me why I was drinking. I said I’m having a glass of wine, not exactly having shots rolling around everywhere. He said that I shouldn’t be drinking while looking after DC and that drinking alone in the house when it’s not Christmas anymore is “weird” DC1 is upstairs in their room and DC2 is sat on the floor playing.

AIBU?

Loving that having one glass of wine and reading a book whilst children amuse themselves without another adult in the house has become a scenario of a socially dysfunctional, neglectful mother who is denying her alcohol addiction.

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Well judging from others above, not everyone agrees with you.

So i can NEVER have a drink then? Until they are both 18?

@BeLilacSloth And? That’s fine. What’s your point?

Or you could get a babysitter while you drink??

Then ignore and move on. Why interact if you think it's a stupid post 🤔

A single glass of wine is not 'day drinking'. You make it sound like OP was on a bender.

You really need to unclench.

Well, now your husbands home why don’t you get back to your wine and leave me alone…

Oh my God you are so funny. You're on the ops thread telling her not to answer your posts to her op?! Hilarious

This thread is enough to make anybody turn to drink. There are some absolute nut jobs on here.

You’re commenting repeatedly on her thread…

@BeLilacSloth You’re on my thread?

God I think even I need a drink now and I haven’t drank in years!

Don’t worry though, DD1 is fast asleep and DD2 is roaming the front room enjoying some peace from her big sister!

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It's threads like this that stop me from leaving Mumsnet. There are so many truly bonkers and anal people on this forum that it makes me feel so good about my life and just how normal it is 😆😆

Exactly this. If you are the responsible person present with children, you should not be drinking.

I’d be secretly watching dh’s alcohol consumption in future

How utterly ridiculous!!! Over one glass of wine on an afternoon. Get a grip.

That old chestnut about driving....So many people don't have access to cars - in my city it's one in three families. If that was the only way of accessing medical care we'd be fucked as a nation!

Threads like these are truly the gifts that keep on giving🤣

God help her husband??

OP is in the same house, has been interacting with her kids all day and right there to interact with them the second they want to.

Yet her DH was out of the house and wasn’t interacting with the kids, nor was he there if they want to interact with him, yet OP is seen as the bad parent in this situation.

I’m not saying the DH has done anything wrong by being out of the house because he’s not but isn’t it funny how posters are judging the mum for reading a book/not giving her undivided attention to the kids 24/7 and God forbid having a glass of wine too!
Yet the dad is not even in the house, he’s out doing his hobby not interacting with the kids at all and yet that’s fine apparently.

To the poster who thinks she was a superior mother because she read and drank in secret

seriously ??? You only read in bed after a hard days parenting ???and felt that drinking must be done out of view of children ???
you really think that kids need to be “interacted” with for 12 hours a day …. I’d go mad , utterly utterly mad

Surely if they are so poorly that they need to be taken to the hospital, you would call an ambulance anyway?

And 1 drink is fine to drive on and OP does have a DH that I’m sure isn’t too far away or there’s taxis/buses that non drivers use too.

I think that's totally normal and I really know something about problem drinking. In other cultures it's totally normal to have a drink for lunch or brunch.
Also people who think you have to interact with your children all the time are really doing them a disservice. Indepent play promotes good mental health.

Firstly, if a child is fully engaged in their play an adult wading in to "interact" with them is unhelpful for their development, creativity and learning.

Secondly, if child sees a parent reading a book it has a positive impact and sends the message that it is an enjoyable activity. With children increasing less interested in reading for its own sake this is a valuable example to set.

Thirdly, OP was drinking one glass of wine, presumably not at speed as she was relaxing with a book and crisps. Her children, had they even recognised that she was drinking alcohol would have seen that it was done responsibly and with moderation.

Yes, I have always actively made an effort to read in front of my children, to encourage good habits. All of my children are very very keen readers.