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To be horrified at how much worse the "grooming gangs" actually were than I thought

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OneAmberFinch · 04/01/2025 13:36

There are several other threads about Elon Musk, Labour, Jess Phillips, etc.

I don't want to discuss them in this thread. The other threads keep getting derailed and I just want a place to discuss how absolutely horrifying the new details that emerged this week are.

I knew that there were "grooming gangs" who would entice girls in care or from broken homes to be their "boyfriends" by giving them cigarettes and vapes, for example.

I didn't know that girls as young as 11 were being brutally tortured and raped, that people had been killed over it, including one policeman who arranged for some of the rapists to get off, houses burnt down. I didn't know the details of the violent gang rapes which I won't repeat here but you can find on X.

I'm just genuinely shocked and horrified.

Some of the court transcripts circulating are from 2013. How did I not know?

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FOJN · 04/01/2025 14:56

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 14:47

The other point to make is there is a religious element to this. Hindus and Sikhs were also targeted. Any non Muslim girl was considered "dirty" and therefore fair game; little girls from deprived areas were easy meat. It is according to the House of Lords, in every major city and runs into the hundreds of thousands in the last 25 years. And the head of the CPS who did not prosecute the grooming gangs is currently sitting in Number 10 in his designer glasses and Labour are refusing a national enquiry in order to protect him.

Charlie Peters reported that Muslim girls were abused too but that took place within the family and they weren't passed around like non Muslim victims. I don't think they've ever been considered and probably have no hope of seeing justice for the crimes committed against them.

thrifty24 · 04/01/2025 14:57

I did not realise there were murder cases? Any link?

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 14:57

penelopelondon · 04/01/2025 14:55

Lets not forget Saville who was whiter than white and how the whole system, the BBC, police and government covered up for his crimes ALL his life. His victims were mostly children from vulnerable backgrounds too, or Mohammed Alfayed (owner of Harrods) who despite tons of women going to the police to acuse him of rape he was never prosecuted.

Those are individual cases. We are talking about 250,000 victims across all major cities here. It's in a different league numbers wise.

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 04/01/2025 14:58

I don't think cover-ups need to be conspiracies and organised at the highest levels. They can be what we're seeing here - unspoken, organisational cultures.

Fairyliz · 04/01/2025 14:58

Surely you know why this was suppressed?
The worst crime in the UK is not the rape and torture of young white girls but god forbid being accused of racism.

WinterBones · 04/01/2025 14:58

people saying there weren't gang controlled areas in the towns where this was going on clearly never lived there.

It was/is well known by those of us who live in these towns that this shit was going on, how rife it was, how BAD it was (and still is)

We have been saying all this since it started to come out, but whenever we bought it up we were accused of being racist, and shut down, and deleted.

YANBU to be horrified... YABU to have not listened the first time around.

motheroflittledragon · 04/01/2025 14:59

Tracystubbs · 04/01/2025 14:50

It's still going on

My ds works at the hospital of my home town

He never,ever tells me anything to do with the patients of his job (normally)

But,one night he rang me
'Mum,to you know of a girl called xy?'
Me-'no,but I know of a girl called xz'
Him-'thats her'

He went on to tell me that she (at the time about 2/3 years ago) was about 14/15 and had been put into care because her mum had died

The endless string of 'new dads' didn't want to know her,her geandparents where dead,her siblings had all grown up in care themselves and where in no fit state to look after her,so off to a care home she went

She had a 'boyfriend' aged 35-40 and she'd ended up in hospital as he'd battered her so badly,she was in intensive care

She'd been 'paid' with drugs,booze and vapes-her insides where a mess-she'll never have kids herself

Ds had to sling out the 'boyfriend' who was hanging around to make sure she didn't talk once she woke up (if she woke up-she was very ill but thankfully survived)

He came back the following day-he wasn't there out of love for her

I told ds to phone the police and I'd phone ss
I wish I was joking when I say that all we got back was

'Silly girl,she made those lifestyle choices'
'What do you want us to do about this?'
'She's old enough to make her own choices'
'Dating him is her choice'
'If she gets pregnant,we can force her to abort'
'Silly girl'
'We can't monitor who she dates'

Not one person was bothered,nobody thought this was odd,she'd made her choice to sleep with him and they couldn't do anything

The care home where even worse-they where paying him (taxi driver-he made them pay real cash to drive her off to abuse her)/allowing her to go off with him to God knows where

They made no attempt to stop her or even ask why a 35-40 year old bloke was 'dating' a 14/15 year old girl

She got too old for him (she dared to get to 16 and was beaten as a dumping present) and he dumped her-him and the others are still out there-the police know who he and his mares are,but don't give a fuck

That's just one girl,living in a lovely city that many people will have visited and had a lovely time there

Everyone needs to sit up and do something-one girl is one too many but these bastards know they can do anything they like and get away with it

Reading this really breaks my heart. You would hope lessons have been learned

AncientAndModern1 · 04/01/2025 15:00

Boffle · 04/01/2025 14:50

I don't think that's true.
Even now the media call them "grooming gangs". A euphamism for public consumption.
Even rape is too mild a term for what was done. I read some of those transcripts on X and I can never unsee the image in my head. The deparivity of those men is beyond my imagination. None of those details were on the news or in the media.

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But they were! This is from 2013 https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-21445538. Certain extremely explicit/upsetting details are often omitted in court reporting on the grounds that they might traumatise readers and because children may read them. This is normal and applies to all types of distressing details in different types of crimes.

iwishihadaname · 04/01/2025 15:00

Thecrawdadssing · 04/01/2025 14:29

I don’t know why people are acting as if other child abuse scandals get the focus that it should. but this one didn’t due to it being Asian men. It was all over the paper around 2016 and beyond. Constantly hear ( usually thick racist) people bringing it up under every and any news piece online

How many have heard of this one which is one of Scotland’s worst ever?

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-67883859.amp

As a whole society is plagued with sex offenders who target children and vulnerable women and we as a whole - not enough is done about it.

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No never seen any news on this sex gang

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 15:00

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 14:55

No it's about facts. It's not about a big political point or "racisim". It's about what happened and why. We need to acknowledge it so we can know why something happened in order to prevent it happening again.

Here is the testimony of a survivor. Harrowing and explains why the Muslim offenders targeted non- Muslim girls thus indicating a religious element.

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Phobiaphobic · 04/01/2025 15:01

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 04/01/2025 14:15

Do you mean the accounts of abuse? The testimony given at trial? Did you really need to read every graphic detail before you could summon up some outrage and empathy? These girls were horrifically abused. That’s why many (though not all) the men involved were jailed.

I was the same as the OP though. I thought that what was happening was that young girls from difficult backgrounds or in care were voluntarily entering into these relationships, albeit that they were too young in some cases to legally consent to sex. I knew that police and social workers were turning a bllind eye. It was all bad enough, and the classism was shocking, but I had NO IDEA that there was extreme sexual torture, gang rape, violence, intimidation and murder.

Exactly the same. I thought they were being coerced into regular sex with individual blokes, not brutally gang raped and tortured. I had no idea. I am horrified and absolute furious that people in authority knew this and did so little. Some of these men were even given deportation orders that were never acted upon.

KnitFastDieWarm · 04/01/2025 15:01

Pretending that the problem isn’t related to the views and behaviour of a certain demographic of british pakistani muslim men is a) not going to make the problem go away and b) is astonishingly insulting to the vast majority of british muslim men of all backgrounds who wouldn’t dream of doing something so appalling, regardless of their personal/cultural views on women.

This behaviour HAS to be universally condemned from all sides, without any misplaced ‘racial sensitivity’ bullshit that patronises and demeans the law-abiding and non-abusive vast majority of british muslim men. The public need to see these rapists and child abusers being denounced by the authorities and by their own communities like the scum that they are. That’s the only way forward for both community harmony and the safety of vulnerable children of all backgrounds.

TheBlackSheepbaaaa · 04/01/2025 15:02

Thatcastlethere · 04/01/2025 14:56

They were mostly children living in poverty and considered vulnerable. Majority in and out of care situations.. some living with their families but still in vulnerable situations.. a few middle class girls.
These grooming gangs specifically targeted vulnerable girls. So it IS very important to focus on that aspect. Children growing up in care and living in poverty need greater protection.

I'm not disputing that children growing up in care and living in poverty need greater protection, I'm pointing out that not all victims were part of the care system. The 3 girls I know of came from 'normal' families who fought tooth and nail to get them away from their abusers.
This can happen to any child, no matter their background or family situation.

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 15:02

KnitFastDieWarm · 04/01/2025 15:01

Pretending that the problem isn’t related to the views and behaviour of a certain demographic of british pakistani muslim men is a) not going to make the problem go away and b) is astonishingly insulting to the vast majority of british muslim men of all backgrounds who wouldn’t dream of doing something so appalling, regardless of their personal/cultural views on women.

This behaviour HAS to be universally condemned from all sides, without any misplaced ‘racial sensitivity’ bullshit that patronises and demeans the law-abiding and non-abusive vast majority of british muslim men. The public need to see these rapists and child abusers being denounced by the authorities and by their own communities like the scum that they are. That’s the only way forward for both community harmony and the safety of vulnerable children of all backgrounds.

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Exactly. It's the only way.

Thatcastlethere · 04/01/2025 15:03

And are we all forgetting the general misogynistic state of society here??
You can talk about Islam all you want but it's the UK who had topless 16 year olds in its newspapers even in the early 00s..
It's the UK who doesn't take sexual violence against women seriously.
The rape prosecution rate is appalling in general.
Lots of posters saying there's some conspiracy... there's no conspiracy, this is systemic.
Many of these girls were just considered sex workers because they were over 16.
The police didn't take it seriously back then.. and still don't much now.
And baring in mind many of these girls insisted they were consenting to the police.. they viewed these men as their boyfriends etc..
More needs to be done to educate and protect girls in care and living in poverty or vulnerable situations, about grooming.
And it needs to be taken a lot more seriously when parents or family members raise concerns about grooming.. even if the child is over 13.

Birdscratch · 04/01/2025 15:03

Huffalumps · 04/01/2025 14:45

I'm not surprised as I've followed the story for a number of years. It still shocks however. And it's ongoing to this day. That's what really gets me

The more I've thought about it over the years the more I think the lack of interest from MSM is because the girls are/were in care. They were gobby, rude, potty mouthed and abused from all quarters from the youngest ages and no one gave or gives a shit about them 😢😢😢

That’s the main issue. We saw it in the 60s, 70s and 80s when children in care homes were subjected to appalling, organised abuse. When a child did speak out they were dismissed. When those scandals finally came to light you would have thought the lessons would be learned. Instead, again, the girls that were abused were regarded as unreliable witnesses, troubled, just like the ‘delinquents’ that were abused in the generations before them.

People have objected to the use of ‘grooming’ because it minimises the horror of what was done to the children but it’s a major part of why it went on unchecked for so long. The girls were vulnerable. They didn’t come from solid, middle class families and have people watching out for them. That’s why those specific girls were targeted. They willingly suck out to be with someone who showed them affection and willingly drank and smoked drugs. That’s why it was easier for the police to be dismissive when the girls went missing and turned up intoxicated. Grooming is the act of a predator. Selecting victims that are unlikely to be missed, unlikely to be believed and easy to manipulate.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 04/01/2025 15:03

‘You can find this with any religious extremism including Christianity.’

I’ve heard it all now. Care to link to any examples of a group of church going chaps dilating a girl’s anus so that four of them could sodomize her simultaneously? I feel that if this was the case, we would have heard about it, loudly and often, from the ‘white Christians do it as well’ lobby.

Phobiaphobic · 04/01/2025 15:04

It astounds me that there are posters on here calling people thick racists. What the actual fuck is wrong with you?

AncientAndModern1 · 04/01/2025 15:04

thrifty24 · 04/01/2025 14:57

I did not realise there were murder cases? Any link?

This is probably the most notorious. House set alight killing a pregnant 16 year old who had already had a child from abuse at 14 , and her family. https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/10544477/telford-grooming-gang-dad-killed-mum/amp/ Another child was killed with heroin

My 'Telford grooming gang' dad killed my mum in a house fire - now I want him caged again

A WOMAN whose dad murdered her mum in a house fire is on a mission to expose his alleged links to “Britain’s worst ever” paedophile ring before he’s released from jail. Tasn…

https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/10544477/telford-grooming-gang-dad-killed-mum/amp

Thatcastlethere · 04/01/2025 15:06

TheBlackSheepbaaaa · 04/01/2025 15:02

I'm not disputing that children growing up in care and living in poverty need greater protection, I'm pointing out that not all victims were part of the care system. The 3 girls I know of came from 'normal' families who fought tooth and nail to get them away from their abusers.
This can happen to any child, no matter their background or family situation.

Of course it can happen to any child.
But children living in care are vastly more at risk.
This is like bringing up domestic violence against men when talking about domestic violence against women!
Of course it's still an issue that needs addressing.. but there's a massive massive problem regarding sexual abuse of children in care. It's clearly a factor that needs addressing. They are deliberately targeted

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 15:06

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 04/01/2025 15:03

‘You can find this with any religious extremism including Christianity.’

I’ve heard it all now. Care to link to any examples of a group of church going chaps dilating a girl’s anus so that four of them could sodomize her simultaneously? I feel that if this was the case, we would have heard about it, loudly and often, from the ‘white Christians do it as well’ lobby.

It's extraordinary that people take that approach. The Catholic Church had to take responsibility for the abuse. It's as if some people feel that grooming gangs should get a free pass because of "racisim".

Bromptotoo · 04/01/2025 15:08

TheKeatingFive · 04/01/2025 14:56

Mostly allegations with no substantiation about cover up. We know the Police treated the victims like they were responsible for their plight. That and guidance over witness credibility, which Starmer had re-written, has much to answer for.

These activities by a small sub set of Pakistani heritage men were, and continue to be, lazily referred to as Muslim Rape Gangs, effectively tarring the whole if Islam. With that as a background it's not surprising there were public order concerns around a backlash against anybody who was brown skinned.

Ablondiebutagoody · 04/01/2025 15:09

thrifty24 · 04/01/2025 14:57

I did not realise there were murder cases? Any link?

https://archive.ph/GiOZP

Nordione1 · 04/01/2025 15:09

Bromptotoo · 04/01/2025 15:08

Mostly allegations with no substantiation about cover up. We know the Police treated the victims like they were responsible for their plight. That and guidance over witness credibility, which Starmer had re-written, has much to answer for.

These activities by a small sub set of Pakistani heritage men were, and continue to be, lazily referred to as Muslim Rape Gangs, effectively tarring the whole if Islam. With that as a background it's not surprising there were public order concerns around a backlash against anybody who was brown skinned.

That is the trouble with covering things up. No one knows the truth so innocent people will be hurt. Labour need to allow a national enquiry even if it leads to Keir having to take responsibility for his failures and resign.

Thatcastlethere · 04/01/2025 15:09

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 04/01/2025 15:03

‘You can find this with any religious extremism including Christianity.’

I’ve heard it all now. Care to link to any examples of a group of church going chaps dilating a girl’s anus so that four of them could sodomize her simultaneously? I feel that if this was the case, we would have heard about it, loudly and often, from the ‘white Christians do it as well’ lobby.

Are you actually joking??
Have you no idea the abuses committed under the banner of the Catholic church in Ireland for example??
And evangelical Christianity..
Just bloody Google it before talking nonsense.
Surely you've heard of the documentary "keep sweet pray obey" on netflix?
It's on netflix right now. Go and watch it.
Absolutely horrific.