What are people doing to their faces?!

[Mania89]

I am mid 30s. Colour my hair, wear makeup, thread my eyebrows etc so not completely natural but my goodness what are people doing to their faces?! Young women who are beautiful now have so much injected into their faces that they cannot move them at all. I was looking back at photos in my mid 20s and was wondering why on earth did I worry about my looks at all. Hindsight is wonderful! And I am despairing that girls younger than this have already started to inject Botox and fillers. The world is going mad and don’t even get me started on weight loss injections for those who are not clinically obese! I have two daughters and really feel so worried for them up.

I would be genuinely concerned if my 19y daughter injected her lips. So damn right I am concerned at what other women are doing to themselves in their pursuit of what they define as beauty. Because it influences fhe generations below.

actually they are going to cost us all. as it is the nhs that will end up having to fix their selfishness in a few years time.

Its not just the OP. There are people worrying about this. It is disturbing what society pushes some women to do to feel accepted/attractive/whatever. I remember reading a thread on here where a girl of about 12yo wouldnt go out without make-up.

Where is she upset? I agree with her 100% and I am not at all upset !

Not sure about selfisness but anxiety, low esteem, low selfworth, being driven into abusive relationships etc.

The degree of self-obsession and preoccupation with how one looks is mentally unhealthy for both young women and men.

’Having something done’ is ultimately a temporary fix for an undeveloped personality, masquerading as a personal accomplishment.

I have 2 daughters big difference in age one is in her twenties the other 12, friendship groups between them are very different mix of natural beauties, don’t wear make up, not bothered by how they look or express themselves. Daughter in her twenties uses Botox, has hair extensions, lash extensions, brow laminate, fake tan, acrylic nails to look and keep up with some of her more into looking glam friends my opinion is she doesn’t need it all. Younger daughter is completely different does not like to wear makeup, hates how her sister is fake .

many girls I see in their teens are now mini clones of each other and it is a shame how society, celebs, influencers are no longer natural looking and role models for young girls to actually show them that this is all not necessary.
Im in my forties and I am so happy with my laughter lines, wrinkles and all that comes with ageing. I wish my daughter would take my advice that in later years she will regret all what she does to herself.

no longer is it that you age natural, it’s all lotions potions and anything that can alter your looks thrown at you so no wonder we live in a society that this is classed as normal way of looking these days

Keep being their biggest cheerleader. You help them to feel good in their skin and conpliment them. So they realise that they don't need outside validation and pressure to look a certain way.

Could not agree more. Supporting young people in becoming mentally and emotionally resilient - the real super power.

my thoughts about it for what they are worth:
Does it hurt? the pain would put me off
Are we heading for another way of telling who has money given that it costs a fair bit to have procedures done?

No matter what you do to your face no procedure can give someone truly youthful skin or the sparkling eyes of real youth

To me it clearly the latter and thats the problem.

But it’s becoming the other way around. People with not a lot of money goung to a local beautician who spent 3 hrs practising giving injections. It’s not a ”rich” look. It’s a common wannabe look.

I was unpopular at my last office job when someone said I looked young for my age (49) and I said no, we are all a similar age aren't we? One was 32 and the other was 39 - both had a lot of work in an effort to look youthful, I hadn't had anything done. An icy silence descended. Six years later I have had some filler as losing weight has caused loss of volume in my face and it's probably too late to be preventative rather than restorative but it made both those ladies look older, not younger.

OP is not upset, she’s expressing an opinion and I completely agree.

Not sure the drive to all this Botox and fillers is to do with low self worth or esteem.

Sometimes it’s just good old-fashioned vanity or narcissism!! Maybe with a side dose of stupidity and delusion 😁

Angelina natural, full lips - beautiful. Porn inspired baboon bottoms - you will hate it when you look back, honestly. It never looks real, never, even ‘subtle’ ones.

And the eyebrows Jesus.

I think the Kardashians have a lot to answer for. They've set these unrealistic 'beauty standards' and made billions in the process.

Did you mean Dawn?

The thing is, it does affect all women’s lives when the standard ‘look’ is ultra synthetic and only achieved with invasive procedures. The normal face body of a 50 year old woman becomes unacceptable because ‘why wouldn’t you’ get Botox, fillers etc to look as young/ageless as possible? Why wouldn’t you use ozempic to lose that stone? It’s like what happened with pubes - bald fannies became normalised to the point many people think pubic hair is ‘dirty’ and women who don’t want to remove it are shamed by men and in situations where pubic hair is visible. It is very sad the way our society is heading in terms of expectations around women’s looks.

It’s common in some ways but it’s also a (billionaire) Jeff Bozos’ wife look! I also saw a photo of Meghan Markle the other day - and with her puffy bland filler she’s ruined her face, at least temporarily. (Plus all the straightening, weaves and hair extensions also seem to have messed up her hair.). I find these botoxed women vain and vacuous - but they’ve married rich men - this is maybe the deal they’ve made 🤷‍♀️ I find the whole thing perplexing. Especially, as you can never really and truly look younger. Plus overdone you end up looking like a member of the wooden spoon family, a few tools short of a toolbox.

@Gwenhwyfar no, Sonia & Co are all about the selfie & the endless photo documenting.

Ah, but the thread is about fillers and botox isn't it?

It’s everyone’s business when women, en masse, from a progressively young age are receiving the message that what a human looks like is not good enough and pummels their self esteem.

I think you'll find that she's not actually getting 'upset' per se, just giving her 'opinion' as you pointed out that everyone was entitled to have?! 🤔
You also state the obvious when you say 'It's their bodies. Their choice. They like it'...surely they wouldn't do it otherwise!!! 🤔
I fear though that many are seriously overdoing it as they get addicted to the procedures and just end up wanting more because they get used to what they see in the mirror in the same way that an anorexic person cannot see how agonisingly thin they are? 😥
The women with their massive overblown lips who cannot speak properly or close their mouths, those with the 'dead slug' eyebrows that make them look 'hard' and sometimes actually ugly, the smooth, line free foreheads and the shiny expressionless faces that make them appear fake and not in the least unique or special, if they have personalities they seem to get lost in the craving for ever more botox and fillers! 😱
What happens when they can no longer afford to do all these things and we regularly see how things can go so very wrong physically and mentally...When did we become so incredibly self obsessed and vain to the exclusion and value of almost everything else?🙄

@AllMoby MM looks world’s away from the average woman of her age. She’s great looking by anyone’s standards. Work or no work.