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Mania89 · 2025-01-03T23:27:56+00:00

I am mid 30s. Colour my hair, wear makeup, thread my eyebrows etc so not completely natural but my goodness what are people doing to their faces?! Young women who are beautiful now have so much injected into their faces that they cannot move them at all. I was looking back at photos in my mid 20s and was wondering why on earth did I worry about my looks at all. Hindsight is wonderful! And I am despairing that girls younger than this have already started to inject Botox and fillers. The world is going mad and don’t even get me started on weight loss injections for those who are not clinically obese! I have two daughters and really feel so worried for them up.

GiveItAGoMalcom · 04/01/2025 01:05

ElizabethTaylorsEyebrow · 04/01/2025 00:56

No woman who sports this look grew up in a beautiful victorian house in islington or hampstead, had a dad who was a history of art lecturer and a mum who was a psychologist, read politics at oxford etc.

It is a look closely associated with the group of women who have always been sneered at for their vulgar aesthetic preferences, whether that’s overfilled lips, orange tans, revealing clothes or grey crushed velvet sofas.

So on that level I’m a bit wary of the amount of “concern” directed at these women, on here and elsewhere. Some of it comes across as cloaked snobbery (not the OP, to be clear!).

At the same time… I can’t deny I find this trend utterly disheartening from a feminist perspective.

No woman who sports this look grew up in a beautiful victorian house in islington or hampstead, had a dad who was a history of art lecturer and a mum who was a psychologist, read politics at oxford etc.

See now if you were honest about your passive aggressive snobbery, I could take your post seriously.

But you've underhandedly stated that the look is 'working class' and sneered at it, when in actual fact, plenty of middle class and upper class women and men are Botoxed to fuck.

So your post makes you look daft to say the very very least.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 04/01/2025 01:08

I'm almost 40 and I have never done anything to my face.

I can't work out whether I think I'm going to look haggard or fresh faced next to all the people who have had work done in a few years' time.

I think all the fillers and Botox look very ageing in young women.

caramelcappucino · 04/01/2025 01:09

GiveItAGoMalcom · 04/01/2025 01:05

No woman who sports this look grew up in a beautiful victorian house in islington or hampstead, had a dad who was a history of art lecturer and a mum who was a psychologist, read politics at oxford etc.

See now if you were honest about your passive aggressive snobbery, I could take your post seriously.

But you've underhandedly stated that the look is 'working class' and sneered at it, when in actual fact, plenty of middle class and upper class women and men are Botoxed to fuck.

So your post makes you look daft to say the very very least.

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It’s not exactly a classist issue and you shouldn’t make it as such because I agree that is a damaging and pretentious assumption. And I think you’ll find that women choose to do cosmetic procedures from all walks of life actually. Just take a look at royal families and billionaires from across the world, I would argue they are actually doing cosmetic work for themselves more because they simply have the resources to accommodate it freely.

Galdownunder · 04/01/2025 01:14

ElizabethTaylorsEyebrow · 04/01/2025 00:56

No woman who sports this look grew up in a beautiful victorian house in islington or hampstead, had a dad who was a history of art lecturer and a mum who was a psychologist, read politics at oxford etc.

It is a look closely associated with the group of women who have always been sneered at for their vulgar aesthetic preferences, whether that’s overfilled lips, orange tans, revealing clothes or grey crushed velvet sofas.

So on that level I’m a bit wary of the amount of “concern” directed at these women, on here and elsewhere. Some of it comes across as cloaked snobbery (not the OP, to be clear!).

At the same time… I can’t deny I find this trend utterly disheartening from a feminist perspective.

I agree with the post above. Sure lots of celebs and people who did grow up in a beautiful home with well educated parents undergo cosmetic procedures. The difference is in the end result - one type is generally very subtle and enhances the appearance of the face or body. The type I think being discussed here is the bloated fish lip, caterpillar eyelash, turkey teeth arrangement that goes along with a BBL and new set of pneumatic tits once you nab the right crook to pay for it for you.

Pyjamatimenow · 04/01/2025 01:18

are we going to have one of these threads every week? Honestly it’s nothing to do with anyone else which modifications people choose to do

DiscoBeat · 04/01/2025 01:19

It looks so horrible, puffed up lips and thick make up

ThinWomansBrain · 04/01/2025 01:21

theduchessofspork · 04/01/2025 00:49

I’m not sure the women you speak of are more than quite a small minority are they??

They do look mad though, I agree.

I'm guessing you don't travel on the tube often.😁

Applepoop · 04/01/2025 01:24

You need to discuss it with your DDs. A lot. Society expects ridiculous things from women. I do none of it. No makeup, no hairdye, nothing. I don't look any different to anyone else who's nearly 50.

Nicecuppatea2025 · 04/01/2025 01:26

Pyjamatimenow · 04/01/2025 01:18

are we going to have one of these threads every week? Honestly it’s nothing to do with anyone else which modifications people choose to do

I disagree with this. This is exactly the attitude that keeps the wheel going. Most people are having this stuff done for societal validation that is fuelled by big business, and not truly for personal expression. So as a society it is our business.

Toseland · 04/01/2025 01:26

spoonfulofsugar1 · 04/01/2025 01:00

But its concern for women in general, not bitching necessarily. The craze for frozen faces and blown up lips is taking over and it is going to skew our children's understanding of what a normal woman looks like and that is concerning for everybody. My hairdresser does lip fillers, botox etc. That's how ubiquitous it has become, you can get it done by the same person who cuts your hair. Its madness.

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I think this distortion is purposeful. Just like the Kardashians adopted Drag style make up techniques. It's so men can 'become woman' without too much trouble.

Monkeytoo · 04/01/2025 01:26

SocksAndTheCity · 04/01/2025 00:29

Wow, we've gone a full ten days since the last one of these threads was posted - that must be a record.

I haven't checked the whole site though, so I could easily have missed one or two

Edit: here it is, so people can save some time having to come up with new and inventive ways to slag off other women whose views and choices differ from their own and just use the copy and paste 👍

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5236985-why-do-people-get-massive-amounts-of-lip-filler?page=1

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Why can’t we talk about it?

Monkeytoo · 04/01/2025 01:27

Pyjamatimenow · 04/01/2025 01:18

are we going to have one of these threads every week? Honestly it’s nothing to do with anyone else which modifications people choose to do

If we want to, why not? We should talk about these things.

Randomontheinternet25 · 04/01/2025 01:27

I was in West Yorkshire recently and saw quite a few ladies with facial tattoos, I don't mean eyebrows either. One woman had a single name over her eyebrow , a few had flowers or crosses , one looked like a shopping list on her face! I've no idea what it actually represented!

Onlyhereforthebatshitneighbours · 04/01/2025 01:28

Women who have work done all end up looking the same now, it's so weird.

From hollywood where they all have the same nose, to z listers on love Island and people walking about in any UK (badly filled lips, heavy eyelash extensions, heavy brows)

flashspeed · 04/01/2025 01:48

I totally get you OP, seeing women that don't conform to my standards pisses me off too. I'm so sick of seeing slightly overweight women in drab boring clothes who don't bother fixing their face and just let it age. When they turn around and I see jowls it's hard to not recoil in horror. With their roots showing and their boring mum shoes and their frumpy comfy coat I wonder what society is coming to and where class and elegance has gone

Oh wait, that would be rude, only frumps are allowed to judge another woman's choice.

Happyinarcon · 04/01/2025 01:49

It’s getting sad when our beauty standards actually involve manipulating our faces with fillers and other chemicals. We’re living in a strange time where the media encourages women to turn themselves into visual sex objects while at the same time insisting this is empowering. I can’t think of a time when we have been so deluded and self destructive.

Funnywonder · 04/01/2025 02:00

Speak out? Lol. Speak out against people looking how they want to look?

Um, maybe you should reread what was said @Anotherparkingthread . It was ‘speak about’, not ‘speak out’. Different tone entirely. You even quoted the poster who said it.

Angrymum22 · 04/01/2025 02:10

Jocelyn Wildenstien died recently. These are her before and after photos. Admittedly she had surgery but her face was massive due to the vast amount of filler she had done. There are plenty of women out there heading towards this look.

SinisterBumFacedCat · 04/01/2025 02:13

I heard an interesting theory about this, people have the fillers and surgeries after seeing celebrities and highly paid influencers, because it’s a status symbol of success, and if you are trying to make it obvious that you can afford it there’s no point doing it subtly. Hence, over inflated lips. It explains some of it. I don’t know. I try not to judge but I find surgery that freezes movement and facial expression makes me feel a little bit “uncanny valley”.

Angrymum22 · 04/01/2025 02:16

She was 84 and despite all the tweaks she still looked her age and more. Just a grotesque version.
The filler has a tendency to move around so your face looks like an ancient lumpy cushion.
Im 60 and everything is starting to get a bit saggy but nothing would convince me to inject fillers into my face.
In my job I get to see a close up view of what it does and without the makeup and filters it’s not nice.

oakleaffy · 04/01/2025 02:16

iamnotalemon · 04/01/2025 00:43

I do think social media and the need to look 'insta perfect' is part of it.

Thank goodness I grew up before smart phones (and only had a Nokia in my early twenties).

It must be an awful lot of pressure, particularly at such a young age.

I was walking my dog this afternoon, and know a few people to nod to- I heard someone to my right say ''HAPPY NEW YEAR to you ALL''..I spun round, expecting it to be someone I knew, and it was a youngish woman , holding her phone aloft, giving a ''flattering angle'' 😆 ..and she was loudly 'blogging' to instagram.. Long live Nokia Brix ! 🧱

RogueFemale · 04/01/2025 02:23

It's the eyebrows I find comical.

YourGladSquid · 04/01/2025 02:33

It will be interesting to see in about 10 years what all that work is going to look like because some of it you can tell it’s botched/cheaply done from afar.

The amount of young women I see with bad fillers is crazy. Even my DD was talking about “preventative Botox”! Luckily she outgrew the idea but she knows girls who have been doing it since 18. Insanity.

Stonefromthehenge · 04/01/2025 02:34

Anotherparkingthread · 04/01/2025 00:42

Speak out? Lol. Speak out against people looking how they want to look?

And op is clearly upset. Enough so to make an entire thread. What other words would you prefer? Perturbed? Distressed? Hysterical? Traumatized? All rather hyperbolic in comparison but not necessarily inaccurate either.

What other women look like, wether that be filler, hair dye, peircings, tattoos, fat, thin, boob job, short skirts or other clothing choices, doesn't matter a dot to me. So I'm not starting threads about it, desperately trying to find other judgey mares to snort at other women with. I don't feel the need to have my opinions validated by others. I don't need to put other women down. I don't need to busy body in something which, frankly, is optional. Nobody is expecting you to get filler or Botox if you don't like it. I don't go around saying 'urgh, look at that woman with wissened little prune lips! She desperately needs some filler to look normal!' because it would be a twatty thing to say. The same can't be said for those who are sanctimonious about women doing anything to xosmetically alter their appearance, they can't resist sticking their opinion in when it has no effect on their life and no effect on them. These thoughts about others are often also rooted in deep misogyny, these threads reinforce the notion that women's bodies are open to critique and criticism. Posters will often express disgust and say how terrible it looks but then go on to suggest that it makes them or other women feel inadequate. These two statements are contradictory, which means neither argument against is is a particularly good one. Often these type of argument only masquerade as concern, when in reality they come from a place of hatred for other women for simply existing and making choices that do not have any bearing on your life, but do not affirm or align with your own set of beliefs. This is prejudice.

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Prune lips? 😞 You don't want to put other women down? You've used phrases including, 'judgy mares' 'snort at other women' 'A twatty thing to say' 'busy body' 'hysterical, traumatised, hyperbolic'

I don't think you understand misogyny. Internalised misogyny might be worth looking into. Every women has a right to make their own choice. But what is 'free choice' is a moot point. We all live in a patriarchal society bombarded by patriarchal influence; family, peers, media and so on. It takes a tough woman to resist. Those women have a right to speak their hysterical truth from their prune lips whether you like it or not. If that makes me a misogynist, so be it.

MauveVelcro · 04/01/2025 02:35

flashspeed · 04/01/2025 01:48

I totally get you OP, seeing women that don't conform to my standards pisses me off too. I'm so sick of seeing slightly overweight women in drab boring clothes who don't bother fixing their face and just let it age. When they turn around and I see jowls it's hard to not recoil in horror. With their roots showing and their boring mum shoes and their frumpy comfy coat I wonder what society is coming to and where class and elegance has gone

Oh wait, that would be rude, only frumps are allowed to judge another woman's choice.

So if you don't pump your face full of fillers, you're a 'frump'? Mmm, okay 😂