Friends awful baby name

[ThisIcyHare]

My best friend is due to have a baby soon, they are having a girl and she has been talking baby names with me, which feels super special. She has got a few very lovely traditional girly names, and a couple of more unusual choices, but not ‘offensive’. They are names I would expect from her. However, she has one absolutely terrible name, that actually just feels very cruel. It would be bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names. It’s not that I wouldn’t choose it, it’s just crazy stupid and the child will be ridiculed by peers and adults. Some of her choices are genuinely wonderful, but I’m so worried she will madly choose this one awful name, I can’t say anything can I?!

Every time I met or otherwise encountered Radiance, I would be constantly hearing inside my head...

"And how are we today, Sir? Radiant, Sir; Radiant!!"

Ha ha! Or make up some obscure language and tell her that anyway. 😀

Nonchalance... or Meh for short.

It’s never inevitable that a child will get teased. It depends on how other children get raised.

Principle
Morality
Ethical

Esteema
Truedence
Ernestine
Honestie
Justina
Prudence
Probitie
Rectitude
Unity
Honor
Faerlie
Ethica
Sincerity
Verity
Clemency

You could point out the attractiveness of the more likable names and suggest that a few are better as second names.
Oh, yes XXuglynameXX would be a great second or third name to XXgorgeousnameXX.

As in honesty/having strong moral principles or as in being of sound construction? The former seems in keeping with various names like faith/charity etc I guess. The latter seems weird

I think you’re being harsh. Integriteigh is a lovely name 🥰. If she has twins, she can call the second Honesteigh.

I have triplets called Independence, Discovery and Potential. Everyone tells me what beautiful names they are.

You say in your OP that the name you dislike is bad even by American standards and ‘tragedeigh’ names - so WORSE than something that takes a word with negative connotations and gives it a "creative" spelling that does not derive from any traditional form of the word in any known language or culture. I think it's pretty straightforward to offer criticism of names that are also commonly-used English-language words with negative meanings - Tragedy, Felony, Rubella, etc. - however they are spelled.

Then you say it's like Integrity - a virtue name, as others have noted, although one that is unusual at the moment (and might have absurd connotations for South Park fans). Historically, socially, and linguistically, Integrity is a far cry from "Tragedeigh"!

Regardless of the name and why it's "bad", can you at least articulate TO YOUR FRIEND what you feel is wrong with the name/why YOU would not choose/use it? You've said that you value the trust she's placed in you by telling you the names she's thinking about; why not reciprocate that trust by being honest (although tactful) with her? If she comes back with "it's my husband's grandmother's name!" or "it's the name of someone I knew/met/read about in x context" or even "I love it/we chose it because of y ..." then you're in a better position to help her without having offended her.

I don't want to go down the American standards path if you've America!!!'d out of the blue - but if it is relevant (friend or baby's other parent is from the USA or has background/heritage there and/or they live there), specific names can feel quite a bit different even in different anglophone countries and there are some different historical and social considerations around naming in the USA specifically. But your friend should be able to keep all of that in mind and still consider your feedback -- maybe not as a "no" to the name but as a consideration that might move it down the list.

(Edited because apparently the interface can't handle an underscore.)

Intensity
intensiteigh

Fair enough; but it's their constantly ignored brother Dave that I feel most sorry for.

Liking the list but let’s change Probitie to Analprobiteigh and include Gertrude in Rectitude to make Gerectitudeigh.

Constance
Pius

Esteema King, and her brothers Edward and Spud.

Lovely family.

Steddfast - Steddi

Steadward - Eddy

Splendiferous - Splendie

Candida?

Oh I just thought of one it might be that would be nuts:
Amnesty

Then my work here is done

Cherish
Hosanna
Magnificka

If it’s really that bad I would gently say ‘you know I’m really not keen on Cherry-Anne, it reminds me of xxx’ and give some sort of example. Then you know you did at least try to avoid potential disaster.
I know a girl with a name she hates and she was angry at her parents for many years.

Assripe
catnip
jingle belle
santa

😂😂

Soreen

Perfection
Purity
Delightfella
Soupreema
Abundance
Infinitie