Help settle something - did we offer something weird?

[Lwrenn]

DP and I and our kids have come to BiL and SiLs for lunch with our brood of kids. Anyway earlier SiL needed a few bits so mr Lwrenn and I popped up the shop for them, leaving our kids with BiL for convenience. They said take our time and go for a coffee in the Starbucks because we never get time alone. Anyway the shop next door to the supermarket is closing down so we went in for a wee mooch, it’s sells everything from furniture to plants. A couple had bought a big piece of furniture and DP helped the man carry it out of the store to his car. Anyway this man’s wife kept scowling at us, but her husband was very nice. I am quite friendly but I didn’t want to ask her anything too personal in case Christmas was a tough time so I just complemented her new sideboard and she ignored me. I didn’t continue the chat. Just did that awkward British smile and shut up. Anyway their new sideboard was not in a box or wrapped etc it was a sold as seen display piece. Had they have fought to fit it in their car it would have got wrecked even if it would have fit. We have a much bigger boot so DP said to the couple that we’d stick it in our car, quickly grab a few bits from the shop and then we’d follow them back to deliver it, not a problem. Anyway the guy was lovely about it, asked if we wanted some petrol money and DP said not at all and was about to pick up the sideboard and walk it to our car when the wife refused his offer. Said absolutely not, didn’t thank Dp or say anything just she was going to get someone else. She was rude as hell to my DP and I felt quite bad for her husband. Anyway we went the shop and got our bits and they were still stood by their car with the sideboard, I presume waiting for someone else with a bigger car. Anyway, We’ve just got back to sil and BiL (with might I add lots of bargains from the supermarket for us) and SiL thinks I should have loudly said the lady was rude or something. I wished her husband a happy new year and not her directly which I felt was enough. (Savage as I get these days) but BiL said it was weird of DP to even suggest it. Thinks the wife was scared we’d pinch the sideboard.
So was the offer we made weird or the wife’s refusal weird?

weird wife - yanbu
weird us - yabu

Weirdly I'd have said the opera crowd was one to whom you could absolutely have offered a glass of wine. Maybe it's just my background or just luck perhaps, but my stance is never that the world is out to get me, or scam me. For the most part people are good and kind.

Back in June, my friend and I got chatting to a man at Ascot who offered to share his picnic and champagne with us as he was, for various reasons, on his own. It didn't even occur to me that the gesture was anything other than genuine. We had a great afternoon!

OP, I don't think what you and your husband DP did was weird at all. I'd have been delighted to accept your help. And it wouldn't have occurred to me that you'd have driven off with my sage sideboard either. I mean, who would do something like that?

I’ve certainly done shared coffee runs with fellow dawn queuers at the ROH and been offered a share in a picnic by people at a José Carreras concert in Hampton Court grounds (I’d been given a ticket at the last minute, went straight from work, and thought there would be something I could buy to eat — no!) Alas, I’m vegetarian and the picnic was a meatfest, but it was a nice offer…

I once took the first off-peak train from Euston (you know, the one which is light training for the Hunger Games) and ended up sitting next to a young (u-21) construction worker whose worldly possessions mounted to two 24 packs of Stella Artois. We - him in his Hi-Vis jacket, me in my Dolce & Gabbana suit - had an absolute ball all the way to Manchester Piccadilly.

Okay similar thing happened to us. But the other guy hopped in our car with whatever it was and my husband drove him home (about ten minutes) and then came back for me. I chatted to the wife for a few minutes and then we both ended up going back in the shop.

I understand why she was wary but your intention was nice