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Should she replace it? Part 2

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Langarg · 31/12/2024 23:14

Starting the new thread ahead of hopefully having an update soon!

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Smineusername · 01/01/2025 09:55

She's taken it, plans on keeping it,and is now trying to manipulate a break in the friendship so she can hang onto it. Absolute bitch I hope she is reading this

Cluelesssanta · 01/01/2025 09:57

it’s taken the shine off the wedding
I bet her hair is shiney though https://media.tenor.com/KZMXQXOUq9QAAAAM/mzlonghair.gif

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Smineusername · 01/01/2025 09:57

At this stage I would probably contact her partner, mum, sister or similar to explain what's happened and ask them to intervene, she's utterly shameless

SometimesCalmPerson · 01/01/2025 09:58

“Hi friend, I know what you mean, losing something I was so excited about buying has totally taken the shine off my Christmas work bonus too 😢 I was hoping it would be resolved in 2024 too so I’m really looking forward to receiving my air wrap back or a replacement as soon as possible so we can leave it in the past. Happy New Year!”

Cornecopia · 01/01/2025 10:11

Please can someone link original thread

Burnserns · 01/01/2025 10:15

Oof OP, I suspect this may all end in small claims court. I'm really sorry this has happened to you. I can't imagine she's a very happy person. She can't have many genuine friendships if this is how she treats her friends.

SunshineAndFizz · 01/01/2025 10:16

She's probably got debts with other people and either sold it or gave it to the other person to pay off a debt.

Smineusername · 01/01/2025 10:16

Don't text her back and certainly don't give her any reassurances over the state of the friendship, that is a mug's game and won't get your dyson back. I wouldn't demean myself pretending to value her friendship and I would ignore all attempts at emotional manipulation and just escalate. The person who suggested reporting it stolen is on the right lines

HadEnoughOfThisPish · 01/01/2025 10:18

Play along until she gives you the thing back or replaces it. Then leave her in 2024. She's either a bloody liar or she has no respect for you (possibly both). Taken the shine off her wedding indeed, cheeky cow.

Looneytune253 · 01/01/2025 10:19

Langarg · 01/01/2025 08:44

Morning all

I received an incoherent text message from my friend at about 3.15am (clearly drunk) rambling on about how she valued our friendship so much but couldn’t help but feel this whole situation had taken the shine off her wedding! The absolute cheek of it! She went on to say she will sort this out and hopes it can be ‘left in 2024’

I have a feeling she’s read here and is trying to make me feel guilty. Why else would she say it’s taken the shine off the wedding other than to try and make me feel bad?! Or have I become cynical?

Eeeh Shes got a cheek

'It is such a shame that this happened to us, I value our friendship too. I know you must be really upset about losing it, I know I am. It's a shame we couldn't sort it out in 2024 but hopefully you can have a solution in the next day or two snd we can move forwards from there. Could I suggest this model xxx(link) from boots as it's the same as mine and only £xxx at the moment. Can't wait till we have this all smoothed over. Happy new year.

Personally I would be very careful not to get annoyed with her or show you're too annoyed. I know what people are like and if you argue with her I think there's a chance she'll easily 'fall out' with you and then feel exonerated from the obligation to replace

Pancakeflipper · 01/01/2025 10:19

Langarg · 01/01/2025 08:44

Morning all

I received an incoherent text message from my friend at about 3.15am (clearly drunk) rambling on about how she valued our friendship so much but couldn’t help but feel this whole situation had taken the shine off her wedding! The absolute cheek of it! She went on to say she will sort this out and hopes it can be ‘left in 2024’

I have a feeling she’s read here and is trying to make me feel guilty. Why else would she say it’s taken the shine off the wedding other than to try and make me feel bad?! Or have I become cynical?

All she has to do is return the item. If she has not got it, she needs to replace it.

FizzyBisto · 01/01/2025 10:21

Nettleteaser101 · 01/01/2025 06:23

Hope you get it back. I would be furious and be making sure I go with her to the Hotel. How could you not see a box which, must have been quite big, on the floor as it was the same colour as the carpet. Is her husband colour blind?. If you don't get it back I would definitely be thinking small claims court. So what if you lose this lovely girls friendship!!!

This. I really hope that it won't be him driving on this 4-hour round trip back to the hotel that is definitely going to happen, if his eyesight is that poor...

dapsnotplimsolls · 01/01/2025 10:22

Has this made the DM yet? 😁

Longsight2019 · 01/01/2025 10:23

OP — your Dyson has been targeted. She knew you had one because when you told her about your deserved extravagance, she felt jealous, and envious. You unwittingly planted a seed in her dishonest subconscious that grew and manifested in to something sinister. Her wedding was the perfect excuse to justify the big ask. And what sort of friend would say no….

So I’m with PP’s who suggest this has simply been lifted in the hope that you would just roll over and accept that someone had made off with it from the hotel cleaning staff and she could palm you off with a cheap and tired Facebook replacement.

Just wondering — what’s your knowledge/opinion of new husband and would you think he is guiding her in this train wreck of a situation? Is he aiding and abetting or carefully guiding his wife to limit the potential for huge reputational damage for the newlyweds by being labelled as thieving bastards!?

Take note of the suggested responses to the latest message here, and tread carefully as she sounds so wide of the mark in terms of decency it’s unbelievable. You don’t want her to pull down the shutters on you before a brand new replacement is provided. However make sure you do that to her as soon as you have it back.

She knows where this is and she’s regretting the whole thing. How deep will she dig herself before she either crumbles and miraculously finds it, or throws a tantrum and accuses you of ruining her big day again and walks away.

On of the more astonishing MN threads I’ve seen in a good while.

Hairdryer Gate!

hannonle · 01/01/2025 10:24

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 01/01/2025 09:51

OP be the bigger person without backing down, I’d send something like. “I’m sorry you feel it’s taken the shine off your wedding. It shouldn’t be much drama, I lent you my airwrap, and I want it back. If you’ve lost or broken it, a replacement.”

I still think she’s left it with someone else who was at the wedding /was seeing the next few days, told them they can keep it as she couldn’t be arsed collecting it and that’s why you have to wait for her to magically get it, because that’s the first day she can go to theirs.

I'm also thinking that she's loaned it to one of the witnesses to use for NYE. So it'll be with her mother/sister/friend who she has plans to see today/tomorrow.
If she returns it, try and keep her with you while you do a check to make sure it works and isn't damaged.

At this point the only thing i would trust is you both going to Boots and witnessing her buying it. She can't then cancel the order or put repayments in your name.

Give her a deadline of Saturday end of business, and then file a police report.

stayathomegardener · 01/01/2025 10:24

Personally I would play nice and humour her, I think she's angling for a fall out and keeping it.

EdithBond · 01/01/2025 10:25

Langarg · 01/01/2025 08:44

Morning all

I received an incoherent text message from my friend at about 3.15am (clearly drunk) rambling on about how she valued our friendship so much but couldn’t help but feel this whole situation had taken the shine off her wedding! The absolute cheek of it! She went on to say she will sort this out and hopes it can be ‘left in 2024’

I have a feeling she’s read here and is trying to make me feel guilty. Why else would she say it’s taken the shine off the wedding other than to try and make me feel bad?! Or have I become cynical?

Morning! She sounds very manipulative. She borrows and loses a v costly item of yours. Then blames you for taking the shine off a wedding that had two guests!! Because you’ve asked her to pay for a replacement which she should have offered in the first place. CF!

SquishyGloopyBum · 01/01/2025 10:26

Yes, the Dyson did get left in 2024. Which is why you want a replacement in 2025.

YourFairCyanReader · 01/01/2025 10:29

Aw don't be silly hun, of course it hasn't taken away from your special day. It will get sorted out this week then we can forget all about it. Did you want me to come with you to the hotel tomorrow? X

FizzyBisto · 01/01/2025 10:30

For some reason, her outrageous gaslighting reply very much reminds me of the time when Homer Simpson was caught out by Marge for having lied to her - and instead of sincerely apologising, he told her "It takes two to lie: one to lie and one to listen!"

Homer has done and said a lot of things in that fictional comedy show that would clearly never end well (if somebody ever had the audacity to try them on at all) in real life...

I agree with OP: why does HER error/dishonesty take the shine off her wedding; whereas you having been stolen from and lied to somehow doesn't take the shine off your bonus that you worked hard to earn and enjoyed benefiting from the rewards thereof?

She really does sound like she has an extreme case of Main Character Syndrome.

ForOliveOP · 01/01/2025 10:30

YourFairCyanReader · 01/01/2025 10:29

Aw don't be silly hun, of course it hasn't taken away from your special day. It will get sorted out this week then we can forget all about it. Did you want me to come with you to the hotel tomorrow? X

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MrsMoastyToasty · 01/01/2025 10:32
  1. Contact her husband.
  2. Go through Small Claims Court. Remind her it may cost her in terms of legal fees, interest and leave her with a CCJ.
SailingOnAWave · 01/01/2025 10:32

You really need to dump this friendship.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 01/01/2025 10:33

I'm so angry on your behalf. I'd be sending her this... No, you cheeky fucker, I will not be leaving this in 2024. This will be following you into 2025 like a bad smell. The only thing that can stop this is replacing my Dyson with a new one or returning my Dyson in full working order.

Taken the shine off your wedding? It's taken the bastard shine off my hair and bank account. Cheeky fucking bastard!!! GET IT REPLACED ASAP!!!!

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