Should she replace it? Part 2

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Starting the new thread ahead of hopefully having an update soon!

Taken the shine of the wedding ! 🤣 So she went from stealing and lying to gaslightning. How charming. Tell her you would have loved to leave this story in 2024 (alongside with the friendship) but unfortunately you still don't have your Dyson so...

Yeah this!

She’ll probably say that the hotel dumps all lost property at the end of the month so it’s gone now. The hotel had it and threw it away so it’s not her fault. Maybe she’ll say that her car has broken down and she can’t drive to the hotel.

I agree with others that it's sounding less like she's going to replace it, and more like she's trying to end the friendship and give herself a sob story to tell others about how she's been mistreated.

OP is going to have to pretend to be very invested in the friendship until she gets the airwrap, if it ever appears. I'm really not sure that she plans to give it back / come up with a replacement at all at this point.

It’s full of people placemarking and following when all they could do is click this and this 😂😂😂

The friend is laying on but has forgotten that did admit that she has a way of making it all ok (cc) if it has indeed been lost but has chosen not to because it will inconvenience her.

im sorry this is happening OP it’s a horrible way to start the year 😞😞😞

Tell her to save the petrol and put it towards the new air wrap.

Why can't she phone the hotel?!

I'm expecting a whiny Rebekah Vardy type response: "I wish you'd come to me to talk about this [interjects, I did!] before sticking it all over Mumsnet; you know my kids Cruz (3) and Barbie (1) love their Tablets and despite me not being able to get my hands on one of the hundreds of their read along stories" [background noise as towers of 'Hello!' and 'Take a Break!'] teeter and fall; sending Barbie's fake Burberry Stroller careering off. The front door was propped open in anticipation of delivery of tons of wedding presents (unfortunately, Registry list at Harrods, Harvey Nichols were etc shut but free rein of 'Botox to Go!' vouchers etc. were acceptable). The Delivery Driver managed to screech to an emergency stop at sight of runaway Pram at the well know drop off and turn around next day address. When the Paramedics had stabilised him and were wheeling him into ambulance he clasped at his chest and wheezed 'where's the baby?'. Parents giggled. 'Obviously, doing her hair with her new Christmas present!'.

I don’t know what half of this means, but I love it.

Rebekah Vardy, indeed.

Blimey!

Very unpleasant lady, that old adage is true here.

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time

I think leaving it in 2024 means she wants you to just suck it up and forget about it.

I don’t think the Air Wrap or a replacement is going to materialise. I anticipate radio silence from today onwards.

The best way to have left it in 2024 would have been for her to order you the new Dyson.

I fear that this won't be returned OP and you're going to be massively out of pocket.

How far are you willing to go with this? Clearly the loss of this 'friendship' is inevitable but what about your £500?

What are OP's options here? I don't think the CF'er cares about stepping away as long as it means this 'problem' going away for her.

Awful, awful woman.

Arrghhh this is what I was thinking might happen. She is clearly so brazen and cheeky thar she really isn't too bothered about your opinion or doing the right thing so is just going to go all out now. There is nothing for it but to make a fuss now..... ignore that text ring the hotel yourself and if they dont have it report this as stolen, get a number. Give her this info and ask her what she is planning to do next. No faffing about and leaving things in 2024.... if necessary go round to hers with some extra people (your DH) and insist this is sorted out. You need to get serious and give her a fright. She just cannot get away with being so awful.

Jesus, if I borrowed something expensive off a friend for my wedding (which I wouldnt), I'd be so stressed at the possibility of losing it that I'd have carried it down the aisle in place of a bouquet.

How utterly irresponsible of her if it is lost.
How downright criminal of her if she decided to keep it / sell it.

I literally cant wrap (fnar) my head around the possibility she's kept /sold it, because unless she only has 2 brain cells, how did she even think that would work out in her favour??

I totally agree. She’s trying to provoke you so you break off the friendship - and she doesn’t have to return/replace the Airwrap!

Focus on your priority: getting your Airwrap back or the money to buy a new one. Nod along, commiserate, smile, but keep on pushing.

When (hopefully!) this has all been sorted, then you can let rip at her!

Yes I think this is the way to go - at least for today.
The fact she is messaging you about it when drunk means it's on her mind and to me means she has actually lost it. If she had decided to sell it on, or use it for New year then give back, there would be no need for a message like that.

Maybe you could add a link to the models people have suggested that are the latest model but reduced in the sales.

Wow. What a complete CF. Either sold or trying to keep for herself. And then trying to blame you for ‘taking the shine off her wedding’!!!

She’s brazen. Be brazen back.

Send her a message

‘Hiya, just got your 3am message. Ha! Sounds like you had a good night. Happy New Year! Don’t let all this take the shine off your wedding, that’s silly. Hopefully when you go back to the hotel tomorrow they’ll have it. Or I’ll need £500 to buy a new one. Then we can all move on. Xx

But personally if it was me, I’d never bother with her again. She’s shown her true colours, she’s either incredibly careless or a thief. And if she was careless like we can all be, she would have marched and got you another one immediately. But she didn’t.

Maybe just reply "I expect this will all be resolved by the end of the day tomorrow- either the hotel has it or you send me rhe funds to replace it, so thankfully it's not dragging into 2025 too much. Speak tomorrow"

Then I'd probs turn up at her house tomorrow after she "gets back" from the hotel.

OP be the bigger person without backing down, I’d send something like. “I’m sorry you feel it’s taken the shine off your wedding. It shouldn’t be much drama, I lent you my airwrap, and I want it back. If you’ve lost or broken it, a replacement.”

I still think she’s left it with someone else who was at the wedding /was seeing the next few days, told them they can keep it as she couldn’t be arsed collecting it and that’s why you have to wait for her to magically get it, because that’s the first day she can go to theirs.

She’s in luck, they’re only £399 in Boots and Argos atm 😃

You are not cynical OP - your friend is trying it on and accepting no responsibility for the situation she has created. Even if she has genuinely lost it it’s her handling of the situation which has drawn this out and ruined your friendship.
I agree you need to placate her and send the message @Nospecialcharactersplease has suggested.
and if friend has read on here - please read through the hundreds of messages OP has recieved in support and do the right thing!

following also...😉

Placemarking, sorry.
I don’t think I would have it in me to immediately admit it’s lost/broken. I’d order an exact copy of what i borrowed, explain what happened and hope I’m forgiven. I couldn’t cope with the embarrassment of not handing it back over.