Should she replace it? Part 2

[Langarg]

Starting the new thread ahead of hopefully having an update soon!

Tell her you're happy to just accept the replacement and move on too. Boots have them on sale for £399 at the moment, and she could pay by Klarna to spread the cost rather than paying on her credit card. Seems like she's in luck and won't have to put £500 on her card after all!

Fuck me, Bridezilla seems to have forgotten that her wedding was one day one her long, damn life and a good friend is forever if you treat her right….

I’ve used this tactic once for a secret santa gift left under a table at a function by a colleague. Miraculously found!
Another time it was just a phone charger but we knew which room in the hotel it had been left in! My friends had stayed at the hotel so I went and stood at the reception desk until it was found - took about twenty minutes!

Ruined her hair perhaps, since she can’t use it anymore if she has to give it back to you.

To be honest, none of this makes sense.

This is very manipulative.

The only way it could have "taken the shine off her wedding" is if she has been caught out in an outrageous lie. If it were a genuine accident that she had been so blasé about looking after expensive, borrowed equipment - she would be apologising profusely and ordering a brand new replacement on her credit card and not trying to fob you off with an inferior second hand model.

My reply would be that you're reporting it to the police as a theft, as this is what she claimed. The police are allowed to view the CCTV. I think someone carrying the box would be fairly obvious. If she's got it, you'll get a rapid reply!

That might be the way to play it - tell her you are going to make a police report for theft so that they can review the CCTV camera footage.

Well, it would be very kind to do that, because with this person you'd still foot the bill. However, perhaps being nice and spoiling her on a "girls" day out may soften her up? Who knows.
I know others have suggested paying her petrol or paying £100 towards it, but I don't know if these kind tactics would work.

The drunken message proves to me that it is definitely not at the hotel and she knows what happened to it/where it is

The message shows it is on her mind (probably because she was getting compliments last night on how good her hair looked) and it’s the guilt talking.

If it was at the hotel then why would the shine be taken off the wedding. Yes it would be annoying to have to go and pick it up but you would make a day of it and stop for some lunch.

Definitely not a reason to take the shine off her wedding, guilt of doing something she shouldn’t have done however, well a guilty conscience is something that would affect your memories I guess

Don’t be taken in by her guilt tripping you, she is beyond cheeky, get your replacement

Agree with this. Being slightly charitable, I’d tell her to let you know when she’s been on the hotel tomorrow and if it’s not found you’ll make a report to the police so the CCTV footage can be viewed.

Honestly , in my experience never lend out anything. I lend a hand always.

I also prefer not to borrow anything either.

Whatever you do, keep away from the Style and Beauty board.

She’s bullshitting you. Just tell her she just replaces what she lost. Simple as. No need for drama.

GUILT is the consequences of her own actions.

I'd be leaving that friendship in 2024.

"Yes, I'm sure it has taken the shine off and I'm keen to resolve it ASAP because its no way to start the new year. You've said you're going to the hotel tomorrow- the hotel have already told both of us its not there.

You've said you'll put a new one on the credit card so please just do that that today. Ive made clear im not prepared to accept a second hand one and i'm not prepared to wait any longer. There's one on sale here: [Web address].

Alternatively, transfer me the money and I'll buy it myself.

This really is the last chance to sort this before I need to take this further and file a police report and start the small claims court process.

The last thing I want is to throw away our friendship but you can't seriously think that you can lose my £500 airwrap and walk away expecting me to eat the loss.

its your fault that younlost it so please just sort it out now beforr things get worse and we can put it behind us.

I've just had enough now, whpever has it needs to be held tp account so 6pm tonight I'm making a police report."

terrifying to imagine a police officer actually attending this hotel and watching CCTV footage to get back this item and undertaking the paperwork involved.

yes it’s expensive item but surely, surely, this police officer (s) could be more usefully utilised!!

Yes this, too.
I don't agree with everyone else who says she must have stolen it - some of you are very cynical! But she does need to pay up. Make sure you send her the link to thr boots one being on sale right now.

You just know the Fail is going to pick this up!

Shes setting things up to fall out with you and block you. I would stop responding, but instead I would send Letter Before Action, you can find template online and then take it to small claims. Do not let the scumbag get away with it

@Langarg

The thing that should have 'taken the shine' off her wedding is the thievery she committed on that day.

IIRC she was going to the hotel to 'look for it' this weekend? Tick tock tick tock then. How is she going to explain this if suddenly it turns up at the hotel? I mean, if it was really there, the hotel would have it in 'lost and found' and told her they found it when she called. And if 'someone else' found it and nicked it, she's still responsible for replacing it.

Oh what a tangled web we weave......

Having skimmed through your posts on the other thread I'm team 'she wanted to use it for new years and was planning to 'find it' on the 2nd and return it' but you have scuppered that by calling the hotel yourself. Small claims if she won't replace it. What a CF.

I expect it has taken the shine off her wedding and possibly has been stolen , which is why expensive items should be in the hotel safe , you wouldn't leave a phone or jewellery worth that lying around . I hope she replaces it ,and in time you can both move on.

Oooh, love this - good psychology and brilliant karmic twist!!

Hope friend isn't reading this thread...

Here ad I need to see the finale