Should she replace it? Part 2

[Langarg]

Starting the new thread ahead of hopefully having an update soon!

You'd be cynical if this was the first time she was a CF Op but she has form. You've let her get away with not paying you back before so she thinks why not now?

Took the shine off her wedding! No she’s done that by her best case carelessness (which I don’t buy) or her greediness in nicking it! If anyone’s taken the shine it’s her acting so appallingly! If she’d bought a new one immediately it would have stayed in 2024- she’s the one dragging it out

Reply "I didn't take the shine off anything. I loaned you a very expensive Dyson Air Wrap and you lost it and you're unwilling to sort out the mess you created. This will end up costing you a lot more than hiring a hairdresser would have because I'm not sure our friendship will be able to survive this incident. That too is in your hands. I await your update after you go to the hotel"

I actually don’t think she will give it back , I think she will continue to lie about leaving it at the hotel and them not finding it and then hope that you will value the friendship enough to forget all about it , hence the drunk message during the night . Please do not let it go @Langarg

Awww bless her. She’s stolen lost your property and now she’s trying DARVO tactics to make herself the victim and make you sympathetic towards her.

Don’t fall for her crocodile tears - stand firm, get your Dyson or a brand new replacement and then distance yourself form her.

This!

OP, this is such fun, I told your story to my wife last night over NYE supper.

Neither of us had heard of an Air Wrap before.

Now it’s been Googled, she wants one too. I only joined this forum last week and already it’s cost me four hundred quid! 😂

Agree with previous posters, when I read your initial posts I assumed she had decided to keep it.

As for her message last night, she doesn't value your friendship at all. Her behaviour and manipulative texts demonstrate this. If she respected or cared for your friendship she would have been apologetic and wanting to put things right by telling you (as if you were going to forget the lent the Wrap to her 🙄) by buying a NEW replacement unprompted. Instead she has plead poverty and tried to make you feel bad whilst telling you you should be grateful for her offer of a much older model.

The least she could and should do is just buy a brand new replacement and apologise. Not guilt trip you.

Oooo a NYD CF thread, lovely. Shamelessly placemarking (almost as shamelessly as CF Airwrsp Thief). Also really want an airwrap now.

This might be the way you need to go now @Langarg.

Be just as brazen as she is.

Contact her new husband and any other relations of hers that you're aware of and ask them if they may have taken a bag that has a Dyson Air Wrap in it as CFker friend is saying it was left behind/stolen at the hotel and you're trying to work out what the story is and if they may have taken it in error.

Perhaps she should be embarrassed by her family at this point??

Why is it up to OP to placate her for her selfish/careless/dishonesty behaviour?

Anything second-hand is a risk, as you don't know what the previous owner might have done with it. In fact, many dishonest people will deliberately make the decision to sell their item because they know it's broken/unreliable and hope that they can offload it on to some poor unsuspecting mug.

By stark contrast, if you've owned something from new, looked after it and used it carefully and maybe not even that frequently, it effectively remains 'as good as new' for a long time.

The friendship is dead in the water, OP has caught her friend in a lie. There's no way to move past irregardless of whether the Dyson is returned, replaced or whatever. And of course the friend needs to either return the Dyson or pay £500 so OP can buy a new one.

This situation reminds me of a time I loaned a v. v. good friend a lot of money which she assured me would be repaid within 12 months. We even had a contract drawn up and witnessed. Needless to say it took years, I had to take her to court and she ended up having to pay statutory interest (which meant she had to pay an extra 30% of the original debt on top). Along the way, she tried to change the narrative (much like the OP's friend now is). Thankfully, I had retained all emails, texts and correspondence relating to the loan so was able to take her to court. When the whole thing was resolved and she finally started to repay the loan, she told me how shaken she was by the whole thing and would never get over what I had done to her. The bare-faced cheek of her totally reminds me of the OP's friend's audacity in trying to make OP out to be the villain of the piece - taking the shine off her wedding - FFS, there's only one person who is out of order and it's not OP.

~ Dyson Hair Gate ~

For me, it was the excuse about the blue carpet being the same as the box. That to me is the giveaway that she’s lying.

Your friend has said that the hotel didn’t want to give away information for fear of privacy. What nonsense, if that were the case the hotel would have told you that they cant give information.

How did she contact the hotel ? By phone or email ? Can she give you a screen shot of the phone call or a copy of the email ? As assurance that she bothered to follow up on this in a timely manner ?

Did she end up driving to the hotel ?

Do you know anyone that could conduct ‘operation Air Wrap ’ and have a nosey at her house ? Or could you randomly drop by to apologise investigate and use her bathroom
ransack her room ?

I would want to get to the bottom of this. Though I guarantee you that your friend will get what is coming.

that's still a wedding.

I wonder if there's a MNetter living near the hotel who could pop in and retrieve your Air Wrap today OP? We're all fairly sure it's not there, but it might give your shiny-haired (ex) friend a little shove to do the right thing...

I wonder how much these threads have boosted Airwrap sales. I spent a good while looking at them on different sites until I remembered I have short hair.

Why?

Can you tell us what hotel it was, someone on here is bound to either work there or know someone who does?

Also, check the hotel website, what colour are the carpets?

(Personally I would start small claims court proceedings on Monday).

Why?

Why would you do that ?
CF already has taken £500 in goods off OP and I doubt she has any intention of driving to the hotel, so that really would be good money after bad.

I'm thinking that, as part of her apparent Main Character Syndrome, she's thinking that weddings are such big, busy occasions that lots of stuff may go missing or weird things happen in all the chaos - and she's banking on using that as a cover for nicking the Air Wrap.

The problem with that is that, not only has she made it out to be a tiny personal affair, rather than an all-out crazy-busy wedding, but she's also forgetting that OP wasn't actually honoured enough to be invited and thus wasn't a witness to any of the wedding day chaos.

All OP has witnessed/been party to is that her expensive Air Wrap was borrowed and that she's now being informed that she isn't getting it back and it's just tough, because of... reasons.

I don't think it's a given that the friend has been caught in a lie (as unlikely as it sounds); it's hard to believe anyone would simply try to steal an expensive belonging from a friend.

Regardless of whether or not it's a lie, the fact that OP had to ask for her Airwrap back and the friend didn't even offer to replace it with a new one is shitty.

Totally invested in this thread 😂
It's also made me look at Airwraps and seriously consider getting one. I'm torn between a Dyson and a Shark'

I suspect she would buy a knockoff or refurbished instead, and say she ordered it via the link.
OP either needs the money, or her to order it right under her nose

The cheek of her! My jaw is on the floor reading this.

I need to RTFT as I can see a lot of people are saying she's nicked it so I might be missing some context - but if she did just leave it behind, to try to shame OP into dropping the subject after depriving her of a £500+ item... just wow. We have an early contender for CF of 2025!