To complain about a GP calling me this?

[lolit]

He called me a good girl while examining me. Should I complain or am I overreacting?

Sorry you've said it was during an examination, was it like a smear test or anywhere down there? I think i would feel extremely uncomfortable if that was the case.
If it was a general exam somewhere else, im not sure I'd be as affected by it.

Saschka: what a wonderful reply: "Good girl is what you say to a dog for bringing a stick back". Let's all commit that one to memory so we're prepared to respond instantly the next time we're humiliatingly patronised by a doctor.

How typical, when the OP doesnt get the responses she wants, she then starts to drip feed that is was "sexual". Wonder why that wasnt mentioned in the first post.

Gross. Even more gross that a majority think you are being unreasonable!

Move on from it… plenty more pressing things to worry about.

I'm normally pretty easy going, but that would make me really uncomfortable.

"Good girl" is something you say to a child or a dog when they've been well behaved and pleased their parent or master. Fuck that coming from a GP to a grown woman during an examination. 🤮

Wtf that’s weird, gross, patronising, and patriarchal. Complain!!! Who are all these 50s house wives being good girls and saying yabu!?! We have the vote now ladies!

I think the comment was infantilising and misogynistic. I think GPs adopt that stance too often.

Not many years ago I had a male GP introduce himself: hello Roses, I'm one of the GP Partners here, Dr Bloggs. I noted that my name was Mrs Hellebores.

Two weeks later I had a follow up appointment and asked him why he thought it was OK to use my first name when he expected me to address him with the courtesy of his title. His response "he forgot my surname between the consultancy room and reception". I responded. "Oh, did you forget your first name was Steve as well". He got very terse.

I fail to see why any individual shoukd ever be regarded with less respect than a Dr.

I'd have laughed and pointed out that I haven't been a girl for about twenty-odd years... I'm mean enough that these days, I'd leave an implication that I'm transmasc in there too...

There is no such thing as "he said it in a sexual way". He said whatever he said and thats that. The surgery will get a good giggle out of this complaint.

How very unprofessional of them.

This or do you spend your time being offended. You can see a female GP if not possible you can ask for a chaperone.

Behave yourself 😂

😂

Was it the 'girl' bit that offended you, or the 'good girl' as a whole. Last week in town I saw a former classmate, my DH asked who it was. I replied it was a girl from my class in school. This week I am going out to lunch with some girls from work....we are all aged 40 +. Sometimes I forget I am old!

It was the tone in which he said it, it sounded pervy.

Open your mouth darlin i'll just get me tool in, there's a good girl

Ahh, but would you put in a formal complaint?

Being called Hun gives me the rage, but it wouldn’t occur to me to formalise a complaint about it!

I work in public service and we often have training that would suggest this was inappropriate language. I’d be creeped out by it too, especially if it was an intimate examination

Oh OP fgs just stop - most people wouldnt think twice about this nor mean anything by it
People just want to be perpetually offended now

I think women need to start objecting to infantilisation and misogyny.

It never fails to amaze me that at my local hospital female patients are called to their appointments as Jane Smith whilst men are called to theirs as Mr Smith.

It is reprehensible.

Brilliant 👌 Some doctors do it with other staff too. They like to be Dr so and so, whilst calling the nurses, psychologists etc by the first names. I was never willing to play that game myself!

I was made the feel uncomfortable in the moment when I was meant to be made to feel safe and at ease. If you were made to feel that way, you would think twice about it too.

So I will not stop, I will complain every time this happens because I don't want another woman to experience the same.

I quite agree @lolit.