To complain about a GP calling me this?

[lolit]

He called me a good girl while examining me. Should I complain or am I overreacting?

Again - demographics are completely blinding you to context here. For most of you 'good girl' is something you say regularly in real life to children and grandchildren, it's a neutral phrase. In porn and online forums, it's more usually obviously and explicitly sexual. Like calling someone 'naughty'. She's not reading too much into it the overtones are obvious. So much so that it's not an appropriate way for a middle aged man to address younger women at work. And she also heard the tone, which was enough to make her skin crawl. I believe her.

I hate smear tests as they are so uncomfortable, and have had female nurses say ''Well done'' and ''You are doing well'' for putting up with it.

I've had male GP's do them, they do gazillions, they aren't about to lose their careers over someone like @lolit thinking that they fancy them.

No bloody wonder some GP's use chaperones- to prevent this kind of accusation.

For GP's own protection against allegations like this, they really need to insist on chaperones.

'With no witnesses to the assaults, it was the strength of all the victims’ accounts, which showed a similar pattern in Cox’s behaviour, that helped secure his conviction," Chris White, from the Crown Prosecution Service, said.'

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c7491mz401lo

Sorry you went through that OP.
Health workers all get trained in how to speak to people and in my work Trust, it is not ok to use any terms of endearment in case they are misread. He absolutely knew it was not ok to say that, and to use a sexual tone is appalling.
Definitely report.

No, I’m saying this kind of language will be very triggering for someone that has been assaulted by someone in power, it’s not appropriate, not necessary at all and is gross.

Well that’s a monumental stretch.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-64210582

@Garlicwest "Was he stroking your clit at the time? Drooling? Did he sort of growl it in a throaty manner, or perhaps murmur it breathily into your ear?"

Absolutely vile.

Just fyi, they don't snip, they swab.

Are you an adult human female?

I was sexually abused as a child, but still think someone complaining about a male GP saying ''Good girl'' is ridiculous.

No pun intended, I hope.

FGS! seriously!

eta; your response to
AppleDumplingWithCustard · Today 01:38
Well that’s a monumental stretch.

'Babu asked another of the complainants to take their bra off under the pretext of examining for moles, the court heard.
He told the complainant [...] “I’m not having a bad day” as he touched their breast, the court heard.'

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/hampshire-medical-practitioners-tribunal-service-b2527827.html

Textbook

What’s your problem, @beetr00 ?

@KilkennyCats pray tell, what do you think?

It's absolutely dreadful.

perhaps that would require critical thinking on your part @KilkennyCats

Yeah so was I and I would find it triggering. It is totally unnecessary language.

The problem is when people go into an appointment with their GP with this mindset ie I am scrutinising every word you say. It's no wonder Doctors become less able to speak to patients generally for fear of being misinterpreted. The OPs complaint is ludicrous although as always the Doctor concerned will be sympathetic to her mental health.

😂

I think it’s unfair and unkind to report him. The dictionary definition of “girl” is “a young or relatively young woman.”

I teach English to postgraduate level and I agree with the OP's interpretation, the language is inappropriate, and as others have noted, is the sort of language that highly educated, professional healthcare workers are explicitly trained to avoid

It's not a monumental stretch because it's basically mainstream porn and you are grossly underestimating the prevalence of regular porn usage in the male population. Pornhub is the 10th most visited website in the UK, after Instagram and before Ebay. And that's just one site, there's also Only Fans, chatrooms, webcam sites, Snapchat, Literotica etc etc etc This shit is mainstream and it's in the minds of a lot of men