To think of you're going to answer questions with "yeah.." or "no...." At a social event, then fuck offfff

[fanaticalfairy]

Why bother coming out to meet people if you can't even engage in basic conversations with people who are all there to get to know each other?
We were out for a birthday brunch this morning with about 20 people, some we knew, some we didn't as it was for a mutual friend (Graham)
Me .. spying someone unfamiliar at our table..."hi, I'm Fairy, what's your name?
Him: "John "
Me: "great. How you know Graham "
John: " through a friend, Steve"
Me: "oh, yes I know Steve, he's lovely, how do you know Steve?
John" work'
Me: "So, what do you do with Steve?"
John: "Software engineer"
Me: "great what kind of thing? Im a software engineer too..."
John: "Nothing interesting....'
Me: "Oh... Ok. So ... Got any holidays booked?"
John: "No."Tumble weed

"Ok, lovely to meet you ... I'll go and see Graham is okay "

Ugh

Sorry, sorry, sorry, tell me about your skydiving habits!

Well, the person in question sounds very socially awkward. I enjoy meeting new people and a bit of so-called 'small talk', so I'd find this odd and a bit off-putting; but I wouldn't think 'they can fuck off''. I'm aware that I have my own, different oddities, like very poor visual face recognition.

Sure. He has social anxiety. Fine.

Then why sit down at a table with strangers when there were other free tables?

Which novel? Sorry, I haven't RTFT but I'll forget to ask if I keep reading...

We're not here to give you free lessons on how best to act in social situations, so why do you keep asking everyone who disagrees with you?

Look for some self-help online tutorials maybe?

But it's important to remember not everyone in life will be particularly enamored with you and if they're not, they're perfectly within their rights to give you one word answers whilst possibly secretly hoping you'll back off.

That doesn't mean they're the ones with a problem.

Learn to read people better.

Ohhhhh…thank god. When you said ‘like going out to a restaurant with friends and drinking tap water’, I thought there was something wrong with the beverage choice, like you should at least order mineral water 😂. Thanks for clarifying.

Pride and Prejudice. 😌

Didn’t she see past his gruff exterior and end up marrying him?

Because people are sitting there saying "what boring questions" or "you need to better ice breakers" and such like - yet completely unable to suggest a better way... Which rather implies that my questions were perfectly acceptable...
So yes, I will continue to ask people their names and how they know the host etc....until these amazing, fascinating, witty party people tell me how to do it in a more interesting way.

Apparently, according to a PP, the answer to this is "maybe he changed his mind" 😂

At a party for a mutual friend with only about 20 guests, you think it's fine for someone to just basically refuse to talk to another guest? I mean, it's not really ok, it's incredibly rude

Well then..

He can fuck off to another table then :p

So, you go and find someone who reciprocates. Which you did. I’m hella extrovert but I can tell instantly when my bubbly energy is NOT what someone needs and I think nothing more of it.

But according to a lot of people on here that is rude too. You shouldn't just leave them to it, you should sit with them and not say anything, and let them warm up, and start to feel comfortable with them, and then let them dictate the pace or whatever, for however long it takes, even if in all that time you could have chatted to 10 other people. And you sit there all night to allow this poor man the chance to get comfortable with you, then discover that you have nothing in common and you've wasted your night.

These sorts of parties are like speed dating. Nothing in common? Nice to meet you, just heading off to get another drink.... and start chatting to someone else. You just can't win.

No.

Maybe fairy will end up with John...

Only when he stopped being so gruff.

I'll tell my husband to make preparations for our divorce... John is the one!

Poor old John though, sat in the corner quietly.

What's wrong with that? I feel for "poor old John" being subjected to your social skills and rude demands to supply answers in a "conversation" he was not interested in or comfortable with and then mocked on a thread devoted to him and his supposed "weirdness" for not enjoying or wishing to engage in banal small talk with you, on MN.

Agree, going by her responses, she dosen’t come across well,

Ok

Thanks.

But he didn't refuse to talk. He just wasn't as detailed in his answers as the poster wanted. It's not like he turned his back, or got ul and walked away or stuck his fingers in his ears and sang out "la, la, la"

until these amazing, fascinating, witty party people tell me how to do it in a more interesting way.

And this is why no-one wants to bother helping you because you're making yourself sound really arsey.

Perhaps another reason why the guy didn't want to engage with you?

In all modesty, got to Page 27 and read the long post I made at 21:44, cos I think I contextualise and answer your query, if made sincerely, in reasonable detail

Ah. So you have no great/better openers then.

So I'm fine thanks.