Should she replace it?

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My friend asked if she could borrow my Dyson airwrap for her wedding as money was tight and she couldn’t afford a hairdresser. It was a small wedding with only her, her DH and two witnesses. I reluctantly agreed (bit of a people pleaser).

The wedding was two weeks ago, we exchanged a few messages back and forth the day after her wedding. A few days later I asked if she could please return my airwrap and she didn’t reply. I messaged again saying I really need it back as I don’t have a hair dryer anymore and solely use this to dry/style my hair and she eventually replied saying she accidentally left it in the hotel however the hotel are claiming it wasn’t left there.

She was very apologetic however didn’t offer to replace it or give me the money for it. I raised this with her and explained that I shouldn’t be left without my airwrap or out of pocket for her mistake and she said that she couldn’t afford to replace or give me the money for it. She then sent me a link to a post on Facebook marketplace of someone selling an older model for £150 and said that if I buy that she can pay me back in 3 monthly instalments.

I don’t want to accept this because firstly why should I be out of pocket £150 and risk not being paid back and I don’t want an older model when I had the newer one which cost me nearly £500 less than a year ago.

I explained this to her and she said she is going to be forced to put a brand new one on her credit card which will put her in to debt. I feel awful but I really don’t know what to do?!

Please give me some advice…

YABU = buy the £150 older model and hope she pays the 3 monthly instalments
YANBU = accept her offer of her buying a replacement on her credit card

I used to think the same I could never spend £300 on a hairdryer.
Then I got a £100 bonus, surely I could get a decent hairdryer for that, and started asking friends with similar hair to mine - everyone said dyson - so i ended up with a dyson supersonic OK i got it on a deal for £230 but still £230 on a dryer.

Wait she's going to drive 4 hours round trip to go to the hotel after asking them and them saying no?!

Yeah... the bigger the story/effort the bigger the lie..

I don’t see how it’s tricky. The friend didn’t take care of the airwrap and should replace it. It cost £500.

Does she have previous form for borrowing stuff and not giving it back/leaving it behind etc?

I would want a brand new one, I wouldn’t accept anything less. Let’s see if it turns up now you have pushed hard, not sure she was expecting that.

It's all bull dhit, no way are they going to drive to the hotel.
I'd hazard a guess husband knows nothing about it.
I hope OP follows through and insists the CF replaces it

Agree! What a bitch

Ask her to contact hotel again to confirm it hasn’t been left anywhere and if not then ask her to claim it through her home insurance. It’s not acceptable for her to expect you to take a cheaper older model. She should have taken more care of it . Someone else in the wedding party couldn’t have picked it up

Honestly, I would say that she's taken it. The fact that it took so long for her to reply. Then tried to palm you off with something that's second hand. Then the darvo of oh if I put the 500 on my card it'll hurt my credit. No love you better give back the dryer or buy a new one and give that to me. Maybe then she'll stop being a thief.

If I was you I would keep her at a distance once you get the new dryer from her. I would check it before actually accepting it encase she's cut the cords as well. You know because she had to give back the dryer she stole. Ok because she had to replace the one that suddenly did a David Copperfield.

Not your issue that she’ll have to put it on her CC. She is being entirely unreasonable to expect you to accept a 2nd hand model & also to expect you to front up the money for it. She should have ensured it was safe; such an entitled attitude from her. I would definitely request a new replacement. Ask yourself what you would do if it were the other way round? A true friend would not put you in this position.

Why! She lost the OP’s very expensive hairdrier!

Something similar happened to me but it was a camera that a friend borrowed and broke. She started sending me photos of second hand cameras which were much cheaper and of a lower spec and I (like you) just wanted what I had. It took months and eventually the camera was replaced- it was second hand but the same brand and spec so I accepted it and it was fine. But it showed me another side of her.

It would be very satisfying if she tried to flog it on eBay/Facebook or similar and OP saw the listing.

"Hey, look, this is a very similar one to mine that you lost: same model, same age, same condition - ooh, and the seller lives in the same postcode as you, so no need for you to travel any distance to collect it for me once you've bought it!!"

I jsut cannot get over the audacity of it.

Hey I lost your very expensive item so whre is a link to a secondhand one

The absolute cheek of it.

Why should she compromise?

Id be sending her a link to the one I have and asking for a replacement.

New one on her CC and fuck her story of woe about debt.

She probably still has it/has sold it.

Even if she has just lost it the pure cheek of it is fucking wild.

Give her a deadline OP. Money in your account or a tracking number of the parcel for the replacement.

She's probably kept it. She needs to buy you one like for like cheeky cow

She’s evidently going out for new year and plans on using it. Hence why she is ‘driving to the hotel’ rather than just ringing them herself.

Just tell her you want your air wrap back or a new one by x date otherwise you’ll take her to small claims. Put that in a text or email so you have it in writing.

Get the replacement and keep your distance, what a toxic ‘friend’ x

She def needs to replace like for like. Not a cheaper one on marketplace

What a cheeky cow. I'm with the 'she stole it off you' camp, and I'm really sorry this has happened.

Some people are just so incredibly cheeky

The pure cheek!
We need an update!

Hope you get them back OP. She doesn't seem like a good friend.

I know I'd never borrow anything from a friend that I couldn't afford to replace and if I did lose or damage something that i borrowed I'd replace it like for like/new.
Hopefully she'll magically find them in the car/hotel.

She borrowed and lost (or kept) it; she pays up for a new replacement - end of!