To tell ‘D’H I can see him watching women bounce their tits about!!

[Bequickplease]

I’m raging

NC for this!

I’m in bed as been working nights - ‘D’H is downstairs with 5yr old DD, woken up as I can hear DD whining a bit. Checked the front room camera (because I don’t want to get up yet if I can help it!) to see what’s going on and H is on the sofa scrolling women half naked on Instagram! I am disgusted by the whole saga! Looking at women and the fact he is meant to be looking after DD!!!

But isn’t that a huge invasion of privacy?!!!

AIBU to tell him what I saw?!

I'm calling bullshit. Firstly that you have a camera in the room and secondly that it is focused on DH's phone.

Wow that's a very good camera.
What brand is it? I've been shopping around and would love one that detailed.
Also as you're up anyway it'll probably be better if you go down and he goes back to bed.

Why have you got a camera in your front room?

I was also about to ask what type of camera is so good that it can see what he's looking at on Instagram...

Why do you even have a camera in your living room?

What is 5yo DD doing? Presumably she cannot see the phone?
I mean I'd be raging, but I also wouldn't live with someone that I needed to monitor when he was looking after our children.

It’s a security camera. Tapo or something. You can talk through it etc

mainly used to check on the dogs if we are both at work, but he was sitting right under it so you can easily see.

Obviously it isn’t focused on his phone he could choose to sit anywhere! It just is brilliant quality 4K or something, I actually didn’t buy it DH did

Talk through it next time and say pwhoooor look at those! Amazing!

DD is just mooching around playing with odd bits from Christmas

YABU to describe it as watching women bounce their tits about. It's him doing wrong.

But isn’t that a huge invasion of privacy?!!!

Who's privacy.
The women that put pic's of themselves semi clad on Instagram for all to look at.
OR
Your DH'S for having you spying on his phone.

At least you know he's not secretly gay.

Cameras in the house are more creepy than a man looking at tits tbh.

Checking a camera in your own house that all adults are aware of is more creepy than looking at soft porn while looking after your child? MN is a weird place sometimes

It wouldn't bother me tbh.

Having the camera is creepy.

I think speaking through the camera is a good idea. Perhaps asking him to lift the phone up a bit so you can see better. Bet he shits himself.

It's yuk that he's watching it with a 5 year old around frankly and I'd be having words about that but show me a straight man who doesn't look at this sort of stuff when they think they can get away with it and I will show you a liar.

You think your rage is gonna stop him? (Or others).
😉😂

If your dd is in the same room that’s really grim.

Well... that's a lie.

I love the rush of posters needing to act cool about this.

🤣🤣 hardly

Why are people so baffled by having a camera in front room? Quite common if you have dogs

I dunno there’s a lot of ‘gym girls’ on insta who are in effectively underwear working out….it’s not like he’s actively looking porn or something DD could hear.
I wouldn’t be thrilled but it wouldn’t a dealbreaker I would probably make a joke through the speaker!

Why? We have a camera in the living room, originally installed to watch pets who were on cage rest but left up once they had recovered and now used as a security camera.

Sounds like a good way to start an argument. You’ve obviously made the effort to watch what he’s watching on his phone to invade his privacy. He obviously shouldn’t be looking at other women. So Christmas row, why not. Maybe wait until your DD is in bed though.

@Clarasmum444

You're fine with a father scrolling videos of half naked women while his 5 year old daughter is playing at his feet?

Is it fine for a woman to do the same and sit on the couch scrolling videos of men in their underwear while their child is playing nearby? Which women would do this?

Not something I'm cool with.