To tell ‘D’H I can see him watching women bounce their tits about!!

[Bequickplease]

I’m raging

NC for this!

I’m in bed as been working nights - ‘D’H is downstairs with 5yr old DD, woken up as I can hear DD whining a bit. Checked the front room camera (because I don’t want to get up yet if I can help it!) to see what’s going on and H is on the sofa scrolling women half naked on Instagram! I am disgusted by the whole saga! Looking at women and the fact he is meant to be looking after DD!!!

But isn’t that a huge invasion of privacy?!!!

AIBU to tell him what I saw?!

Escalation. I spent a year learning all about npd, trying to talk to the man (because we have been together decades)

Big mistake. Instead of it being about what he did, it was all shifted on to me and how I caused his behaviour. I then found out he has been doing things like this for years, even whilst I was suffering hyperemesis in pregnancy (it was my fault then too)

They’re porn addicts, weak pathetic boys. Take everything he has quietly (compensation) and dump, they don’t improve (they can’t, they lack a soul)

I’ll be leaving once I’m done with him

Urgg, I’m so glad not to have a camera like this in my house. The idea of being watched (or watchable) at all times without my knowledge- appalling.

I’m not a fan of porn at all but for me monitoring him through the camera is worse. And I realise it’s something you didn’t really mean to do but it happened.

Keep the husband, bin the camera.

Ps

Dont allow anyone here to minimise porn addiction. It’s extremely harmful to all involved.

If your guy is doing that with kids around, likely a low empathy narc I’m afraid, which means there’s a whole lot you don’t know about what he has been doing (none of it good)

@FrowntonAbbey

I'm just amazed you think this is real

The post or the person saying they're cool with this behaviour?

If you think it's a bullshit post, report it to Mumsnet.

If it is a bullshit post, there are still responses from posters saying they don't see a problem with it. That's either lies to act like they're oh so unbothered, or they're fucking weird.

Depends on the context really. Women in a gym kit exercising are not jiggling their tits. Or is he watching women writhing porn style with tits out? Which tends to be banned by instagram.

I doom scroll sometimes. It doesn't mean he is necessarily getting off on it.

“half naked pics” is not soft porn, it could be a woman in a bikini for all we know

I have a puppy, and I also have three pet cameras.

it’s really not creepy unless you’re using it to spy on people, as opposed to just keeping an eye on a dog that likes to try and kill himself at every opportunity

I don't have an indoor camera, but I have some wildlife ones outdoors. This afternoon, I have been watching some tits bouncing around, plus some goldfinches and a couple of woodpeckers.

On his phone objectifying women, topping up his wank bank and getting a twitchy dick whilst his 5 year daughter old plays in front him.

He sounds lovely. 🤮

“half naked pics” is not soft porn, it could be a woman in a bikini for all we know

@Workhardcryharder

Would absolutely love to hear what good reason a man would have for scrolling videos of women in bikinis around his 5 year old daughter. It's not an advert with a woman in a bikini, it's videos he's intentionally sought out and is scrolling through.

It’s instagram, you don’t have to search for them, they are everywhere.

@Workhardcryharder

Yes, so why is he continuing to scroll through more of the same content ?

Any decent man would see that and put his phone down (hopefully realising he should be engaging with his child and not doom scrolling fucking Instagram in the first place when with her) and save bikini hour for when his 5 year old daughter is not in the room.

Cannot believe how much posters are tripping over themselves to defend this behaviour.

And by the way, he has sought them out. I got rid of Instagram after a couple of weeks because I didn't understand the appeal, but the algorithm never showed me women in bikinis somehow. Funny that.

Yeah my dog is always on at me to set up a camera in the living room, pervy little hound.

scrolling on instagram in front of the child is a whole different topic.

cant believe other people have a different opinion to you? Shock horror

cant believe other people have a different opinion to you? Shock horror

Yes, that's what this is about 🙄

Men like boobs, OP needs to get used to the idea that men will look at them given the chance.

That's your go to?

Rather than most dog owners like to be able to look in at their pets whilst at work.

Ok.