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To ask who pissed you off this Christmas?

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:37

My BIL has just left and was such a grumpy sod for the whole time he was here. 🙄 I wanted to shake him but DH told me to just leave it, it's just what he's like... and don't I know that's true!!

What about you? Who got on your nerves?

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MuddlingThroughLife · 27/12/2024 16:37

DH and his man flu 🙄

MontyNojangles · 27/12/2024 16:38

DH and BIL, 2 peas from the same bloody pod 🙄

BuzzYourGirlfriendWoof · 27/12/2024 16:42

My mum. Has been a totally uncompromising dick about how we do Christmas our whole lives (e.g. I wasn’t ever allowed out on Christmas Eve…the one year (aged 25) I popped out to my now-DH’s house to see him for 2 hours she made me feel terrible and gave me the silent treatment); anyway, this year, she divorced my dad, has got a new boyfriend and dropped us all. So sad.

FrogOnAYuleLog · 27/12/2024 16:42

Well family member has just arrived to stay for a few days and announced they and someone they were with on Xmas day were both puking their guts up all day yesterday. So that’s fun.

BlondieDH · 27/12/2024 16:45

FrogOnAYuleLog · 27/12/2024 16:42

Well family member has just arrived to stay for a few days and announced they and someone they were with on Xmas day were both puking their guts up all day yesterday. So that’s fun.

Oh god I’d chuck them straight back out

LouH1981 · 27/12/2024 16:45

My MIL. Fed up with the way she treats my lovely husband. She makes everything about her and she shows zero interest in him or anything he says.

VodkaCola · 27/12/2024 16:47

My mother with her hurt little sad face about the fact that we don't all do Christmas her way and with her being the centre of attention the whole time. Add to that her competitive under-eating but still managing to polish off a whole bottle of wine in an afternoon and getting all emotional.

And breathe...

HellofromJohnCraven · 27/12/2024 16:49

Dementia was the biggest dick this year, probably the last Xmas whilst my Mum has some semblance of what is going on.
In second place is my sister who never visits her, rarely calls and declared herself and her husband too tired to drive 2 hours to share said likely last Christmas.

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:51

BuzzYourGirlfriendWoof · 27/12/2024 16:42

My mum. Has been a totally uncompromising dick about how we do Christmas our whole lives (e.g. I wasn’t ever allowed out on Christmas Eve…the one year (aged 25) I popped out to my now-DH’s house to see him for 2 hours she made me feel terrible and gave me the silent treatment); anyway, this year, she divorced my dad, has got a new boyfriend and dropped us all. So sad.

That is sad I'm sorry 😕 perhap, a bit of space is no bad thing.

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:51

FrogOnAYuleLog · 27/12/2024 16:42

Well family member has just arrived to stay for a few days and announced they and someone they were with on Xmas day were both puking their guts up all day yesterday. So that’s fun.

Good grief!

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:52

MuddlingThroughLife · 27/12/2024 16:37

DH and his man flu 🙄

He must have caught it from my BIL!!😂

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barbarahunter · 27/12/2024 16:52

partner whinging and whining about stupid small stuff with a face like a smacked arse.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 27/12/2024 16:52

My mum.

And I know this is going to make me sound like an ungrateful brat.

But she always fills our stockings with complete tat so a few years ago we agreed that we'd stop doing stockings. I even kept mine and my husband's stocking at my house.

For some reason, this year she decided to buy us all new stockings. And fill them with complete tat!

Most of it is going straight to the charity shop!

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:53

LouH1981 · 27/12/2024 16:45

My MIL. Fed up with the way she treats my lovely husband. She makes everything about her and she shows zero interest in him or anything he says.

I hope going forward he can be with people who actually like him... I'm sorry

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mrschocolatte · 27/12/2024 16:54

My MIL. The very definition of a fun sponge. My Mum sent her a Christmas card like she does every year and MIL made a point telling me she wasn’t able to send one back because she can’t write any cards herself. This is true because she has physical disabilities. However in her next breath she asked DH to get out a box of cards in the side board and write one for the neighbour 2 doors down as she had popped one through the letterbox earlier. As you might guess I really don’t like her very much.

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:54

VodkaCola · 27/12/2024 16:47

My mother with her hurt little sad face about the fact that we don't all do Christmas her way and with her being the centre of attention the whole time. Add to that her competitive under-eating but still managing to polish off a whole bottle of wine in an afternoon and getting all emotional.

And breathe...

... wow. It's a wonder how people go this far honestly

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:56

HellofromJohnCraven · 27/12/2024 16:49

Dementia was the biggest dick this year, probably the last Xmas whilst my Mum has some semblance of what is going on.
In second place is my sister who never visits her, rarely calls and declared herself and her husband too tired to drive 2 hours to share said likely last Christmas.

Oh love, I'm so sorry. Your sister is selfish and/or clearly can't face the reality. How lovely of you to be with your mum again this Christmas 💐

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:56

barbarahunter · 27/12/2024 16:52

partner whinging and whining about stupid small stuff with a face like a smacked arse.

Ugh!

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:57

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 27/12/2024 16:52

My mum.

And I know this is going to make me sound like an ungrateful brat.

But she always fills our stockings with complete tat so a few years ago we agreed that we'd stop doing stockings. I even kept mine and my husband's stocking at my house.

For some reason, this year she decided to buy us all new stockings. And fill them with complete tat!

Most of it is going straight to the charity shop!

Eee people are strange sometimes aren't they... well, let's hope someone in the charity shop likes them!

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Fedupfrankly · 27/12/2024 16:58

mrschocolatte · 27/12/2024 16:54

My MIL. The very definition of a fun sponge. My Mum sent her a Christmas card like she does every year and MIL made a point telling me she wasn’t able to send one back because she can’t write any cards herself. This is true because she has physical disabilities. However in her next breath she asked DH to get out a box of cards in the side board and write one for the neighbour 2 doors down as she had popped one through the letterbox earlier. As you might guess I really don’t like her very much.

What a joy... hmmm... I don't think your mum will be too sad without a card back!

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Redrosesposies · 27/12/2024 16:59

My husband and my Dad as always. My husband has turned into my Dad.
My in-laws are both dead so that's something.☹️

Garlicwest · 27/12/2024 17:00

Me 😂 I pissed myself off by getting more drunk than I meant to get, being loud and a bit annoying, and overpaying for things because I felt bad about being annoying!

'Twas a good Christmas, though. I'm being punished by a well-deserved hangover.

LouH1981 · 27/12/2024 17:02

HellofromJohnCraven · 27/12/2024 16:49

Dementia was the biggest dick this year, probably the last Xmas whilst my Mum has some semblance of what is going on.
In second place is my sister who never visits her, rarely calls and declared herself and her husband too tired to drive 2 hours to share said likely last Christmas.

I’ve been there and I get it.
I was the one of two siblings who made the effort and bothered with my Dad. He passed away when he was 69 after 10 years with early onset Alzheimer’s.

I also remember the first of four Christmas’ when my Dad was in a care home. He couldn’t really communicate and was deep in the throes of the disease. It is cruel and heartbreaking but I also went by the idea that I didn’t know for definite how much he understood so I would continue to make as much effort as I could each Christmas/ Birthday or visit actually because if there were any moments of lucidity then he would appreciate it.
At least you know you have given her a lovely Christmas and you have made memories for you xx
Please also don’t forget Alzheimers patients often remember music so you can play Christmas music for her and she may also recognise familiar Christmas smells xx
It’s so wonderful that she has you by her side. Sending lots of love - I know how tough it is xxx

NoBodyIdRatherBe · 27/12/2024 17:03

MIL is obsessed with cooking/what we eat. From the literal moment we arrived on holiday it has dictated every move we all make. She has told what we can and can’t eat, she has been going on about how tiny she is and how it’s hard to buy clothes so small! She is now cooking food for everyone, which she will do for every meal with no consideration for what others want to eat what time suits people or that we just don’t want our whole holiday to be talking about, buying and prepping food. It’s suffocating. We’re never on time for anything because of the food prep. We are also not allowed to drink alcohol or eat anything unhealthy without a lecture. I’m currently secretly drinking cocktails and trying to pass it off as juice and I have chocolate hidden in my coat.

NewYearNewDietAgain · 27/12/2024 17:03

DSS. Spent the day with a face like a slapped ass. When he did speak (rarely) it was to have a go/bitch/whine. Still, it's better than when he's usually here for dinner and continually picks fights with/has a go at his siblings. They're all adults. 🙄