To ask who pissed you off this Christmas?

[Fedupfrankly]

My BIL has just left and was such a grumpy sod for the whole time he was here. 🙄 I wanted to shake him but DH told me to just leave it, it's just what he's like... and don't I know that's true!!

What about you? Who got on your nerves?

We have the same MIL!

In laws , they just take over everything all the time. They are too much for me as an introvert. Also Dh for being a grumpy pain in the ass Christmas night. Also dsis who is a selfish little b**ch , has my dm running round after her. Wanted dm to get her and her bf (who seems to have moved into her bedroom for xmas) vapes and bottles of coke yesterday while dm & I were out at the shops...there are cans upon cans of coke in the house but no - they wanted bottles!!! Also ordering takeaway every night as though they are millionaires. And the two of them smoking cannabis out the window of the bathroom. Can't believe dm allows this.

This is a terrible idea. Please don't do this. Especially the ganging up aspect. Just send something from yourself if you want to. What you have suggested is truly awful. Please reconsider.

The annoying relitive who started in on me for giving my husbands 24 yesr old STEPson (his decessed wifes kid) 6 months to move out. Hes broken just about every house rule, pays nothing, eats everyones food ( that they saved) and leaves garbage in his room ( so now we have mice. Hes done this multiple times). Hes got a job and no ambition

He sounds really annoying- but am I right in thinking that your husband is the only family he has, since his mother has died? If that's the case the emphasis on STEP seems harsh.

The 6 months to move out etc is more than generous for a grown man who is behaving this badly, though!

SIL and her snipey comments, she just can't help herself and it drives me nuts.

Step dad, gave my sister a lovely ‘like a daughter’ card with handwritten lovely words inside and I didn’t get anything at all. It’s completely his choice of course but it stung, and made me feel pushed out of their little group with mum. I miss my dad so much.

Nobody - I had a great Christmas. Sorry!

That’s awful.

And sorry but it is also awful of your mom to say nothing. Why does he distinguish between you and your sister like that?

Brother and by default SIL - backstory that I CBA to try and explain as it’s so vague I'm
umsure myself what their problem is. They’ve isolated themselves from many.

DM for the last hour of visit only - talked and talked about someone who all of us have disapproved of but she does not listen. Never asked my kids anything….didn’t seem to notice when my DD became upset over something during that last hour and just kept on and on…..I didn’t say anything in front of kids. Drove home with that lingering and ranted to DH about it who also agreed and has a little rant. I’m waiting to say something about this person at the right time.

I will report back...

Actually seeing your post reminded me we did have a lovely lazy Christmas on Xmas Eve/Day and Boxing Day just me DH and kids. We have hosted some friends yesterday and more due tomorrow

Everyone! 😂

My stepfather and his mum, he was the most miserable, many idiot as always and she had to make everything about her and every conversation about her, even the ones she wasn’t involved in,

I don’t think she noticed, it was busy with children’s gifts and playing games etc. I didn’t want to draw attention to it, as any repair would feel false. Unless he actually mislaid mine but it’s been days now and still no mention.

My MiL who sat and did not help in any way as I ran around for 3 days feeding, tidying, planning activities etc. to be fair she has some mobility issues so I understand that there were some things she couldn't do, although there were some she could have (peeled veg for example). But what really pissed me off was that she would guilt trip DH into amusing her constantly as she would say she was bored or feeling left out, so that meant I never had DH's help with the domestic chores as he was always having a cup of tea or GnT with his mother while I beavered away in the kitchen like Cinderella.

Bereavement. It was the first Christmas without my DM. Rest of the family were wonderful, but I missed DM a lot.

I can’t bear it when people are incapable of basic maths. The number of items there are divided by how many people there are is a number you should not take more than.

This is up to your DH as well.

Never. Allowed. At. Yours. Again.

SIL...... I usually host xmas for about 8 family members. For many years. SIL has never so much as contributed a Brussels sprout. But she sits and dictates to my brother what he can eat. Not allowed an extra roast potato or seconds of pudding. I usually tell her to shut up and mind her own business. She has various illnesses but they seem selective, eg she claims she can't manage to eat much but always eats full 3 courses at mine every year. However, this year I said I wasn't hosting abd suggested we all go out for dinner on xmas eve. Everyone agreed. So, a week before xmas she called to say she hoped I wouldn't be embarrassed at her being unable to eat much !! I said I couldn't give a flying f*ck what she eats. So she called my sister and said the same. My sister gave her the same response. So.... she called the restaurant and checked it would be OK for her to have small portions!!!! Got to make everything about her. And it's all fake. She had a face like an arse the whole evening because nobody was paying any attention to her. My niece, her daughter, told her on at least 3 occasions to shut up and just don't eat the food if she didn't want it. It's because of her crap like this that I couldn't face hosting this year. And believe me this behaviour only scratches the surface. Hateful miserable woman. We're thinking of going abroad next year !!! Just me and hubby !!! Had enough!!! However, it was just the 2 of us on xmas day. We visited my son, DIL, and GC in the morning then home for a lovely day and boxing day.

Oh I have a list

Ds s girlfriend who has been staying for ages and messes everything up. When they get their own place he ll see how messy she is (cos I clean our kitchen every fucking day multiple times).
Ds for not telling her to go home.

Dm for not seeing I m on the edge of screaming and it's not all lovely spending Christmas together when I m still very tired from the flu.

Df for dying a few years ago (I know this is unreasonable) because I really need him today. We "got" each other and he was always on my side. Nobody who shares my car interest now.

The police for allocating dd Christmas day shift this year. I know she does an important job but I really missed her.

And yes I m unreasonable and will be very much capable 50 something "Miss" next week when school goes back but right now I want to cry like a teenager 😢

Oh and how can I have forgotten? Alcoholic ex partner knocking on our door 1 30 am Christmas day after pubs shut.

Didn't answer.

I have a list.
ex-husband for taking child on the 22nd basically did absolutely nothing with him but meant that I couldn’t do anything with him either. We are trying to enjoy the gap between Christmas and New Year, but it really isn’t the same.
Next year we’re going on holiday together from the 10th till the middle of January