To ask who pissed you off this Christmas?

[Fedupfrankly]

My BIL has just left and was such a grumpy sod for the whole time he was here. 🙄 I wanted to shake him but DH told me to just leave it, it's just what he's like... and don't I know that's true!!

What about you? Who got on your nerves?

My best friend who hasn't replied to any messages in over a week!

My mother. Stayed for the best part of a week, treated the house like a hotel. Barely spoke to the kids. Only left the sofa to sprint to the table when food was served. Spent most of the time on her iPad, and if she was talking, she was complaining (which meant that after the first 24 hours we all tried very hard not to talk to her). Asked me yet again, in a shocked voice, if I really don't drink alcohol when I've been teetotal for nearly a decade. Never offered to help with anything. Told me all about the new stuff she's bought for herself recently and gave me an Xmas present so crap I'm embarrassed to say what it was.

Someone else can have her in future.

My DN.

My plentiful Boxing Day buffet table included a plate of duck spring rolls with a hoisin dip.

Everyone was saying - "oooh I really like those!" There were 12 on the plate, enough for one each or maybe 2 as a few vegetarians were there. Tons and tons of other foods to choose from including vegetable spring rolls.

DN took 6 duck and 4 vegetarian.

He then had the audacity to complain there were none left when he went back for seconds.

In addition to this he also took about 10 of my DDs delicious home made sesame and red onion sausage rolls leaving a paltry few for everyone else. This was before anyone else had a chance to take a few ( he was predictably the first in the queue...) Before anyone says, he is NT and has no allergies.
Oh and he is 21 so should have developed a few bloody manners by now! 😡

Sorry a junior version of my brother visited your house. No doubt he left random glasses and bottles stuck in the corner rather than walking a few inches away to the dishwasher.

Until meeting DH this year I've had Christmas on my own and loves it! And don't get me wrong, my DH made this year very special. I can deal with pouting BIL cause if it really started to change the day I'd say pack up were taking you home, clearly being here makes you unhappy. I do not have time for some of the people described on this thread! 🫠

Exactly the same story for me except I got called 'what's your name again'. DH can do presents next year I'm done to be honest cba anymore.

@purplecorkheart

You haven't let her keep it? Contact her and get it back!

😧 and did she take it?

Absolutely nothing and no-one. It has been a smooth and peaceful season 🙏🏾.

She's clearly not mentally well, so perhaps compassion might be the way forward?

She would have but tbh for the first time in my life I stood up for myself.

MIL announced she would be staying for two fucking weeks (DH feels guilty because we live far away). Predictably this is turning out to be at least ten days too long. She is dull as ditchwater, doesn’t want to do anything, calls me the wrong name and today is wearing some horrible perfume that is setting my asthma off. One week to go…

FIL. Suffering from a 'depressive episode' so didnt speak from Christmas day to Boxing Day (which in turn triggered dh as it reminded him of so many of his child hood Christmases). Miraculously he recovered enough to take himself off to the football on Boxing Day evening and now posting on the family watsapp as if nothing has happened.

BIL - he has mental health issues but doesn’t wash, and always wears the same clothes. We told him under no circumstances come into our house with his filthy shoes. So what did he do? Exactly that. My OH had a right go at him, thankfully no damage done but still the thought of what was on the bottom of his shoes makes me feel urgh 🤢 he also bought us a load of tat wrapped in smelly plastic bags - don’t want to sound ungrateful but it will be going to the charity shop in the next few days. Everything smells musty and dank. He’s also been awful to my poor SIL over the past few months and we are at our wits end with it all.

My brother. But it's annual event tbh.

My worst nightmare. So fucking selfish of people to do this.

Hope you are okay.

No one, which makes a delightful change! I very likely have pissed off a few people by refusing to be a doormat this year, and I had the best Christmas I’ve had in years. Worth it :)

Hmm. All of the people who failed to keep all of the children out of the kitchen as requested.

Father in law - arrived to stay and immediately started hoovering with a vacuum he’d brought with him!

Way to make it clear that my housekeeping is not up to scratch while I’m running around with two small kids having cleaned the house from top to bottom, bought every bloody present because DH is useless, working full time until Christmas Eve and cooking for a crowd feeling crap with cramps and a cold.

I nearly cried - I’m doing my bloody best!

@Crazycatlady79 I know that rationally and reassured my mother as well as I could, by saying as much.

However, I'm still allowed to be quietly upset on my mother's behalf: so many in their little village of their age have died that she doesn't have many friends left and although she is mainly just upset and concerned for her friend, I know she feels hurt and rejected.

Having grown up with serious mental illness in the family none of us are uneducated or unaware on the subject. However, the wording felt unnecessarily hurtful, and the timing spiteful.

We went to my sister and brother in law's and had to listen to my dad and sisters mother in law competing as to who had the worst back pain!! I'm not joking, they were arguing for an hour and then they started on who was on the most medication 🙄 Both are in their eighties!

Everyone got on my nerves. Aunt Flo was due right on schedule for Christmas 😭🙈

MIL. Despite asking her to tone down presents for the kids this year she came with two huge sacks, more than what Santa gave them. DH made a face which she saw, BIL muttered as he brought the presents in that it was far too much, I must have had a panicked look on my face and she tinkled and said "oh I love spoiling the boys" (for context one is just turned 3 still doesn't fully understand Christmas and other 6 is severely autistic and disabilities will literally eat wrapping paper so doesn't really get or understand toys). Feeling brave because of both of her son's negative reactions which she had just laughed off, I then laughed and said in a cheery tone, "oh my goodness, that's more than what Santa gave them!"

Her face changed, she sulked, stormed out the house, sat outside smoking for ages before DH persuaded her back inside, she then sat in a chair wouldn't look at or speak to me and eventually DH said to me you'd better apologise so I did, said I was joking she then cried and said "it didn't feel like a joke I was on a high when I came in you've now made me low and ruined Christmas for me. I've never felt so upset and hurt." Then she lied to me and said "I saw you rolling your eyes". I spluttered (I hate being accused of something I didn't do and I'd already said sorry for what I DID say) and I said "I didn't roll me eyes" and she shouted "I know what I saw!!!! "

After that the whole day was just awkward and shite.

BIL and his partner and their new puppy - totally disregarded the compromise we had reached about them wanting to bring it to ILs and DH and my allergies. Let it run around the table at Christmas lunch and carried bags of dog shit through the kitchen where we were eating.

Northern rail, transport for Wales and cross country railways.

I'm getting home much later than anticipated. I fucking hate trains.