To just … not have toys?

[giveupontoys]

Obviously we’ll have to have some, but my DS(4) just doesn’t seem to play with them.

Christmas presents included a toy ice cream van and he just gets everything out and then it ends up discarded and thrown everywhere, so bits get lost and it’s unusable. This is the same as everything we get.

He has a few toy trucks / cars type things but doesn’t really seem to play with them.

I know people will say not to let him or to discipline him but he just ignores us … doesn’t solve anything.

I don’t know what to do really. It kind of seems pointless having toys if they end up unusable but on the other hand he has to have some things.

My son is 24 now and had Aspergers. He was as young as described @giveupontoys

By aged 3, he had various collections of toys (ie. the wooden Thomas the Tank stuff with track) but he’d line them all up and not “play” with them. If we tried to play with him in creating a scene where Thomas and James “crash” or go too fast etc, he’d be upset and leave the “game”.

Don’t be daft! I blooming well hated it! Always fell asleep within a few minutes because it was so brain achingly dull that I just switched off! Mine went to nursery so that trained professionals could do it instead. You know what I liked doing at 4? Reading encyclopaedias. You know what I love doing now? Reading a really really complex legal agreement, identifying all the potential issues and then improving it. I have NEVER liked ‘imaginative play’. My child does, despite being ND. It’s just not something I can do, hence
employing other people to do it with her when she was too young for play dates. Play dates are great, I provide food and let them just get on with it. Luckily she mostly enjoys physical things like sport, or board games, or, if she’s going to read, she likes to read fact based books and we can discuss them. What you describe doing sounds like my idea of absolute hell.

My last comment was in response
to to the batshit comment by Growlybear, quoted here